Idate then agree to W/E meet (heavy sexual pre-frame), but rain might stop play

[lao che]

thursday, cold approached and instant dated (coffeeshop) a girl in street. invited for drinks same evening. declined but agreed for weekend.
via text, talk gets around to Kung Fu Panda (!) so i invite her over to watch it. she argues that a typhoon is coming so i say yes, then we should not be outside. inside safe and warm ... that was yesterday. she totally seems down. really wants to meet but doesn't wanna go out in a storm.

said hi today and kept assuming the sale, she is throwing up walls, trying to change the subject but investing hard, the rain is definitely a problem for her. i've pushed pretty hard with this girl so now i can continue pushing as if the weather no big deal, or i can let her off the hook for now.


if i aquiesce then, due to the forwardness already in my interactions, i'm not sure i'll be able to recover from the hit. but if i keep pushing i probably look ... not desperate but perhaps too reckless or something and i think i'll put her off.

i kept it short, assumed the sale, told her place and time to meet, then ignored the rest of the messages that followed.

i've got about three hours. thoughts?

lao che

 

[lao che]

Re: Idate then agree to W/E meet (heavy sexual pre-frame), but rain might stop p

i'm not considering it a loss just yet. but could i have kept pushing?

"don't worry it's just a little rain"

"it's ok i have an umbrella i'll be waiting for you at the station"

i decided no.
therefore i left it hanging (she sent several (as yet unanswered) texts explaining why she couldn't come, and if it wasn't for the weather i'm sure i'd be balls deep already instead of writing to you, brother!) and i planned my evening expecting her to not come, but malleable enough so that i could go meet her should i receive a "i'm on the way" text message.
she didn't show of course. now i feel that i built up the tension too soon (in fact quite right, were it not for the typhoon) and the window is gonna close quickly, but coming on too strong again would be a mistake. so i need to invite her out tomorrow instead but need a 2-steps-forward-1-step-back approach. i just don't know how to re-open if she doesn't do it first. i expect her to say something but it's "my turn" seeing as she already sent 5 big texts in a row (3 hours before our "date") and i haven't responded.

 

[lao che]

Re: Idate then agree to W/E meet (heavy sexual pre-frame), but rain might stop p

won't bother with full convo unless maybe in a LR if it comes to that. i'm still expectant; tonight, if i can turn it around. the weather definitely screwed me here as it presented a barrier i couldn't overcome. it was a reason for her to not be able to leave the house. despite it not really being that severe. but to be honest, i didn't leave the house either, although i would have to go get pussy ,-)

anyway here's the end of the convo, which doesn't look great out of context:


me: see you tonight. metro station, exit 3

she: your accent is american, but you're an englishman ( ? trying to derail the train and draw me into convo? she knows enough about me from the idate and the previous night's text chat. but with hindsight i think she was maybe just needing more comfort.)

me: time ..? let me know when you're on the way (originally told her 8 but as my day changed i told her she could come earlier, if she likes, and now i'm not even expecting her to come, although i'm prepared for it)

she: typhoon will continue till tomorrow noon

she: so ... who are you?

she: why you come to china .. what's your company name? and what's your job .. please tell me in detail (she already knows this, more or less, and i'm not gonna get into it now on text, but yeah, maybe if i'd given more comfort ... )

she: it's stormy outside but you say i should go out ....

she: understand me, we can choose a sunny day .. (so she still seems super keen. i don't know, maybe if i'd pushed she would have braved the storm for an evening with kungfu panda?)




so that's how it ended. with me ignoring her and just maybe expecting a "ok i'm on the subway now." text a couple hours later. which didn't come.
i'm surprised there was no "what are you doing?" text, sometime in the evening.

now i don't know how to proceed. hopefully she'll message me this morning and from then it's easy but if she doesn't i'm gonna have to think of a way to re-open without looking like a douche, which i kinda feel i was.

