i'm auto rejecting a girl i care about

[foggy]

I've been seeing a girl, and I developed some feelings for her. First, a little backstory. hahah.

We hung out 4-5 times now, all at my place. The first time we hung out, she hinted that she was looking for a relationship, but I fumbled on my frame and told her I'm not looking for a relationship, ever. She still wanted to hang out.

I tried kissing her a few times, but she turned her head away every time. The most we have done is cuddled.

We connect very well, and had some relationship talks. I asked her relationship questions and told her why I was scared to get into a relationship. She was chasing me for a bit. She would text me twice a day, and also send me multiple texts if I didn't answer.

She went out of town for a week. During this time she was still texting me like every day. However, over the weekend I didn't hear from her for a few days. Then she texted me to hang out last night.

Last night we hung out and I was just totally uncomfortable. Just wasn't feeling relaxed. She brought her guitar over and played the guitar for me. We didn't cuddle or anything. And, also the conversation wasn't the greatest. It felt dry compared to our previous conversations. It was just SO platonic (there was touch though). The spark just isn't there anymore for me. Looking back, I could have made so many sexual remarks but because I like her, I'm afraid to mess it up. I touched her face, and she jolted her head away...

So now I feel like an idiot. I feel like she's lost attraction for me because I'm boring. I've invested a lot of time into this chick, and just don't even know where to take it! I just deleted her off Facebook and even deleted her number and I'm feeling hurt. I'm going into auto-rejection, even though nothing has happened yet.

I also feel like I set the wrong sexual frames. I made a mistake in a story I told her and I feel like she thinks I judge girls who have sex.

What should I do? I don't know whether to just next her, or try to further this relationship. My feelings for her are preventing me from thinking properly! I feel like she's going/gone into auto rejection. She's not texting me as much as she used to. I probably won't be able to see her until next week, or maybe even for another few weeks after that because she went back out of town.

I was never acting all boyfriend-y. Should I give her more compliments and stuff and act warmer?

 

[JimmyB]

Before you get into relationship talks and whatnot, you need to be sexual with this girl. You don't necessarily have to have sex, but you need to be touching and kissing or messing around. You should be headed towards the direction of eventual sex if you like this girl. You were probably feeling uncomfortable last night because you know you should be getting it on with this girl. Are you physically attracted to her? If so you should act on that attraction! You should want to kiss a girl you are attracted to and care about. She probably just turned away because she was nervous or you were a little clumsy about it. In that case just restart and get some light touching and physical contact going. Build your way up. Gotta just go in for it at some point. Did you ask her what the problem was when she turned away? You're getting way too into your own head on this one. Be more focused on action and possibly getting rejected, rather than trying to make everything go perfectly. With this particular girl, let her go out of town and just see her when she comes back. Keep minimal contact or respond when she reaches out, but just plan on seeing her when she comes back. Attraction builds a lot over longer periods of time, so I'm sure she will be much warmer by then. Make sure you go for the kiss or make a move.

 

[jhonsmith]

Before you get into relationship talks and so forth, you should be sexual with this young lady. You don't as a matter of course need to have intercourse, however you should touch and kissing or messing around. You ought to be going towards the heading of possible sex on the off chance that you like this young lady. You were likely feeling uncomfortable the previous evening since you know you ought to get it on with this young lady. Is it accurate to say that you are physically pulled in to her? On the off chance that so you ought to follow up on that fascination! You ought to need to kiss a young lady you are pulled in to and think about. She presumably simply dismissed on the grounds that she was anxious or you were somewhat awkward about it. All things considered simply restart and get some light touching and physical contact going. Develop your direction. Gotta simply go in for it eventually. Did you ask her what the issue was the point at which she dismissed? You're getting far too into your own particular head on this one. Be more centered around activity and perhaps getting rejected, as opposed to attempting to make everything go superbly. With this specific young lady, let her leave town and simply see her when she returns. Keep negligible contact or react when she connects, however simply anticipate seeing her when she returns. Fascination constructs a great deal over longer timeframes, so I'm certain she will be much hotter by then. Ensure you go for the kiss or make a move.