FR+ I'm a Chode

[Mr.Rob]

As I was telling Gentle_Phrases earlier today I should drive myself to the nearest prison and hand the gnarliest life sentence murderer a tube of Vaseline and tell him to get to work on my ass because I'm clearly a pussy.

Haha hardcore self talk like this motivates me.

At the beach today I notice a hot girl sunbathing by herself and decide to approach (who wouldn't).

I don't even go direct, all I say is "nice view isn't it?" and we talk and exchange basic information. The conversation isn't really even great at all but we have good sexual vibe/chemistry going.

I was able to subcommunicate a man-to-woman interaction off the bat with my fundamentals.

However I solidified the man-to-woman interaction by walking up closer to her (in her personal space) and telling her "you seem to be in touch with your sexual side".

This was risky but bold and she ate it up and qualified herself. She gave me sex eyes and I immediately got an erection in front of everyone on the beach... for the 2nd time this week. Lol. The craziest part was we weren't even touching each other.

I made an excuse for her to stand up and I examined her tattoos. One tattoo read "life is short take me somewhere new" (or a variant of that) so I decided to do just that.

I took her by the hand and made up an obviously unreal story for where I was going to take her. She liked holding my hand.

We climbed up on a little 2 foot wall and overlooked all the people walking by. I got down and picked her up off the wall and asked her if I should hold her forever. She said I should and kissed my neck... it was sexy/cute.

I take her too my car and good banter and fun convo ensues.

Then things go south.

She is a bit tipsy (from drinking all day) and a bit flighty as a result (anyone that's been around party girls knows tipsy girls are flakier and more leafs in the wind then sober girls).

She kept bringing up how she was supposed to leave to go back to her city an hour or two ago and that she needed to find her friends (she had no phone).

This was the deal breaker.

She kept bringing up her friends (apparently it was a big deal and I guess in reality it probably was) and I let it dominate the frame rather than ignore it and pump her emotional state and get her talking about something different(tipsy girls also get distracted easily and I should've used this to my advantage).

She's saying she needs to use a phone to call her friends and I stupidly let her use mine (I think this was a mistake as well).

This gets her thinking about getting back to her friends even more (which were her ride back home.. and I think it was her boyfriend though not for sure).

However while making all these calls to her friends (who's phones are all dead) she's still being very sexual with me.

She would sit down dial, talk, then come over to me (I was laying on my car) and put her juicy ass right on my dick and hang out for a second before repeating the process.

I told her about a beautiful private beach down the road and how I wanted to show it too her. She said she really wanted to come with me but her she needed to find her friends.

She said if her friends answer and she can get confirmation they haven't left yet then she'd come with me (she sounded like she meant it).

Of course her friends phones are dead and none answer.

She puts the phone down and comes back over this time facing me and put her arms around me. She smells sexy... I'm hard from just imagining the smell... damn.

I tell her to close her eyes and she does. I ask her if she thinks I'm about to kiss her and she shakes her head "no". I tell her good because I'm not going to. I tell her to open her eyes and then I kiss her and pull away. She reinitiates and bites my lower lip and gives me some tongue and then goes back to trying to call her friends.

They of course don't answer.

If I could go back in time I would have commanded her to "suck my dick" right after or before kissing her just then as she seemed to be in a very sexual state and I think this would have made her say "fuck my friends this guy is badass Im going to suck his dick".

However I didn't do that.

She then says she has to go find them and gives my phone back and then gives me the "it was nice meeting you!" and leaves.

You ready for my epic amount of persistence/going for the hard push? Here it is!

I say as she's leaving "X come back!".. this seems pretty chasey to me and I think it did to her as well. She just looks back and smiles and continues walking.

What a tease. Now perhaps her friend situation was actually pretty important but nonetheless it would've taken 20 minutes to fuck somewhere in my car and I'm sure her situation wasn't THAT dire where 20 minutes would've maked or breaked her getting back to her friends in time to go home.

I could have fairly easily re-engaged her right as she was giving me my phone back (right before she left), cut the thread in her mind of getting back to her friends, get her focused on fun conversation/role play, blow past all the bullshit, and take her down the beach and fuck her in my car for 20 minutes and then return.

I choked when I was given that opportunity (it was a split second window and I froze) and she was off in the wind.

I was the left with half a boner and the beginning stages of blue balls. I take responsibility though, and next time I will derail the bullshit as soon as it arises (bullshit being anything that could potentially fuck up logistics) by breaking that shit off track and getting the girl focused on our interaction without outside interruptions.

AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Either way good lesson learned to be proactive.

Keep it pimpin gents!

-Rob

 

[Chase]

Re: FR+/FU: I'm a Chode

Rob-

Nice on the beach approach. Good job hanging in there despite the words not coming easily on this one.

The situations where you've just picked a girl up and she's repeatedly trying to get back to her friends and swinging back and forth between "I need to go to my friends!" and then escalating on you sexually are tough. They're always an iffy bet and are often down to just purely how persistent you are and how good you are at persisting in a smooth way that doesn't come across like chasing. These are the ones that basically amount to "How good of a salesman are you?" Your own exposure to situations like this in the past factors in here too - the first few times you try to pull a win out of a situation like this, it's draining, and you can give up right before you were about to get to intimacy just because you ran out of steam.

Calling her back wasn't a hard push - the hard push would be like this:

• 
  Her: I have to go find my friends - no one is answering.
  
  You: Stay here and let's do what we both want to do. You're about to leave, head back to your city, and never see me again - let's make it a trip worth remembering.
  
  Her: I can't! I'd love to, I just don't have time!
  
  You: How much time do you have?
  
  Her: I have to go now!
  
  You: When's your flight leave?
  
  Her: In - in 3 hours.
  
  You: Perfect. Let's enjoy each other for 8 minutes, you'll be out of here in 9, and you'll be leaving the beach with your friends minutes after that.
  
  Her: But I'm not sure where they are!
  
  You: If they're not in a hurry to find you, why should you be in a hurry to find them? You came out here for a good trip - let's make it a good trip.
  
  Her: All right - fine, you're right. They're obviously not trying to find me.
  
  You: You owe yourself a little fun.
  
  Her: I do!

That's a hard push. If you can do something like that, you can turn around some of these otherwise intractable situations some of the time, by a.) resolving her logical arguments, while b.) seeding an enticing emotional/sexual alternative. Disarm the logical, excite the emotional, and you will sometimes snatch victory from the jaws of girls-walking-off-to-go-find-their-friends-who-aren't-even-searching-for-them.

Chase