I gamed two friends from school at the same time, now what?

[gravity]

Hey, I decided to act on the IOIs I get from a girl from my school and see where it'll lead me. The girl in question keep initialing eye contact whenever we're across from each other, position herself (her with her group of friends) near where I'm at. At first I wasn't that interested, but now that I decided to gather experience I won't say no to any half opportunity I get. I talked with her and her group of friends a couple of times, both she didn't look at me and answered and her friends did the talking for her (she's shy?). I figured that approaching her whole group wouldn't go anywhere as I'm not that experienced and groups make me feel like I'm being judged and add pressure that I don't need atm (I'm working on it, did a public speaking thing that I knew I'll suck at but I'm proud that I did it anyway). I followed her on IG, she took a day to accept so I followed her friend, both accepted the request and followed back at the same time. I started talking to both of them. One started to answer with what I've just wrote to the other signaling that they know that I'm talking to both (and that they don't like it?) I said a 'I swear I've seen this line somewhere' she said 'where Haha' I said nvm and changed the subject. The convo with one that I'm interested went like:
Her: 'I know you right?'
Me: 'No, but you're about to'
Her:'Go ahead let's see if this work' (That what I've said to her friend in the other convo)
I said that I'm home right now and that tomorrow I'll be in a coffeeshop nearby and to let me know if she want to come along.
She didn't respond, so I talked to her friend some more, I told her that she has a cute face that she doesn't need to hide in her ig profil pic, she said thanks then I followed with 'but again I find your kinder surprise strategy funny I can't decide which ones better' . Now she's also not responding.
I passed by the one I'm interested in briefly she didn't make eye contact so I didn't talk to her. Dunno where to go from here?

 

[orkie123]

-Get social proof and diversify your effort by gaming other girls. Especially if they see you talking to other girls.

-Always act subtle flirty with them (and other girls) and if they are playing hard to get, leave the situation early on a high (since it is school, you'll keep seeing them).

- Don't do anything that may make you seem as needy. I.e. if you do a direct invite on one of them via text, then inviting the other one soon after, you are coming off a little desperate. Make it mysterious. Get them to compete for your attention by making it scarce and valuable (humour, deep diving, understanding girls etc)

-be careful with the texts. Given that their share them, all texts must be mysterious/indirect or have plausible deniability. You want them to be unsure if you like them.

- Try to speak to them in isolation and deep dive her to learn more about her as person. Maybe create a pet name for her and invite her to do something that has plausible deniability. I.e. if u share class, " lets do 'x' homework together but no funny business".

-If you get one of them back to yours. You will have to escalate while acknowledging that she may not want her frs to know she is going to hook up with you. You do that in 2 ways. First you verbally talk that having fun between 2 people shouldnt be anyone else's business and how friends can shame others without realising or jealousu.

Second you escalate while putting verbal barriers. E.g. you kiss her and then say "we shouldnt be doing this". Then you escalate even more and "you are so naughty, we are supposed to be just friends doing homework". Then continue escalating.

- Game other girls

 

[Chase]

@gravity,

Threesome.

Jokes aside (though not if you can pull it off!)... as soon as you figured out the two girls were friends you needed to pick a target or get real smooth. Switching back and forth as you were while going direct just makes you look like a "I'll take whoever I can get!" horn-dog.

Some notes:

• If you know girls from in-person, game them there. Don't do it over distance (text, IG, etc.). It looks un-confident when they know you have access to them in-person.
  
  
• If you're going to be talking digitally to a girl you know is friends with another girl you're talking to, DON'T talk to them at the same time / same hour / etc. (looks super gamey if they compare notes... which they will) and DON'T say remotely the same things to them.
  
  
• Also if you're going to be gaming two girls who are friends, unless your game is totally on-lock you need to be keeping things social and indirect until you clearly pick a target. Complimenting girls' looks is bad game in general, but it's ultra "cut the nose off to spite the face" bad if you're doing it with two girls who are friends and comparing notes on you.

It's probably not going anywhere with these girls at this point. Just take the lessons from the experience and sharpen things up more with the next ones!

Chase

 

[gravity]

Thanks for the advice. What I don't understand though is why she didn't respond when I asked her out for a coffee. I know that I came across as unconfident for going about it in messages and not face to face, but she seemed interested in me and when I talked to her with her group of friends she kept quiet avoided eye contact and let her friends answer for her. She's always with her group of friends, ig seemed the best bet and also thought that it'll help with attainability. My logistics are shit and I'm broke but also I can't focus on emotionally challenging tasks (making money), girls are always on my mind, and specially that I see that it's possible. Also making money before getting a girlfriend just signals to my mind that my worth is low and that I need money to compensate and I can't cope with that.