I always look angry. Hard to be a warm person.

[GeneralFap]

I read the article on how to be a warm person and read about how important it is to have a relaxed face so you seem approachable/friendly. However, when I try relaxing my face I still notice that I have a downturn smile and eyebrows that make me look angry. I've been trying to change this for about a month now but my face continually reverts back to an angry look. This is a problem because every time I look at girls (or even at men) they look away scared. I'm not even a big guy but when people look at me they probably think I'm a psycho killer looking for his next victim. It gets even worse during the afternoon because my eyes are sensitive to sunlight and I have to tense my face up to be able to cope with the brightness.

 

[Whizzy]

How is your mood when you find yourself noticing the downturn smile? I used to feel similarly, and sometimes still do but mainly when something is troubling me. Anywho, instead of training a relaxed face mastering a slight smile would be more useful for you. When I say slight, I mean barely noticeable but enough so that the downturn smile becomes a slight smirk. Try smiling in the mirror and then making a downturn smile in the mirror, which makes you feel better? I can almost guarantee that the first one does and this mindset can become an aura used to portray warmth in a person.

 

[Drck]

It may be your emotions, for example when you are angry your face reflects - well, anger.

So learn to relax and meditate, you want to be in slightly positive mood. Perhaps you want to smile, just little bit to show positivity. Maybe you are too serious, learn to take things 'lightly'. Try to be more open minded and less critical, less judging. Once you can control your emotions, they will be reflected in your face and overall body language.

Also, you want to look into people's eyes, not stare. Look with light/gentle smile into other's eyes (especially girls eyes) as if you wanted to say "Hey, I'm great and confident guy. You look cute, silly and sexy, let's have some fun". Don't stare into other's eyes thinking "I'll beat the s*it out of everybody who dares to step in my way. Let's fight!"

 

[Thedoctor]

Charm,

I've had people tell me that my "neutral" face looks a little angry, so I'm in a similar situation. There are some girls that like "rougher" looking guys so this can work to your benefit. Think Clint Eastwood or Jason Statham. Like many things, some girls are into this, some are not.

Working on your facial expressions, as mentioned above, can certainly help make you seem less angry.

Also, If you're looking to soften your image, you can do a lot by: wearing glasses, shaving off the facial hair (if you have some) or changing up your hair style (a good stylist should be able to help you on that one). Those are just a few ideas.

-John