Socializing Hypnotizing Speech

[Anonymous]

Hey guys,

This isn't exactly a post about game, but I think this is still a good forum to ask this question because I think this sort of thing has been covered to an extent on this site. My goal right now is not improving my game, but improving the way I speak. What I mean is, there are certain individuals who have an ability to convince you of something simply because of how they say it to you, and it has little to do with what they are actually saying. Their pitch is low, they speak really slowly and capitalize on the pregnant pause, often have 100% confidence (or at least sound like they do) in whatever they are saying, etc. But although I know these few tips, I feel like there is something more that I am missing here. So I suppose my two questions are:

1. How can I obtain this level of speech, where I can say things that makes the people who I'm speaking with want to agree with me, where I can leave them clinging to each word and wishing for more? I have only known a few people with this skill, but I know it exists and I want to master it.

2. Although I know some of the basic tips, I often forget to apply them in regular speech - like when I am focusing on them I can work on them, but usually during my day I simply forget to focus on them at all. I know eventually with enough practice things become natural, but until that time, how would you advise me to constantly remember to focus on it, in every conversation I have?

Thanks!

 

[Franco]

Hi kallisti,

There's not too much you can do here other than try to always be "consciously aware" of how you are talking people and correcting yourself every time you tend to stray from the voice you are aiming for.

Here's one way to troubleshoot your efforts though: How are you talking to your friends currently? Are you practicing your "hypnotic speech" on them? If you aren't, you probably should be. Here's why:

For each given day, how often do you think you are talking to strangers? Maybe less than 10% (or even 5%) of your day, right? And how much of your day do you spend talking to your friends or family? Probably about 90-95% of the day, right?

That's a lot of extra practice that you could be getting if you aren't! Your friends and family know your usual tone, so they might be confused at first or ask you what you are doing. Just be non-chalant and say, "I'm just practicing different voices... you know... for fun." Then throw in a *wink* and change the subject.

The key is to expose yourself as much as possible every day. Check out this article by Chase on How to Master Anything for more help. Specifically, this quote provides some good insight:

If you practice 1,000 free throws in basketball over the course of 2 weeks, will you be better at free throws than a guy who's performed 1,000 free throws over the course of 30 years?

Of course. You're letting your brain analyze your movements and success rates in succession over a period of time where it's close enough that you have repeated data points the brain can analyze and make connections over. That guy who did the same number of free throws over 30 years is probably only marginally better now than he was 30 years ago, because there's too much time between each data point and too much variation (his strength, weight, stamina changing as he ages) to get clean data.

Your brain is a pattern-recognition engine that forms patterns and learns on autopilot, if you provide it with the right data in the right circumstances.

Hope this helps!

- Franco

 

[Chase]

Hi kallisti,

My goal right now is not improving my game, but improving the way I speak. What I mean is, there are certain individuals who have an ability to convince you of something simply because of how they say it to you, and it has little to do with what they are actually saying. Their pitch is low, they speak really slowly and capitalize on the pregnant pause, often have 100% confidence (or at least sound like they do) in whatever they are saying, etc. But although I know these few tips, I feel like there is something more that I am missing here.

Hmm. This is an extremely powerful voice tool, but I've never stopped and broken down how it works or what specifically you do.

I'd say, when I'm focused on "hypnotizing" someone with my voice, the process goes like this:

• Strong eye contact, but DREAMY eye contact... your lids are somewhat lowered
• Lean in; the person needs to know that you are intensely interested; it's all about making her feel comfortable
• Purr and resonance are very important here
• Volume is very important - you're speaking in little more than a whisper
• The way you speak needs to be very calming, relaxing, and warm... your words need to melt away as you speak them, almost as if you are falling off into sleep
• Lots of pauses: "You look into my eyes, and you feel... [pause] ... at peace. The things that were bothering you now no longer bother you; the things in your head have all fallen away."
• Lots of colorful, descriptive talk, but focused on "things happening" rather than action verbs, active tense, or commands: you feel this, this happens, you realize this, etc.
• Strong emphasis on the power words: feel, realize, notice, drifts, falls, accept

Essentially, you're putting someone into a very passive state where they feel like they are slowly drifting off into sleep. You can use this in normal / non-hypnotic / non-NLP conversation as well; e.g., even just a question like, "And... how did you feel... when that happened?" or, in response to her talking about something she thinks she can't do: "Why can't you?"

I don't know if that helps, still might be kind of vague, but hopefully that elucidates some of the finer grain details. On actually remembering to use it, it's like anything else: practice. Although, this one is one that you can practice on your own - you can practice talking hypnotically wherever you are. So, practice first, use second.

Chase

 

[Just_Dave]

I would watch movies with actors Brad Pitt, Will Smith, and Sean Connery. The idea is to watch and repeat, and control your voice like Chase and Franco already mentioned. I would look at musicians, they're known for making their audiences melt by using their voice ranges.