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Okay I'm going to make this as brief as possible. Though I have no idea what this girls actually thinking I'm coming up with all these bad possible scenarios and I'm just a tad worried.
Basically I laid a girl in my class and I think she's in sex regret...
In her past she was stalked pretty bad by some dude who's now in jail, and looking back on my actions I'm thinking it may be possible that I may have scared her into believing I may have over controlling/clingy/stalkerish tendencies.
I did entry level BDSM and maybe got too into it in the bedroom (too domineering... she did mention she thinks I have a issue with wanting to be dominant at all times) and I kissed her goodbye when she was dropping me off at my car which possibly made her think that I believe we're now an "item".
Though I'm totally outcome independent in reality of us seeing each other again or not.
It wouldn't matter but we're in the same class and must see each other personally.
She didn't come to class this week and I think it might be because she has no clue how I'm going to act towards her and it scares her (what if I'm gonna treat her like she's my girlfriend in a over controlling way... that would suck for her).
I'm deeming it wise to send a check in text that saying that I'm worried she thinks that I'm going to be a stalker/controller and let her know I'm totally cool with us not seeing each other again sexually if that's the way things are.
Also how does this situation work?
I'd like to at least be on talking terms with her even if she has no desire to see me again since we have to finish up the rest of this semester in the same class. Plus she's a cool girl and I don't want to be in awkward don't make EC/talk to her mode for another 4 weeks.
I guess my question is should I text her, and if yes then what? Or should I just let it ride until I see her in class again (though I'm nervous she might be inclined to drop the class specifically because she doesn't want me to turn into a stalker or something... though perhaps that's a bit farfetched)?
Regardless I take responsibility for poorly managing emotions and correlating my actions in a consistent manner and am probably going to lay back on the BDSM until I get more experienced.. and definitely never be the one to initiate a good bye kiss after the first time having sex.
Thanks,
-Rob
Basically I laid a girl in my class and I think she's in sex regret...
In her past she was stalked pretty bad by some dude who's now in jail, and looking back on my actions I'm thinking it may be possible that I may have scared her into believing I may have over controlling/clingy/stalkerish tendencies.
I did entry level BDSM and maybe got too into it in the bedroom (too domineering... she did mention she thinks I have a issue with wanting to be dominant at all times) and I kissed her goodbye when she was dropping me off at my car which possibly made her think that I believe we're now an "item".
Though I'm totally outcome independent in reality of us seeing each other again or not.
It wouldn't matter but we're in the same class and must see each other personally.
She didn't come to class this week and I think it might be because she has no clue how I'm going to act towards her and it scares her (what if I'm gonna treat her like she's my girlfriend in a over controlling way... that would suck for her).
I'm deeming it wise to send a check in text that saying that I'm worried she thinks that I'm going to be a stalker/controller and let her know I'm totally cool with us not seeing each other again sexually if that's the way things are.
Also how does this situation work?
I'd like to at least be on talking terms with her even if she has no desire to see me again since we have to finish up the rest of this semester in the same class. Plus she's a cool girl and I don't want to be in awkward don't make EC/talk to her mode for another 4 weeks.
I guess my question is should I text her, and if yes then what? Or should I just let it ride until I see her in class again (though I'm nervous she might be inclined to drop the class specifically because she doesn't want me to turn into a stalker or something... though perhaps that's a bit farfetched)?
Regardless I take responsibility for poorly managing emotions and correlating my actions in a consistent manner and am probably going to lay back on the BDSM until I get more experienced.. and definitely never be the one to initiate a good bye kiss after the first time having sex.
Thanks,
-Rob
