I met this girl at a party.

[tryhan]

I went to a party with some friends of mine, and I met this incredibly hot and intresting girl. Exacly my type. I talked to her for several hours, having her talk much about herself while i shared just a little bit of information. At that point i did not know how to move forward, that moving fast is key about escalation window, setting frames, beeing a sexy man, deep diving or asking for her number at a high note. Turns out i missed 4-5 escalation windows. Yeah 4-5. So anyways, as she was about to leave I walked up to her, told her how pretty she was, that i would love to see her again and asked for her number. She smiled, gave it to me and we hugged goodnight.

So the next day i was wondering; exacly what should i text this girl? and i stumbeled onto this site. Started reading up on everything i could find. I had two small texting sessions with her before on the fourth day I asked her out by the standard template: Hey(girls name). We should get tougheter and grab a bite to eat. How is your schedule looking? At this point not really expecting a response because i figured she would be in auto-rejection after all the missed escalation. However I got a response. It sounds like this: My schedule is pretty full right now. I'll see what ill be able to squeeze in. To that i replyed not wanting to chase her: Text me if you find an opening. and i got the response: I will! Im not quiet sure if shes trying to let me down gently or if shes actually slightly intrested in getting together. Would love some advise.

The girl is 19 if it helps.
Please excuse my english, im from Norway.

 

[Verisimilitude]

You're in a pretty good spot. Not a great one, but nothing that can't be fixed. But most importantly, she is into you. Send her a text with your schedule and your openings. Something like, "Hey Rebekka(insert girl's name here), so I'm free Tuesday at 7, Thursday at noon, and Saturday at 5. What works for you?"

Then, set a date up and keep things cool (don't just ignore her, but don't get into a long conversation either). The day of, check in with her, make sure she's still on. Something like, "Hey Rebekka, we still on for tonight?".

And you know how the rest goes. First window you get, move, pull, escalate.

Good luck!

And if you want more info, search text and phone game on this board and the main site. You'll find plenty of stuff.

 

[tryhan]

Allright. I'll try that. When should I send this text? Should i wait a little bit to make it seem like im not chasing her too much or should i go for the presistance is key and text her asap?

 

[Light]

I don't usually tell girls my schedule, as it shows that I'm a pretty busy man with more important things to do / or other girls to date

Wait 10 days to send her another text. She may really be busy. But I would usually just ask if she is free for that coming weekend.

Tip: She would either reply yes or no. But if she replies no, and suggests an alternative date to you, that means she's still into you.

 

[Verisimilitude]

Wow. This doesn't happen often.

I actually disagree with all of that advice. I don't see how waiting ten days does anything but send her into auto-reject, and giving her times when you are free makes it easier on her to pick a time and makes it more likely that she will agree to go.

Here's my sources for my advice:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-l ... exting-her - Advice for NOT waiting.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/waiti ... ngs-chance - More advice for not waiting

https://www.girlschase.com/content/what- ... rls-flake- For giving girls a choice of times

Obviously, Tryhan, the choice is yours. But if she's even a little uncertain or if she's really into you, those ten days will most likely convince her that you are just like all the other guys who are scared to call OR send her into auto-reject (especially since she's given you a lot of chances). I'm sure Light's method works for him because he's experienced and has his fundamentals down. By the way, its nothing personal here Light .

But I think you gotta strike while she's into you. Read up on the article about texting and the time frame, make your own decision, and let us know how it turns out.

 

[tryhan]

Yeah I must say I agree with xcrunner here. I'll definitvely do that. Thanks for the advice guys

 

[Light]

Yes I agree. I tend to forget that the advises I give out are usually assuming that you have successfully attracted the girl upon first encounter.

I do recommend game starters move more quickly and take more actions. You will come across as being a little be needy sometimes, but that's the learning process.