 

[lao che]

Re: Idate then agree to W/E meet (heavy sexual pre-frame), but rain might stop p

i think i 've lost this one.

next day i sent a little animation of a girl in heavy wind.



her: that's blablabla a japanese cartoon character

me: i thought you would know that

her: i like japanese comics

me: did you survive the typhoon?

her: i mean animation. i stayed home yesterday.

me: you mean cartoon, like kungfu panda

her: it's not japanese. many young people only like japanese cartoon. there is only one chinese animation that could compete with japanese .... blalblabla

me: you say animation. i say cartoon. i think that means we can't be friends

her: (20 mins later) so do i (5 mins later) "you reply so slowly because i was slow

me: (10 mins later) (i'm not playing any game here this is when i saw the messages) so you stayed indoors, safe and sound

her: yes

me: good idea. you were right. too stormy to go outside

her: yeah. i don't wanna put myself in a difficult position.

me: today instead then, you can help me cook something nice for us to eat.

her: but i don't like cooking. even though i can do it well. (previously she'd sent me pics of the food she'd made and said she'd make it for me)

me: i'm the chef. you're the assistant.

her: you're a chef?

me: only at home.

her: so you live near [station]

me: yes. meet there. what time is good for you. let's say 18 30

her: this afternoon i have to mail some things back to my hometown

me: perfect.

her: i don't wanna go your home.


then she starts giving me a list of date ideas and tourist things to do together. "we can do this or this ..." i said, "that's a lot to do in one evening" and she sent about five messages after.


now, during our idate we talked about how boys would try to manipulate her, how they would offer false promises to get what they want, and so on. she told me about a guy who's sent her text messages every day for a year. i asked how she feels about that and she admitted she kinda likes it. so i called her out:

"here's what you're doing - you give him just enough attention, just enough hope, so that he will continue doing it. but you never want him for a boyfriend. you just like the attention and you'd be sad if it stopped"

she can't really argue with that and had to agree that, in fact, she was quite manipulative. this was in good humor, though. not in an argumentative way.


i image-search tricky little fox and sent her a pic of a book cover the tale of tricky fox, saying "i just found this book about you". and my plan was to chase-frame that she wants me to take her on dates, next thing i know she'll be trying to hold my hand etc etc but it didn't get that far.

her: i'm not a fox. i want to be a cat.

me: yeah you look like a kitten. behave like a fox

her: (1 hour later) how do you know that? if you reply slowly i will not reply you when i see the messages. i will behave the way that others behave.

now i wasn't playing any games at all. i don't know why she got so demanding all of a sudden.
so i go and have a shower,and clean the mold out of the cracks in the tiles, did a pretty good job with an old toothbrush. then i took my own sweet time shaving my balls. after a pleasant interlude i reply:

how do i know .. what?


i half expect a reply like: "too late, i was near your place, thought we could meet, too late now" which i've definitely had girls pull that trick before, but no reply came!

and that was that. 3 days later, nothing. despite the heavy investment previously. what's the general rule of thumb here - re-open or fade away?

 

[lao che]

Re: Idate then agree to W/E meet (heavy sexual pre-frame), but rain might stop p

i lost this one, radang.

was texting back and forth quite a bit. she invests a lot .. but i didn't wanna get caught in a trap so i escalated to see her put her money where her mouth is. suggested a meet over the weekend. she went radio silent and hasn't been heard from since! just for clarity i haven't tried to recontact, i believe she'd answer if i did, but i'm not going to.

meh never mind

 

[lao che]

Re: Idate then agree to W/E meet (heavy sexual pre-frame), but rain might stop p

i lost this one, radang.

was texting back and forth quite a bit. she invests a lot .. but i didn't wanna get caught in a trap so i escalated to see her put her money where her mouth is. suggested a meet over the weekend. she went radio silent and hasn't been heard from since! just for clarity i haven't tried to recontact, i believe she'd answer if i did, but i'm not going to.

meh never mind


NRN

 

[lao che]

Re: Idate then agree to W/E meet (heavy sexual pre-frame), but rain might stop p

i lost this one, radang.

was texting back and forth quite a bit. she invests a lot .. but i didn't wanna get caught in a trap so i escalated to see her put her money where her mouth is. suggested a meet over the weekend. she went radio silent and hasn't been heard from since! just for clarity i haven't tried to recontact, i believe she'd answer if i did, but i'm not going to.

meh never mind


NRN

 

[lao che]

Re: Idate then agree to W/E meet (heavy sexual pre-frame), but rain might stop p

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