Remembering the Logic to the Conversation
Although it's good to not think logically most of the time during game - like say when responding to jokes - a lot of the time it's important to actually remember the logical aspect of things too. Take this girl the other night, who asked me if I'd a lighter. I said I didn't have one and we got talking. A while later she asked me to dance! Now put yourself in this situation; because at this point I replied with "don't you need to have your cigarette?". In this situation most guys would get somewhat carried away with the eventfulness of it all, and completely forget that was actually just about to have a cigarette. Of course the reason me saying that being as an easy way to force her to invest more.
Another time for example two girls approached me, and only one of them seemed to be doing the talking. When the other one finally spoke, instead of just responding to what she said, I came out with "oh she finally speaks". Now most guys would just in some way respond to what she said. In my case after saying "she finally speaks" I turned to her friend and said "I think she's beginning to come out of her shell a bit". A witty remark like this breaks the ice further, and buys you time to think, all while also showing her that she needs to work for your answers. It's especially important to prolong the conversation if you feel you're running out of things to say.
Now I only responded the way I did because my night was going well and I was very comfortable at the time. What I'm interested in, is how can you be become so familiar with certain situations, that certain things become second nature to you, even if you're not feeling to confident. Of course a lot of PUA tactics completely depend on the girl forgetting the logic of your opener. Especially with false time constraints are used... because one moment you're pretending you've to be somewhere, and yet if your opener goes well, you'll be spending your time with the girl.
So it's amazing how easy the girl will forget the logic of a conversation... once you've passed that shit test that's it! You never need to re-sit it in any way. For example, often when I'm asked by girls who I'm with when I'm in a busy bar, I just go with the ole "it's a friend's birthday" or "they're in the smoking area" excuse. But when I'm pulling them out the door half an hour later, I never get a "but wait now, where's your friend? don't you need to let them know...". You see what I mean? They forget the logic of the interaction!
Does any one have any thoughts about what level of confidence or situational awareness it would take to be able to respond such a way? Because the interesting thing, is that if you were sitting down in your own living room with people you know, with no background noise, it would be a lot easier to be aware of the other things that people are doing while they're talking to you.
Although it's good to not think logically most of the time during game - like say when responding to jokes - a lot of the time it's important to actually remember the logical aspect of things too. Take this girl the other night, who asked me if I'd a lighter. I said I didn't have one and we got talking. A while later she asked me to dance! Now put yourself in this situation; because at this point I replied with "don't you need to have your cigarette?". In this situation most guys would get somewhat carried away with the eventfulness of it all, and completely forget that was actually just about to have a cigarette. Of course the reason me saying that being as an easy way to force her to invest more.
Another time for example two girls approached me, and only one of them seemed to be doing the talking. When the other one finally spoke, instead of just responding to what she said, I came out with "oh she finally speaks". Now most guys would just in some way respond to what she said. In my case after saying "she finally speaks" I turned to her friend and said "I think she's beginning to come out of her shell a bit". A witty remark like this breaks the ice further, and buys you time to think, all while also showing her that she needs to work for your answers. It's especially important to prolong the conversation if you feel you're running out of things to say.
Now I only responded the way I did because my night was going well and I was very comfortable at the time. What I'm interested in, is how can you be become so familiar with certain situations, that certain things become second nature to you, even if you're not feeling to confident. Of course a lot of PUA tactics completely depend on the girl forgetting the logic of your opener. Especially with false time constraints are used... because one moment you're pretending you've to be somewhere, and yet if your opener goes well, you'll be spending your time with the girl.
So it's amazing how easy the girl will forget the logic of a conversation... once you've passed that shit test that's it! You never need to re-sit it in any way. For example, often when I'm asked by girls who I'm with when I'm in a busy bar, I just go with the ole "it's a friend's birthday" or "they're in the smoking area" excuse. But when I'm pulling them out the door half an hour later, I never get a "but wait now, where's your friend? don't you need to let them know...". You see what I mean? They forget the logic of the interaction!
Does any one have any thoughts about what level of confidence or situational awareness it would take to be able to respond such a way? Because the interesting thing, is that if you were sitting down in your own living room with people you know, with no background noise, it would be a lot easier to be aware of the other things that people are doing while they're talking to you.
