FR I freaked her out.How should I approach from behind?

[trilegius]

Hey guys!

After 3 days of not going out, and after I did my first cold approach I went out yesterday.I was starting walking down the streets and I saw a street basketball competition that was taking place in a parking lot so I said ,I should stop and watch for awhile.
I saw a very beatiuful girl,dressed in a miniskirt and a blue shirt without having any bra,so you could literally see her nipples through the shirt,damn she was hot.
I started having thoughts in my head about what should I do ,should I approach her or should I wait till she leaves, cause there was other people around,so I decided I’ll wait for her to leave.(Bad idea)

After a couple of minutes she stands up from her seat and starts walking.
I go after her, she was a little bit ahead of me so she walked a little until I reached behind her.

Now I don’t fucking know what the hell was in my mind to approach her from behind, but I did it..

So it basically went like this:

I tap her on the shoulder and I said:
Me:-Excuse me.
She literally freaked out.I didn’t panic though and I said:
Me:-Oh sorry I scared you.You’re from around here?
Her :Yes
And starts walking faster..I walk faster myself and I said:
Me:-Hey I didn’t wanna scare you,I just wanted to tell you ,you look great.
Her:-Ok
And puts her hand into my face and starts walking even faster.Now it was clear that I fucked up ,so I let her go.

Besides approaching from behind,I think that were other factors that made her react like that.
One would be that, I touched her.

Another one I think was that the street was crowded and there were some foreign guys,really tall I think they were basketball players, that were right besides us and were checking her out too…
Now I’m happy that I approached her, this girl was really hot,all the guys in the area were checking her out So I’ m proud I had the courage to talk to her ,even with those guys that were standing besides us.
I should have approached her when I saw her the first time though,I feel really sorry that I scared her with my clumsy approach but this is it..at least I did it and I learned something from it.

Now I want to ask you guys is there a way that you can approach a girl from behind without scaring her?
I guess I should have just talk to her to get her attention without touching her?
I’m curious ,did you guys successfully approached girls from behind? I’d really appreciate some advice.

Thanks.

 

[Marcellus]

Never approach from behind, always try to approach from the side if your behind her! I've been trying this out from a friend, you say as your behind her "Hey!" Keep walking, let her look at you first then slowly turn an make eye contact then open.

 

[skin_man]

To add to what Marcellus said,

Approaching from behind is a no-no.
don't do it except you flow thus:

1) humm or make some noise that is loud but controlled. Hum a song that you like. Never mutter under your breath, it's weird.

2) Make as though you want to pass her. If she is too far from you, jog but keep your eyes in front. It's easier to simply walk extra fast though.
Note: by this time, she would have noticed you want to meet her. Girls are super intuitive about this.

3) immediately use an incidental approach. "I saw you with those heels and thought that you must be at least 9 feet *tall* without them. Can i borrow them? " She already having anticipated your approach since you followed step (1), would not freak out. Some resistances could spill through but those are mere tests.

 

[Smurf]

Hey dude!

Like those guys were saying, try not to approach from behind her. What I do is always get infront of her first so I'm atleast diagonal to her and THEN open. Make sure you're in her vision before you do it. Also experiment with your tone of voice. Be loud but don't be threatening. It's hard to explain over text, but just play around with it and you'll notice the difference in between making someone jump and just drawing their attention to you.

Jake.