I Suck At Sexual Text Game?

[Rage]

I suck at sexual text game? Or just don’t understand it at least…

I’m trying to do sexual text game like I’d seen in some reports, some that don’t come to mind but I think narrow j had a few briefly which were inspired.

I sort of suck at text game in general, I feel like it’s like writing a program and then seeing if it will run or not, and if it doesn’t you have no idea where the fuck your error is (where you went wrong). Maybe there’s a science to text game that I don’t get…

But I find it like baffling and almost mental masturbation to think about too much, because I can just talk to a girl in person or on phone and do a million times better (and know fairly quickly whether she likes me or not, what I should say or do, where the windows are, when she’s testing and etc. all that stuff).

But I’m open to learning other stuff even stuff I’m not good at or don’t get too much, text game included.

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So I had this girl who was kind of a throwaway, not good looking enough that I’d mind not seeing her again, but good looking enough that if she did drive up all the way to see me I wouldn’t mind fucking her (butter face Asian woman, but a nice body from working out).

Perfect for trying to experiment with text game.

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So this girl was actually supposed to be my landlord, but I ended up getting a different place. I think I complimented her on her nails and that’s it, she showed me the house, she looked like she found me attractive but nothing excessive.

The thing was I texted her for logistics about arranging for the place to live, and she invested a lot into text oddly enough. Before in earlier texts and in the text I’ll share with you guys too. Like “haha wtf I didn’t know you like me like that” kind of stuff.

If you guys could critique or give your thoughts or what would have been good for me to say in the situation, I’m all ears

My guess would be that these sexual texts and frames are supposed to be done gradually and I messed up by not doing that?

So here’s what she texts me. I had met up with her before discussing renting business. Didn’t expect her to text (there was no reason to) and our meeting was pretty business with me just having good fundamentals I guess.

<I can’t believe you drag me out of my bed to hear you say you change your mind

I was so tired from the hospital literally I rolled out of bed (she’s a nurse)

Sorry if I looked like a mess… bedhead>

Normally I could call her here or could text her safely and effectively set up a meet with her and get food or coffee together. And progress from there. Or tease her a bit in text.

But I’m trying to polarize and try shit out more and more with everything text game included (and didn’t mind if I lost this fishy in the process)

So I text back an hour or so later (when I happen to read her text)

<Haha its all good I think it’s a cute look…

I remember hearing that guys unconsciously like that look cause it looks like a girl just got done having sex; but not sure how true that is Lol>

This is something I would potentially say in person and have work well… but doesn’t work the same, in the same way over text? She never texts back so I’m guessing it’s lost.

What do you guys think what was right or wrong… Is it like cringe material on my end, or not bad just a little off. And what makes for good sexual text game in general?

Thanks for any feedback cheers all,

Gem  

 

[Smith]

Gem,

I've learned to avoid "sexting" with a girl I haven't got intimate with a couple of times. You can easily come off as "too horny" or "too aggressive", if she's not in the same mood as you, and you can't tell what mood she's in when she receive your text.

Another thing I noticed is, your texts have to be congruent with your interaction with her. If you weren't even talking about sex in the interaction, then you probably don't want to start any sex talk over text because it's incongruent with the kind of interaction you had with her. It's polarizing, but because she doesn't have to respond to you, you can't calibrate...

hope this helps!

 

[Fusion]

I'd like to hear other's input on this as well. I've frequently run into the problem of not being able to initiate sexual texts without it coming off uncalibrated. I basically only do online game though so that could be a big reason. Like Smith said though, once I've slept with a girl a couple times it's much easier.

Gem,

I don't see anything wrong with that text. Like i said though, i don't have a ton of experience with being sexual over text.

Fusion

 

[Rage]

Gem,



I've learned to avoid "sexting" with a girl I haven't got intimate with a couple of times. You can easily come off as "too horny" or "too aggressive", if she's not in the same mood as you, and you can't tell what mood she's in when she receive your text.



Another thing I noticed is, your texts have to be congruent with your interaction with her. If you weren't even talking about sex in the interaction, then you probably don't want to start any sex talk over text because it's incongruent with the kind of interaction you had with her. It's polarizing, but because she doesn't have to respond to you, you can't calibrate...



hope this helps!

Yeah this is the rule I generally follow, but I’d like to experient and see if there’s other ways to do this stuff (I think just for the fun of it cause honestly doesn’t seem practical for a girl I’m the least bit serious about).

I was reading JJ’s article https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-s ... ly-3-texts

This stood out to me

First things first, let’s talk prep work. The first way to remove some of the risk is just to make sure you’ve already gotten a good amount of investment in other forms from her first, and you’ll also want to be reasonably certain that she’s interested enough to do it.

And

You need to be as implicit (not explicit) as possible here. Use your words in a way so that they’re highly ambiguous (which isn’t all that hard to do via text message, anyway). I do realize that should be glaringly obvious, but it is worth pointing out.

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Also what you say about the in person interaction is true too Smith. We just talked about rent mostly hahahaha.

There’s some good sexual texting articles on this site I’m sure though, and am curious; will keep looking

Gem

 

[Lotus]

You need to be as implicit (not explicit) as possible here. Use your words in a way so that they’re highly ambiguous (which isn’t all that hard to do via text message, anyway). I do realize that should be glaringly obvious, but it is worth pointing out.

