FR+ I Went For The Kiss! Success!

[Troy]

Note: I pre wrote this last week Friday but due to technical difficulties with internet connection I'm just able to post this. Enjoy

Date: Friday, 10 October 2014

Hey Gents,

I made a massive move today on a bus to attempt to kiss my date. Right there in public. Unfortunately i didn't get the kiss but i have achieved something nonetheless today. I pushed past my fear to approach first and go for the kiss. I am usually racked with approach anxiety many times when i approach and make any move on any girl so that's why i call this a success. It's the first time in my life that i have been so bold. I'm feeling proud and can't stop smiling

Still, even though i am not disappointed, i would love to find out where i went wrong. To illustrate what might have went wrong, i'll provide a flashback from the day i set up the date with my girl. The name of the girl i went out with is Shanoya. Here is the flashback, the day i set up the date:

Date: Monday, 6 October 2014

I asked Shanoya out over text message. Here is our conversation:

Troy:Hey Shanoya!
Shanoya: Hi Troy
Troy:What's up
Shanoya: I am good. You?
Troy: I'm a little tired still. Otherwise I'm good
Shanoya: Oh I am at Treez Bus park
Troy: I'm at home
Shanoya: Aren't you going to school today?
Troy: Yeah I'm getting ready
Shanoya: Oh then won't you arrive at school late?
Troy: I'll be early. School starts 8:00am and I live 15 minutes from school
Shanoya: Oh ok
Troy: Anyway, I'd love to see you again soon. Wednesday and Friday is good for me. Which day is good for you?

Shanoya: Wednesday
Troy: Great! I can reach the transport centre by about 3:10pm. What time good for you?
Shanoya: In Central Town or Treez Bus Park?
Troy: Central Town
Shanoya Oh ok that's good
Troy: Great! So we'll meet then . I'm leaving out now. Enjoy your day.
Shanoya Yeah you too

Conversation Ended There...

...for the day. I made sure to make my texts short and get to the point quickly. I'm not sure how well i did in that ext conversation. Any thing i could change guys? Or am i doing fine with my text format?



Date: Wednesday, 8 October 2014

I Flaked On the Date

... Then i flaked on the date. I couldn't make it to our first date. So i canceled. I didn't incovenience Shanoya to have to get ready and come meet me because the plan was to meet after our school finished. I sent the first text below about 30 minutes before Shanoya would leave school and arrive in Central Town to meet me.


Troy: Hey
Shanoya: Hi
Troy: Where are you now?
Shanoya: At school. I soon leave though.
Troy: Okay. I'm disappointed right now. This morning I was told I'll have to stay back at school for a important meeting with some upper school graders. I wish I could make it to meet up with you today. I'm free on Friday though so I could meet you at 3:10pm at the bus park. Is that ok with you!

Shanoya: Oh Ok Friday
Troy: Sure thing! Friday! I like the way you respond. That's cool about you.
Shanoya: thanks
Troy: Impressive! For that I'll buy you a drink Friday.

And Shanoya didn't answer my text. I wanted to reward her for good behavior and discourage bad behavior. Even though paying for women can be bad, the fact that i flaked on the girl made me want to make it up to her. What happened above that caused Shanoya to not reply to my text?



The Date

Me and Shanoya met up two days later for our date. I will update the details on this tomorrow since it's late now.

Until the Next,

Troy

 

[Troy]

Re: I Went For The Kiss! Success!

So yesterday i posted my text conversations i had with Shanoya and i got her out on a date, Friday,

I arrived ten minutes early to meet up with Shanoya. At exactly 3:00pm that is. As soon as i got to the bus park in Central Town, i spotted her about 100 metres away. Since i came alone i wanted to re-build a good impression of myself. Right next to me were two cute girls who i decided to chat up just to build some pre-selection. I don't remember what i said to them, though i remember opening them and having them smile. I bantered with them for like a minute before they walked off. They cut off the conversation first. It was't a rejection, i think, it seemed more like they had somewhere to get going to.

Right as i finished talking to the two girls, Shanoya came up to about 30 metres from me and had her eyes glued on me. I approached her and said "Hi" then reached out to hug her. She did the same. We stood there talking for about 5 minutes. It was fun talking to her. We laughed and flirted until her male friend came up and begun talking. I waited until she engaged him before i acknowledged his presence. In other words, i made Shanoya BREAK CIRCLE FIRST. She spoke with her male friend briefly before turning back to talking to me. And then she broke circle again. This time i made sure to talk to the guy, just some small talk to be polite before getting back to speaking with Shanoya.

I don't remember exactly what we spoke about. Though one thing I remember correctly is her subtly hinting to me how hungry and thirsty she was. She said " I just feel so thirsty and hungry. IT WOULD BE NICE IF I HAD A DRINK RIGHT NOW.

I got caught. In my own trap. Remember in the text conversation above what i said to her. Here it is again below:

" Troy: Impressive! For that I'll buy you a drink Friday. "

I promised her i would buy her a drink because i flaked on her. So she subtely hinted it to me. At first i ignored it and continued talking about other things. And then she began repeating the same thing over and over again how thirsty she was. So i bit the bullet and said

" Oh the drink i promised you? You didn't reply to my text so i just assumed it was a NO!"

