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Writing this one up for accountability..
I played this one way too safe, and in hindsight (writing this 10 minutes after i let her go) I’m seeing all the signs suggesting i should have pulled.
I’m on zero sleep. Pulled an all nighter to catch an early flight to north america.
while i’m chilling at the airport waiting for my gate to be announced, I notice a gorgeous leggy blond in a pink top and tight black yoga pants. i take note and leave it at that.. mind you this is in the communal food court, i have no idea what flight she’s taking.
let’s fast forward to me trying to find my seat in the plain..48F and who is sat in the seat besides mine..blondey. I’ve very pleased.
The flight takes off and i give it about 10 minutes before i open her. “You going in holiday or on your way home..?”
She’s on holiday. Let’s go.
Conversation is easy and intermittent, deep diving, sharing jokes, it turns out we have many shared interests and it’s very easy to qualify her as i’m pleased with everything she shares about herself.
I’m careful to keep my compliance asks under the radar, with probing questions buffered with sultry eye contact i’m aware of the audience around us, but i note that anytime i ask for compliance i get it. she accepts touch without rebuffing - touch her tattoos, have her roll up her sleeves to show me more, ask to see her nails, ask to see the art she makes on her phone. No hesitation.
I’ve actually fingered a woman on a plane before and had her give me a handjob before but as my read in this situation is that i need to pace it differently. The vibe and environment aren’t right for such quick escalation.
It’s an 8 hour flight and as we get close to landing seed that we should grab a coffee in the city once we get through customs. she agrees.
at customs i need to separate as i need to sort some things with immigration and tell her to wait for me on the other side. realizing only afterwards that there are multiple other sides..
getting through customs and waiting at arrivals i don’t see her and assumed that she may have taken her escape route i gave her. i’m wrong.
it’s 15 minutes before i see her and i was ready to leave only to find out she had been waiting for me at the customs exit before arrivals. i suggest we get that coffee and she’s happy to.
my dad then tells me by surprise that he’s waiting for me at the airport which i wasn’t expecting so i apologize profusely and tell her i have to go but trade numbers with her in case she is ever in my city (we live in the same country).
Communication with dad gets confused and he leaves the airport without me so bumping into blondey again i ask her to join me for that coffee again.
We take the train. we find a coffee shop. i pay for coffee. but our seating is shit (i usually sit side by side but we’re across from eachother).
convo is friendly but im not able to get the touch in i typically do on dates nor set verbal sexual frames i like to as i couldn’t find an in for neat transitions (i chalk it up to lack of sleep).
Anyway despite this she mentions she wants to go to her airbnb to relax and watch netflix.. (missed signal one)
Asks me what my plans are (signal 2)
Books an uber and then shows it to me asking if she’s asked it to come to the right place (anytime a girl does this she’s stalling as she wants me to accompany her MISSED SIGNAL 3 FML). She also tells me she’s worried her airbnb was falsely advertised as a single place and that it might be shared and how she has the whole place to herself (BIG SIGNAL 4 I’m a retard..). In my head i want to ask if she wants some mutual support in case her airbnb isn’t as advertised..i don’t say it though…
Her airbnb comes and i let her go.
The missed signals come rushing back to me as im walking away. I message @DoWhatWorks immediately for accountability. And start writing up this report on the ride home..
I know what i did wrong. I should have asked her if i could come crash for a bit and watch that movie with her.
I didn’t.
Topcat is a fool
Bye.
(apologies for the lack of formatting…i’m delirious from lack of sleep)
I played this one way too safe, and in hindsight (writing this 10 minutes after i let her go) I’m seeing all the signs suggesting i should have pulled.
I’m on zero sleep. Pulled an all nighter to catch an early flight to north america.
while i’m chilling at the airport waiting for my gate to be announced, I notice a gorgeous leggy blond in a pink top and tight black yoga pants. i take note and leave it at that.. mind you this is in the communal food court, i have no idea what flight she’s taking.
let’s fast forward to me trying to find my seat in the plain..48F and who is sat in the seat besides mine..blondey. I’ve very pleased.
The flight takes off and i give it about 10 minutes before i open her. “You going in holiday or on your way home..?”
She’s on holiday. Let’s go.
Conversation is easy and intermittent, deep diving, sharing jokes, it turns out we have many shared interests and it’s very easy to qualify her as i’m pleased with everything she shares about herself.
I’m careful to keep my compliance asks under the radar, with probing questions buffered with sultry eye contact i’m aware of the audience around us, but i note that anytime i ask for compliance i get it. she accepts touch without rebuffing - touch her tattoos, have her roll up her sleeves to show me more, ask to see her nails, ask to see the art she makes on her phone. No hesitation.
I’ve actually fingered a woman on a plane before and had her give me a handjob before but as my read in this situation is that i need to pace it differently. The vibe and environment aren’t right for such quick escalation.
It’s an 8 hour flight and as we get close to landing seed that we should grab a coffee in the city once we get through customs. she agrees.
at customs i need to separate as i need to sort some things with immigration and tell her to wait for me on the other side. realizing only afterwards that there are multiple other sides..
getting through customs and waiting at arrivals i don’t see her and assumed that she may have taken her escape route i gave her. i’m wrong.
it’s 15 minutes before i see her and i was ready to leave only to find out she had been waiting for me at the customs exit before arrivals. i suggest we get that coffee and she’s happy to.
my dad then tells me by surprise that he’s waiting for me at the airport which i wasn’t expecting so i apologize profusely and tell her i have to go but trade numbers with her in case she is ever in my city (we live in the same country).
Communication with dad gets confused and he leaves the airport without me so bumping into blondey again i ask her to join me for that coffee again.
We take the train. we find a coffee shop. i pay for coffee. but our seating is shit (i usually sit side by side but we’re across from eachother).
convo is friendly but im not able to get the touch in i typically do on dates nor set verbal sexual frames i like to as i couldn’t find an in for neat transitions (i chalk it up to lack of sleep).
Anyway despite this she mentions she wants to go to her airbnb to relax and watch netflix.. (missed signal one)
Asks me what my plans are (signal 2)
Books an uber and then shows it to me asking if she’s asked it to come to the right place (anytime a girl does this she’s stalling as she wants me to accompany her MISSED SIGNAL 3 FML). She also tells me she’s worried her airbnb was falsely advertised as a single place and that it might be shared and how she has the whole place to herself (BIG SIGNAL 4 I’m a retard..). In my head i want to ask if she wants some mutual support in case her airbnb isn’t as advertised..i don’t say it though…
Her airbnb comes and i let her go.
The missed signals come rushing back to me as im walking away. I message @DoWhatWorks immediately for accountability. And start writing up this report on the ride home..
I know what i did wrong. I should have asked her if i could come crash for a bit and watch that movie with her.
I didn’t.
Topcat is a fool
Bye.
(apologies for the lack of formatting…i’m delirious from lack of sleep)
