Tonight, I got drinks with my best guy friend, who is by all accounts, a pussy-slayer. As usual, I was bemoaning my failures with women and probing him for tips, and he was nonchalantly dodging the questions. Then, he said this:
"You've got to seem like you're just at the edge of their reach at all times."
It finally hit me. My best friend was so... attainable. He just exuded this warmth and familiar charm, it was like people who just met him were old friends. Then, so many questions that have been puzzling me for months started to make sense. I had been wondering things like:
I just reread Chase's article on Attainability Woes, and it really seems like that's just killing me right now. It strikes me that the only woman I've actually forged a relationship with in the three years I've been practicing game was a Yale-educated lawyer and prestigious legal scholar. She was confident enough to not auto-reject me. The problem is, what do I do about it? I had read that article before, and I thought I was doing that stuff already.
I'm an only child, and my personality is just naturally very confident and very dominant.
I have a hard time relating to a lot of women.
I'm 24, and for my age I have done exceedingly well in my career, make great money, and am generally regarded as brilliant by everyone who knows me.
I'm a talented musician and songwriter (not my career).
I'm also pretty decent looking.
I try making it clear that I'm interested, try to be warm, try to touch them and be friendly, but somehow I still can't get my attainability right. Sometimes I'm sure I come off as insincere, but most of the time I am genuinely interested. Believe me, I'm not trying to impress them with wordy or esoteric knowledge, I do my best to seem of average intelligence. I just don't know how to be both dominant and seem "on their level" at the same time.
Any tips?
"You've got to seem like you're just at the edge of their reach at all times."
It finally hit me. My best friend was so... attainable. He just exuded this warmth and familiar charm, it was like people who just met him were old friends. Then, so many questions that have been puzzling me for months started to make sense. I had been wondering things like:
- Why has my success rate with women gone down over the last year, despite me getting better at game
- How does my best friend, who is unemployed, lives with his parents, and has no education or assets get so much pussy?
- Why do I struggle so much with even getting a date, despite making great money, driving a sporty car, being extremely witty and intelligent, cultured, being dominant and getting tons of compliance, etc etc
- Why do I keep getting mysteriously and suddenly rejected by women who seemed really, really into me?
I just reread Chase's article on Attainability Woes, and it really seems like that's just killing me right now. It strikes me that the only woman I've actually forged a relationship with in the three years I've been practicing game was a Yale-educated lawyer and prestigious legal scholar. She was confident enough to not auto-reject me. The problem is, what do I do about it? I had read that article before, and I thought I was doing that stuff already.
I'm an only child, and my personality is just naturally very confident and very dominant.
I have a hard time relating to a lot of women.
I'm 24, and for my age I have done exceedingly well in my career, make great money, and am generally regarded as brilliant by everyone who knows me.
I'm a talented musician and songwriter (not my career).
I'm also pretty decent looking.
I try making it clear that I'm interested, try to be warm, try to touch them and be friendly, but somehow I still can't get my attainability right. Sometimes I'm sure I come off as insincere, but most of the time I am genuinely interested. Believe me, I'm not trying to impress them with wordy or esoteric knowledge, I do my best to seem of average intelligence. I just don't know how to be both dominant and seem "on their level" at the same time.
Any tips?
