I Am Seeking Questions For My Next Book

[alleniverson]

I think the thing that I have trouble sustaining even in college, and I know many of my friends are the same way, is sustaining a purely sexual relationship with a girl. This seems most difficult when we are in the same social circle. I will consistently hook up with a girl, and then my fraternity will have a mixer with her sorority, or an event along those lines, and I try to hook up with her friend and get cockblocked. This has happened for multiple reasons I believe, the three primary ones being 1) she's jealous of me getting with her friend and 2) her friend won't hook up with me knowing that I hook up with her friend, despite my assurances that we're not monogamous or anything of the sort and 3) the girl i'm hooking up with doesn't want to look like shit because "that guy she's been hooking up with her just went and hooked up with another girl in front of her."

You would think these things would not be as much of a problem as they are at big state school university, but the massive social circles in Greek Life creates these unavoidable problems.

The solutions I see to this are 1) make myself purely viewed as a lover and make it so explicity clear that I'm only in it for sex and have no aspiration of a relationship and 2) be more discreet. I just have troubles because it can be hard to get a girl to hook up with you under that pretense if she's one of the more conservative and southern ones and girls also always tell their friends who they're fucking.

Sustaining purely sexual relationships without problems is something that I'm sure many people trouble with. If you'd be so kind to give your 2 cents on my situation, Drexel, I'd really appreciate it. Thanks.

 

[Zoro]

Pertaining to open relationships, I have a few things I'd like to know more about.

Picking up girls while out and about with the girl you are already seeing. Mainly how to handle the new girls obvious, "what the heck is this" questions.
I already got contact information from a girl while I was out with girl #1, we all were vibing really well and are making plans to hang out very soon.

Another question is escalating with a new girl. With this new girl, the plan I had was to have the three of us hang out, but recently I told girl #1 that we should stop sexual activities (I know I must be crazy) so she can more comfortably pursue another man who she has a very strong connection to. (I'm moving away soon and it felt like the best way to keep harmony in the open relationship dynamic.) If all goes well, the new guy is cool with me banging girl #1, and if not I'm cool with moving on.

Now the plan is that I will hang out with the new girl alone. She will probably have thoughts like, where is girl #1? Were they together? Is he cheating?
And I think saying something like, "Oh its okay! We're in an open relationship!" is not the best way haha

Other questions and topics I'd like to know more about:

-General handling of new people in the dynamic.
-Meeting your lover's other lovers and introducing my lovers to my other lovers. haha
-How many lovers is too many?
-threesome? or keep 'em separated?
-Meeting a girl you really like who's not into the open relationship. (I don't think there is much leeway here, just keeping it casual from the start and letting her go if she's not down, but I'd like to hear your experiences.

Thanks Drexel,

-JW

 

[ray_zorse]

I have two questions.

My first question is: If I have a part-time live-in girlfriend and a long-distance-relationship girlfriend, and my LDR girlfriend comes to town and I want her to stay with me, how can I introduce her to the other girl and have things go well? Both of them kind of know I talk to other girls, but they're likely to be quite jealous, and both consider me their boyfriend, so it may be safer to keep them apart, but I feel it would be good to get some three-way going. I wonder (a) if each girl would become more horny seeing me have sex with the other girl in front of her, (b) if each girl would become more comfortable with the other girl having received sexual attention from her, such as kissing and touching and oral sex, (c) do these kinds of scenarios work better with "throwaway" girls, e.g. pick up some chick in a nightclub for threesome with myself and one of my longer term girls, (d) how to lay the groundwork better to avoid the jealousy and other problems in the future, I did let them both know early that I see other girls but it only seemed to create a lot of anger and resentment on their part, is this because I failed their shit tests and inadvertently let on that I care about their feelings in this regard?

My second question is: How to create master/slave relationships? Is there a particular kind of girl who wants to have her identity destroyed and become one with her master's needs and desires? My idea is to have a girl living with me who will perform basic tasks such as cooking and cleaning and shopping at my direction, but primarily will be my sex slave in that I own her body, so I order her to perform various acts such as, wearing particular clothes, assuming certain positions, masturbating in certain ways for me to watch, and so on. Whilst I'm out, I set her tasks to do for her education and development, such as, researching a particular topic on the Internet or in the library and writing me an essay, or applying for a certain type of job, or enrolling in a particular course or whatever. I mark her work and accord her privileges or punishments depending on how well she does. If I feel she isn't applying herself, or isn't being sufficiently deferential and obedient, I physically punish her by means such as, slapping her, my belt, making her stand in certain places for various time periods, not allowing her to wear clothes, making her hold an enema for a certain time period, making her say things like "I am a slut and I need to be punished. Please punish me for not applying myself to XXX task. I understand it is for my own good." She's not allowed to experience an orgasm or to touch herself without my permission. She is eventually trained to come on my command. She refers to me as master. I regularly pick up other girls and bring them home and fuck them in her presence, giving her orders such as fetching condoms, and so on. I introduce her to any houseguests as my slave, and I allow certain guests to give her a certain subset of commands. I may also order her to do things such as, laser hair removal, having tattoos or piercings etc, but I'm undecided about such matters since I feel it may be irresponsible. Note that I don't do these things in order to be cruel, she agrees to this in advance and I make sure to reward her with regular sex and other privileges, she has a safe word and she is free to leave at any time. I do this to satisfy her need to be dominated in every respect. (Perhaps she has father issues, I noticed girls with father issues LOVE BONDAGE PLAY).

It would be great to have some authoritative information about these things.

Ray

 

[Mr.Rob]

Sex talk 101.

How you initiate sex talk from open to close. How to start. How to bait and build up into increasingly more sexual conversation. All with conversation examples (perhaps even audio recorded examples in deluxe edition).

That's what I would like to see.

Since we've talked I've definitely weaved sex talk in to my interactions and have been successful (and a few not so much). I've taken my focus off seduction and onto business lately so I'm not focusing on it 100% at the moment.

But this is what I would want to buy.

-Rob

 

[Mr.Rob]

All good Drex.

Yeah I think you and Alek would make a great collab team on that.

Definitely would keep my eyes peeled on that.

Keep grindin ;0

 

[Smith]

Hey Drexel,

My question is: Time and effort management on multiple open relationship, and how do you balance that with other projects in your life. I found it hard as it is just seeing one girl and try to fit her on my schedule, and on top of that I also need to have some time going on dates with other girls too. It seems a little too much when I hear people who are seeing 2-3 girls at once, and I wonder how the hell they're doing it without cutting it into their sleep.

Cheers!
Look forward to that book

 

[Bboy100]

The Basics- How do you start, set the right precedent for and maintain open relationships? Also, what is the nature of an open relationship- does it differ from a regular one in any way other than the fact that its open to other sex partners?