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So, I have been getting after this lately. Recently I have been practicing eye contact, starting conversations with regular people, working on my posture, saying Hi, working out at the gym, wearing smaller shirts yada yada the list goes on. I think my current job has helped my social skills tremendously I talk a whole lot at work, everybody there is 20+ years older than me I am 26, but I talk alot to everbody and try to look them in the eye when I can.
I have been going to college at night and at first I was feeling let down thinking where the hell are the girls at?? but I opened my eyes and there are girls I just didn't look hard enough haha. I started by talking to my classmate that sits next to me she is not hot but I talk about class with her just get my social skills up and she is nice to me. The first thing I told her was "How you doing?" with a smile and there you go thats it not hard at all, she talked to me. She would have never had said a word to me if I didn't say anything haha, but I did. In the past I have never talked in class, high school, elementary, never, I would love to keep my mouth shut literally.
I went to the tutoring lab tonight and there was a hot latina (she was a tutor) that blew me away haha I said I will talk to her introduce myself later because I had a test that I was worried about and I prefered my old tutor, dumb I know haha. but my eraser on my pencil fell off and I got up to look around for one and she asked me if I need help haha here is how it went:
Her: Can I help you?
Me: I need an eraser
her: I don't think I have one.
Me: Ok, do you have another pencil?
Her: sure, here you go...
Me: Thank you, hey whats your name?
Her: <Name>
Shook her hand, but I swear I cant remember If I told her my name haha
Me: I just never seen you before,"she liked meeting me, she didn't question why I was asking for her name erghh"
Her: Oh im around I tutor tuesdays and thursdays
Me: oh really, ok well thanks for the pencil
her: your welcome
So later she gets up to go to the restroom and I actually get up to meet my mom she works at my college. I see her in the hallway and I approach her and say something stupid, but I dont think she cared.
Eye contact on, posture up
Me: Hey <Name>, did I tell you my name? I don't think I did I was being serious haha
Her: Yeah you did haha,Its Ocantu......right? haha
She extends her hand out first,smiles, and I hold her hand for 5 seconds while we were walking, sweet!
Me:Good guess!
Her: I got it? haha
Me:So you leaving already?
Her: yeah, I leave at 5
Her: when do you come to lab?
Me:Tuesdays and thursdays
Me: well, ok <Name> I will see you around
Her:Bye!
I am taking baby steps right now, but here is what I need to work on.
1.More eye contact during conversations I swayed a little too much
2.ask her way more questions
3.repartee
4rapport
5. get phone number on the high note if possible.
I have barely just started, so, I know I could of done more with the conversation.I think I could have gotten her number actually.Overall, I was surprised at the fact that my heart wasn't beating out of my chest like usual I was still a little bit nervous that my memory goes blank, but I am getting better that is for sure. I didn't think nor plan to talk to her today, it just happened. I approached her in the hallway without thinking. She had a smile on her face the whole time and I loved it.
Sadly, my mom told me she has a BF, oh well next girl please! haha
if I can talk to her, then I can talk to another girl. That is what I am feeling now. I got to play the numbers
Please guys let me know what else I can improve on that I didn't mention already. Thanks!
I have been going to college at night and at first I was feeling let down thinking where the hell are the girls at?? but I opened my eyes and there are girls I just didn't look hard enough haha. I started by talking to my classmate that sits next to me she is not hot but I talk about class with her just get my social skills up and she is nice to me. The first thing I told her was "How you doing?" with a smile and there you go thats it not hard at all, she talked to me. She would have never had said a word to me if I didn't say anything haha, but I did. In the past I have never talked in class, high school, elementary, never, I would love to keep my mouth shut literally.
I went to the tutoring lab tonight and there was a hot latina (she was a tutor) that blew me away haha I said I will talk to her introduce myself later because I had a test that I was worried about and I prefered my old tutor, dumb I know haha. but my eraser on my pencil fell off and I got up to look around for one and she asked me if I need help haha here is how it went:
Her: Can I help you?
Me: I need an eraser
her: I don't think I have one.
Me: Ok, do you have another pencil?
Her: sure, here you go...
Me: Thank you, hey whats your name?
Her: <Name>
Shook her hand, but I swear I cant remember If I told her my name haha
Me: I just never seen you before,"she liked meeting me, she didn't question why I was asking for her name erghh"
Her: Oh im around I tutor tuesdays and thursdays
Me: oh really, ok well thanks for the pencil
her: your welcome
So later she gets up to go to the restroom and I actually get up to meet my mom she works at my college. I see her in the hallway and I approach her and say something stupid, but I dont think she cared.
Eye contact on, posture up
Me: Hey <Name>, did I tell you my name? I don't think I did I was being serious haha
Her: Yeah you did haha,Its Ocantu......right? haha
She extends her hand out first,smiles, and I hold her hand for 5 seconds while we were walking, sweet!
Me:Good guess!
Her: I got it? haha
Me:So you leaving already?
Her: yeah, I leave at 5
Her: when do you come to lab?
Me:Tuesdays and thursdays
Me: well, ok <Name> I will see you around
Her:Bye!
I am taking baby steps right now, but here is what I need to work on.
1.More eye contact during conversations I swayed a little too much
2.ask her way more questions
3.repartee
4rapport
5. get phone number on the high note if possible.
I have barely just started, so, I know I could of done more with the conversation.I think I could have gotten her number actually.Overall, I was surprised at the fact that my heart wasn't beating out of my chest like usual I was still a little bit nervous that my memory goes blank, but I am getting better that is for sure. I didn't think nor plan to talk to her today, it just happened. I approached her in the hallway without thinking. She had a smile on her face the whole time and I loved it.
Sadly, my mom told me she has a BF, oh well next girl please! haha
if I can talk to her, then I can talk to another girl. That is what I am feeling now. I got to play the numbers
Please guys let me know what else I can improve on that I didn't mention already. Thanks!