I've already fucked this girl, couples years back, in a same day meet and pull (had the LR up, not gonna search for it though because nobody gives a fuck anyway, me included).
Back then she actually had a BF and never had had a one night stand before (never had one since she said).
Now she's actually single, on the rebound, going through a tough time and here I am traveling to her city, with even better game... Sounds like a damn sure fire potshot right?
Well, in my face maybe.
We decide to meet for a wine at my place.
First close to a major metro station as I arrive in the city from the airport and then "we ride together", I write.
But the first time I wrote he rI mix up the days of my arrival so we meet the day after.
And I agree to go out because, why not, she's proposing me to show some local places and a local guide would be nice and useful and... Hey, we can have some fun together before coming back.
I'm aware of the risk but feel like it's likely happening anyway and the pros outweigh the cons.
THE DATE
She's in overdrive, saying to be sleeping maybe 10 hours in the whole last week as she runs her own biz since the last few months.
The "date" is good anyway though, she invites me out with her and her friend on Saturday, I'm non committal but I'm joking about me helping her find a new guy.. Or a new girl for fun and I'll join the two of them.
It's edging towards very good towards the end: indeed I'm a it surprised she mentions she'd be ok with being a single mom and... How amazing it would be to have a mixed child (notice: i'm white, she's asian, a bit of a coincidence to be purely random no?).
I interrupt her to share my last sip of beer while she was starting to say "how great it is to talk with me.. ".
I should have let her finish that sentence and then said likewise, but hey, we're moving anyway, so..
She pays too.
While we talk though a customer of hers calls her and tells her she needs to re-do the design -her biz is in interior design-.
That should have been a warning sign after knowing how stressed and work-consumed she is.
But I manage to pull her home anyway, with her saying "only until midnight, then a friend will pick her up" and it's like 11:30.
In my head I'm like "lol, yeah, sure...".
BACK AT HOME
She really wants to also pay the taxi, but I take it as it's my place -and we're very close anyway so it's cheap-.
Well, joke's on me: I don't waste any single minute but she's refusing my initial escalation. But I feel she's also enjoying it at the same time.
I rarely back off because she keeps repeating about the time -she can't take her mind off of work- and I'm worried about having to move as quickly as possible. Which might have been a mistake from my side as some breathing stops would have been useful not to make her feel under attack -but not sure it would have changed anything-.
And about the time, yeah... Well, she really meant it, and around midnight calls her friend to pick her up and leaves.
Given our past history and her current situation I couldn't fucking believe she was really going and there was gonna be no sex.
Really left me scratching my head -and, between us, almost spraying my wrist by angrily punching the pillow lol
-.
I go out slightly after her and she's waiting for her friend.
Notice: the fact she left before the friend arrived made me come to the conclusion my no-pause escalation was way too aggressive.
We talk a bit and I slightly try to re-escalate, but she's nervous about work and chatting with her customer -or so she says- and there's no way in pulling her back again.
Been getting laid recently (I prefer writing LR about lessons learned rather than easy, nothing to say lays), but it always stings to lose what you were already tasting as an easy shot.
LESSONS LEARNED:
1. BACK OFF DURING SPURNED ADVANCES
Next time I'll back off a bit during escalation if I keep being spurned as that accelerated her departure, not really sure it would have changed much thought but it might have helped our cause;
2. BUILD SEXUAL MOMENTUM BEFORE GOING HOME
If real time constraints: build some momentum before coming back.
For example I could have let her sit beside me and start touching her thigh. Not needed if no time constraints, but would have been helpful to get her all hot on the way back;
3. STICK TO YOUR PLACE
And most of all, if your top prio is getting laid... Never freaking go out if you know you can have her over, there's a thousand things which can go wrong -I'm sure starting at might place with a couple more hours together alone chances are high, very high that we would have done it-.
I'm really curious what's gonna happen now and if I'll see her again: if she writes to meet on Saturday, then the escalation was not the problem.
Back then she actually had a BF and never had had a one night stand before (never had one since she said).
Now she's actually single, on the rebound, going through a tough time and here I am traveling to her city, with even better game... Sounds like a damn sure fire potshot right?
Well, in my face maybe.
We decide to meet for a wine at my place.
First close to a major metro station as I arrive in the city from the airport and then "we ride together", I write.
But the first time I wrote he rI mix up the days of my arrival so we meet the day after.
And I agree to go out because, why not, she's proposing me to show some local places and a local guide would be nice and useful and... Hey, we can have some fun together before coming back.
I'm aware of the risk but feel like it's likely happening anyway and the pros outweigh the cons.
THE DATE
She's in overdrive, saying to be sleeping maybe 10 hours in the whole last week as she runs her own biz since the last few months.
The "date" is good anyway though, she invites me out with her and her friend on Saturday, I'm non committal but I'm joking about me helping her find a new guy.. Or a new girl for fun and I'll join the two of them.
It's edging towards very good towards the end: indeed I'm a it surprised she mentions she'd be ok with being a single mom and... How amazing it would be to have a mixed child (notice: i'm white, she's asian, a bit of a coincidence to be purely random no?).
I interrupt her to share my last sip of beer while she was starting to say "how great it is to talk with me.. ".
I should have let her finish that sentence and then said likewise, but hey, we're moving anyway, so..
She pays too.
While we talk though a customer of hers calls her and tells her she needs to re-do the design -her biz is in interior design-.
That should have been a warning sign after knowing how stressed and work-consumed she is.
But I manage to pull her home anyway, with her saying "only until midnight, then a friend will pick her up" and it's like 11:30.
In my head I'm like "lol, yeah, sure...".
BACK AT HOME
She really wants to also pay the taxi, but I take it as it's my place -and we're very close anyway so it's cheap-.
Well, joke's on me: I don't waste any single minute but she's refusing my initial escalation. But I feel she's also enjoying it at the same time.
I rarely back off because she keeps repeating about the time -she can't take her mind off of work- and I'm worried about having to move as quickly as possible. Which might have been a mistake from my side as some breathing stops would have been useful not to make her feel under attack -but not sure it would have changed anything-.
And about the time, yeah... Well, she really meant it, and around midnight calls her friend to pick her up and leaves.
Given our past history and her current situation I couldn't fucking believe she was really going and there was gonna be no sex.
Really left me scratching my head -and, between us, almost spraying my wrist by angrily punching the pillow lol
-.I go out slightly after her and she's waiting for her friend.
Notice: the fact she left before the friend arrived made me come to the conclusion my no-pause escalation was way too aggressive.
We talk a bit and I slightly try to re-escalate, but she's nervous about work and chatting with her customer -or so she says- and there's no way in pulling her back again.
Been getting laid recently (I prefer writing LR about lessons learned rather than easy, nothing to say lays), but it always stings to lose what you were already tasting as an easy shot.
LESSONS LEARNED:
1. BACK OFF DURING SPURNED ADVANCES
Next time I'll back off a bit during escalation if I keep being spurned as that accelerated her departure, not really sure it would have changed much thought but it might have helped our cause;
2. BUILD SEXUAL MOMENTUM BEFORE GOING HOME
If real time constraints: build some momentum before coming back.
For example I could have let her sit beside me and start touching her thigh. Not needed if no time constraints, but would have been helpful to get her all hot on the way back;
3. STICK TO YOUR PLACE
And most of all, if your top prio is getting laid... Never freaking go out if you know you can have her over, there's a thousand things which can go wrong -I'm sure starting at might place with a couple more hours together alone chances are high, very high that we would have done it-.
I'm really curious what's gonna happen now and if I'll see her again: if she writes to meet on Saturday, then the escalation was not the problem.
