Let me start by saying that I went through a period when I slept with a ton of girls, to the point that so much meaningless sex made me feel quite empty and decided to take a break from dating/sleeping with girls for a while.
Then one day randomly met a girl on Instagram. We texted, we met. Great chemistry, gf material. Long story short: went on 4 dates, all good but never had sex with her. I wanted to take things slow. Do things different from how I did them before, hoping to get some kind of connection. But I fucked up, I took it way too slow, I was too indecisive and I had the kind of behavior that I know takes women attraction from 100% to 0%. Keep in mind that this girl came to my apartment 3 times (expecting to get fucked, clearly) and still nothing happened (because I didn't try at all).
After our last date I felt like a stupid. Still, we texted and she said to meet again the following week ("I will let you know which day"). She never got back to me, and I didn't bother to text her again. I went 100% radio silence on her. Barely texted her for 3 weeks (and she didn't text me either). Then I asked her out last week, she was busy. Today, I decided to give it a last try and texted her to meet again.
Texted in the morning. We agreed to meet on the early evening for dinner and chilling at my place. About an hour before she texts saying it's raining hard (it's like a 45 mins drive for her), and she doesn't want to drive in the rain. She proposes meeting in 2 days. I'm pissed off, I mean it's still quite early and it's not gonna be raining all night. But I still say "ok" to meeting in 2 days. Another mistake.
Now here's the key part: on the same day that she cancelled, she goes and posts on social media from another dude's condo, at midnight. She knows I'm gonna see the post.
I automatically felt like shit, to the point that here I am typing this. This is 100% my fault from not closing earlier, 100% my fault for letting her get away with re-scheduling based on such a shitty reason. I feel like I already crossed the line where sexual attraction is gone.
We're still supposed to meet the day after tomorrow. How to play this? Completely forget about her? Pretend I don't give a fuck about her cancelling then meeting another guy? Meet, play it aggressive? Opinions please!
Then one day randomly met a girl on Instagram. We texted, we met. Great chemistry, gf material. Long story short: went on 4 dates, all good but never had sex with her. I wanted to take things slow. Do things different from how I did them before, hoping to get some kind of connection. But I fucked up, I took it way too slow, I was too indecisive and I had the kind of behavior that I know takes women attraction from 100% to 0%. Keep in mind that this girl came to my apartment 3 times (expecting to get fucked, clearly) and still nothing happened (because I didn't try at all).
After our last date I felt like a stupid. Still, we texted and she said to meet again the following week ("I will let you know which day"). She never got back to me, and I didn't bother to text her again. I went 100% radio silence on her. Barely texted her for 3 weeks (and she didn't text me either). Then I asked her out last week, she was busy. Today, I decided to give it a last try and texted her to meet again.
Texted in the morning. We agreed to meet on the early evening for dinner and chilling at my place. About an hour before she texts saying it's raining hard (it's like a 45 mins drive for her), and she doesn't want to drive in the rain. She proposes meeting in 2 days. I'm pissed off, I mean it's still quite early and it's not gonna be raining all night. But I still say "ok" to meeting in 2 days. Another mistake.
Now here's the key part: on the same day that she cancelled, she goes and posts on social media from another dude's condo, at midnight. She knows I'm gonna see the post.
I automatically felt like shit, to the point that here I am typing this. This is 100% my fault from not closing earlier, 100% my fault for letting her get away with re-scheduling based on such a shitty reason. I feel like I already crossed the line where sexual attraction is gone.
We're still supposed to meet the day after tomorrow. How to play this? Completely forget about her? Pretend I don't give a fuck about her cancelling then meeting another guy? Meet, play it aggressive? Opinions please!