Yeah I think this is pretty much the story. Be overt in a way that allows her to continue conversation if she isn't down. In your example it was so direct that she either accepted the topic or exited the conversation. We know which one she picked haha

 

[Rage]

You need to be as implicit (not explicit) as possible here. Use your words in a way so that they’re highly ambiguous (which isn’t all that hard to do via text message, anyway). I do realize that should be glaringly obvious, but it is worth pointing out.

Yeah I think this is pretty much the story. Be overt in a way that allows her to continue conversation if she isn't down. In your example it was so direct that she either accepted the topic or exited the conversation. We know which one she picked haha

Also why do you even want to do this. Wait until you can consistently get girls to meet up w u via text before attempting this. Also, sexual texting really is just a fluff skill. You could never ever do this your whole life as a seducer and not be any worse off for it. Seduction happens in person. Your ability to text sexually hinges around your ability to interact in person sexually.

Radeng

Good point, will take this to heart.

Gem

 

[Zoro]

Agree with Radeng.

Its fluff stuff, but if you really want to get good I'll tell you how I improved.

I don't recommend it AT ALL. But I used to spend hours messaging girls from all over the world on online dating sites. I got really good at witty conversation and getting nudes. Not much else. My eyes may have also not enjoyed all that screen time.

Again NOT recommended.

 

[mindful]

Agree with Radeng.

Its fluff stuff, but if you really want to get good I'll tell you how I improved.

I don't recommend it AT ALL. But I used to spend hours messaging girls from all over the world on online dating sites. I got really good at witty conversation and getting nudes. Not much else. My eyes may have also not enjoyed all that screen time.

Again NOT recommended.

My friend does this as well, he did it for years. He is very good with words and texting, especially sexting. I don't know how he comes up with the stuff but it is gold. I've told him multiple times that he needs to be a texting teacher or something, i have picked up a few tricks from him. He's had girls from other countries send them their panties in the mail lol.

I don't do this much anymore, especially since following girl chase guidelines, but i would literally send him a copy of a text from a girl and he would be on standby to "coach" me through a convo until it got sexual. Sexting can be fun and exciting... especially when you get her sending naughty pics of her pussy, or vids.

 

[Rage]

Hey guys, this updated a bit; if I could get some quick thoughts on something about this same girl then it would really help out and I would be quite grateful.

I sent my full-retard text as shown above, and then she waited 2 whole days (maybe even a little more into the 3rd day too, and then texted me back one word "Maybe". LMAO

(she's a nurse; I was thinking maybe she passed it around the hospital wondering what she should text me back hahahaha)
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I didn't text her back, because she was just a butterface and I'm meeting more girls and am pretty busy besides that anyway.

She texted me, a whole week later again today (out of the blue, and after I didn't reply to her text last week)

Hi Gem... I'm just winding down and going over previous week. sorry I was overly exhaustex driving to and from LA all week for home showing and working a marathon. I might have been cranky pants when we met up. just wanted to say good luck on your upcoming new school yhear and a new beginning living away from home. And thanks for coming out to x city for a visit. It was nice meeting you

My question is, this chick isn't cluster B right? I suppose she's just a lesser value chick that really wants to see me again...? Because I've never had a girl invest this hard into me, with me having this little conversation about anything with her beforehand... but I have seen this sort of thing with my friend who gets girls teting him like this, and many of those girls turn out to be crazy/cluster B.

Do you guys think she's cluster B or normal? Whatever the case I'll text her setup a date, meet with her, try to fuck, and pretty likely not see her again after that... but yea I just am curious if she's kinda crazy or not, or if it's jsuta girl that really likes me and it's just my first time getting a girl investing this hard after me investing little to nothign in her.

Thanks to everyone for their individual input originally, but especially to Radeng because what you said is what I really needed to hear (and what I have wondered about for sometime as far as is sexual text game really needed at all...)

Makes me much more confident about what I will say over text and stuff.

Cheers keep slaying

Gem

 

[Rage]

This is huge, thanks a great deal once again Radeng really helpful

I can care less what happens with this girl really, it’s the learning I care about (will text her back right now and see if anything comes of it eventually, but nothing I’ll lose sleep over lol).

What you said about investment and texting and all that, I really never considered those perspective(s) at all. The friend I mentioned, I think is much better looking than me (lol) and he gets girls texting him a lot, and facebook messaging him a lot too.

But as you mention and I time and again forget in observation of this situation “reactions aren’t results” and he doesn’t get much results from them. We’re good buds, I see him and think and sometimes tell him “man it would be neat if girls texted me like that out of the blue more”.

But I’ve pulled more girls than him home, he’s seen me pull more girls too, and he would definitely admit objectively that I’ve got it better off and that texting doesn’t mean much shit really at the end of the day. I’ll read him your above statement and he’ll laugh and say “fuck that’s true haha” and work to fix it (good to have friends who are fixers though).

Thanks a bunch, I’ll update I guess if anything truly interesting happens with this, but otherwise I probably won’t (or will just write a report, or this will just fuck up or whatever…)

Cheers

Gem