Of course she protested saying how i promised to buy her the drink. I began to panic thinking that i would lose this girl now so i decided to get some compliance from her before i bought her the drink. I said to her, " Lets go for a walk around town". And i walked off. She stood there looking at me and telling me that her feet hurt so she wasn't going to move. I turned back and took her hand then begun walking again. She followed this time still grumbling to herself about how her feet hurt. So i decided that walking with her around town like that would be asking for too much compliance too fast.We walked and talked then i stopped at a street vendor and bought two sodas. One for each of us. Her male friend followed nearby. I asked him if he wanted a drink as well. He declined.

We walked about 80 metres from where we stood before. A male friend of mine saw the entire thing and called me over to talk to me. In summary he told me that what i did was stupid to buy Shanoya the drink. The same thing GirlsChase talks about. I admitted to him that i realized i made a mistake. He warned me off from doing that again. He told me that since we were taking the same bus, he would sit near us in the bus and watch my back. So that when we came off he could tell me what i did right and wrong.

To make up for my mistake on buying Shanoya a drink, i told her to pay my bus fare. I used a command with a voice tone sounding like a question. Exactly like what Chase talked about in his article on commanding women. I said:

" Shanoya! I don't have my bus card. Pay for me with your card?"

While she payed i grabbed a seat at the back of the bus. That way it would be easier to kiss her if i wanted to. Everyone would be in front of us so no one would see unless they turned around to look which would be very awkward to do in a bus.

My friend grabbed a seat nearby in front of us. Shanoya's friend sat directly in front of us and Shanoya sat beside me. It was one hell of convincing her to sit beside me though. I suspect the reason is that i took a back seat and she knew what was possible in the back seat. Anyway, bonus points for overcoming her resistance to sitting next to me.


The journey would be a 1 hour ride to our destination. For the first 20 minutes we sat together talking and laughing. She laughed at almost everything i said. Then i began to run out of things to talk about. So i popped out my phone and told her we would play a game. I told Shanoya that she would listen to music through my ear buds while i played the role as DJ. I chose songs from every genre and made her listen to them. If she didn't like it, i would switch the song. This was just to help pass the time so there would be no awkward silences. And i also learned quite a lot on what type of music she liked and didn't like.


The Time to Go For the Kiss

So 45 minutes was gone in the journey and we were having fun playing our roles. I enjoyed being the DJ. She enjoyed listening. At this point in time i played some very erotic songs to get her in the mood for kissing. And she enjoyed the songs. Then i shut off the music and told her that's it for now. She popped out the ear buds nd looked at me. She seemed annoyed that i stopped her from listening to her favourite song. nd then there was a silence between us. We sat there staring into each others eyes.

The Triangle Gaze

Remember in the article on eye contact Chase talks about the triangle gaze? As we sat there staring into each others eyes, i slowly drifted my eye contact from her eyes to her mouth and back up. Then i asked her,

" Are you a good kisser?"

Shanoya: No i'm not. Why?
Troy: ( I looked her in the eye and said nothing)
Shanoya: Just Joking
Troy: What is it like when you kiss someone?
Shanoya: It's weird. Sometimes my forehead buck up or one eye don't shut or the person have bad breath.

Troy: Lol
Shanoya: Lol
Troy: Are you a virgin?
Shanoya: Yes
Troy: Something is one your lip. Let me wipe it off for you. ( her lipstick)
Shanoya: Where?
Troy: ( I put my hand on her cheek and slowly pull her face up to mine.)


And she pulls away my hand and gets back to laughing and talking. I follow and begin talking again. Then i tried again. She resists me. Then i got back to bantering and we laughed some more. Then i went for the kiss again. This time before she could push me off i shook my head when i got close to her face nd pulled away. Then i pretended to go into auto-rejection. I Iooked out the window and stopped talking immediately. She re-engaged and we spoke some more. When i looked back at her, i saw her re-applying lip balm.

At this point, i could just think that finally my kiss was coming soon. Soi asked her playfully " Could i have some?" She opened the lip balm to put it on my lip. I looked at her in a skeptical way and asked her what she was doing.

Troy: What are you doing?
Shanoya: Putting on the lip balm for you
Troy: Hold up. It would be easier if you used your lips to put some on me.
Shanoya: And that would wipe it off my lips.
Troy: That's the idea
Shanoya: That's not a good idea

So i got back to talking with her until the rest of the journey. She was coming off at the next bus stop 200 metres away. So we winded down on talking. When it came to her stop i told her to hug me before she got off. She hugged me. I didn't hug back though. I did this because i wanted her to feel like the one who was chasing. Should i have done this though gentlemen? I said

" Bye! And text me when you reach home"

Shanoya: I don't have any credit.
Troy: Okay never mind
Shanoya: Yea bye.


So gentlemen, what were some things you think/know i could change next time? Im meeting up with her this Friday again for our second date. What to change? In the end, i must say, even though i didn't get the kiss, im glad i had fun!

Troy