I'm looking to hire a coach that would work with me for a few months

[justonemoreperson]

As the title suggests. I'm a 26 year old man that's never had a real life girlfriend. I have decent looks, tall, and a quick learner. The biggest thing holding back my own success is my mental. My mental is weak and I shut myself out from trying.

I went on my first real date yesterday, we walked and talked in the park, vibe was good, accidental touching on both sides, she was pulling my hands away if my touch lingered. At one point walking back to my car, our touch got heavier, I held her hands and was teaching her how to dance. We were both aroused but I didn't know where to pull her. I was 40 minutes from my house and she didn't live alone. The only option was to do her in the back of car, but I didn't know how to smoothly go about it or maybe I just didn't have the balls to do it. But I think that was my time to pull her cus she never got that aroused or touchy afterwards. I grabbed beer from the gas station and we sat on a table outside and drank a beer and talked. Then she said it was late and I dropped her off. I think she was disappointed that I didn't try to fuck her. I really wanted to, but I didn't know how to go about it. She was 30, so older and more experienced than me. She also mentioned early she had just broken up a month ago, so she was emotionally unavailable. Everything suggests that she wanted to get fucked, and I wasn't good enough to accomplish it.

But I want to change that. So please, if you'd like to help me grow send me a message.

 

[isildur1]

honestly i think you're being too harsh on yourself- everyone messes up seductions - having more dates and experiences will give you opportunities to rethink- reanalyse and observe where you're going wrong.

Usually with experience it will be easier to be smooth and you're confidence in seductions will increase micro-analysing one or two dates experience is usually a sign that you need to open up your breadth of options more often than not

 

[justonemoreperson]

honestly i think you're being too harsh on yourself- everyone messes up seductions - having more dates and experiences will give you opportunities to rethink- reanalyse and observe where you're going wrong.

Usually with experience it will be easier to be smooth and you're confidence in seductions will increase micro-analysing one or two dates experience is usually a sign that you need to open up your breadth of options more often than not

Hello, thank you

I am a little hard on myself yes but that's my way of learning. If I had 10 dates, I will micro-analyze the 10 dates. I'm glad that I've read enough gc to be able to look back at my mistakes and pin point what probably went wrong. My biggest gripe is putting myself out there and exposing myself to failure, I am getting better at it

 

[isildur1]

Hello, thank you

I am a little hard on myself yes but that's my way of learning. If I had 10 dates, I will micro-analyze the 10 dates. I'm glad that I've read enough gc to be able to look back at my mistakes and pin point what probably went wrong. My biggest gripe is putting myself out there and exposing myself to failure, I am getting better at it

like i said a lot of this game is about volume - because from one individual date there's not much anyone can say or plan that can fix the issue - you really need 20-40 dates to analyse trends to see if it's you thats the problem or not

say i go on one single date and that woman happened to be a super conservative religious girl that takes at least 3 dates to have sex with - whatever the plan anyone or any coach gives you is not going to fix her issues which are nothing to do with you .

If you have 20-40 dates and more experience you will be able to try out different tactics and see if you get trends - then someone can pinpoint who's really at fault- if you have 20 dates that lead no where then we can actually determine that it's something wrong with your strategy- if you have 1 date only that goes wrong then micro analysing that one single date is just borderline useless because it could just have been with a girl that wasn't that into you



i'd recommend meeting wingman in your area and really committing to doing more cold approaches and really putting yourself out there https://mindful-masculinity.org/202...hose-starting-out-on-their-seduction-journey/ it's easier said than done but it makes a huge difference

when i was at university i managed just 2 dates during 3 years - when i did daygame consistently i was able to get roughly 30 dates in 6 months which was a massive increase for me - it made a huge difference and i was capable of actually implimenting some strategy on dates that would foster lays but even with a strong system or gameplan you will still meet some conservative or frigid women that won't fuck on the first date.

https://mindful-masculinity.org/202...ay-lay-guide-planning-texting-and-escalating/

 

[justonemoreperson]

it could just have been with a girl that wasn't that into you

But why wasn't she not that into me? I believe I have the power to enamor any woman if I can calibrate myself to her. Maybe that's not reality, but I like holding myself responsible for my failures and successes. But you're right, I need more reference points.

I got another date lined up for tomorrow. This time, my texting massively improved. First date I ended up messaging the girl through the dating app every day, hours messaging, until the time of the date. This time around, I transitioned from the app to texting in just a few minutes and a few lines of text, and set up a date for tmw all at a fraction of the time it took the first time. I will make sure on this date I am more assertive and confident with my pulling. I have no issues making conversation, it's the masculine I want to fuck her energy that I am a bit timid about, but I will get it.

I need to start cold approaching, all my dates so far came from online. I get a good amount of matches but I'd like to develop the skill of being able to bed the beautiful women you'll meet in the day time that won't be on dating apps or wouldn't match me on dating apps. To be honest I'm intimidated by cold approach. Having a process or structure to follow would make things easier.

 

[KJ Francis]

To be honest I'm intimidated by cold approach. Having a process or structure to follow would make things easier.

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[Atlas IV]

Welcome to the forum

But why wasn't she not that into me? I believe I have the power to enamor any woman if I can calibrate myself to her. Maybe that's not reality, but I like holding myself responsible for my failures and successes. But you're right, I need more reference points.

You just went on your very first date and you already think you have the power to make any woman fall for you? That's a pretty high bar you're setting for yourself.

I need to start cold approaching, all my dates so far came from online. I get a good amount of matches but I'd like to develop the skill of being able to bed the beautiful women you'll meet in the day time that won't be on dating apps or wouldn't match me on dating apps. To be honest I'm intimidated by cold approach. Having a process or structure to follow would make things easier.

Yep, cold approach is definitely the right idea. The newbie assignment is a great way to get started. There's also like 1,000 articles on GirlsChase about it.

 

[justonemoreperson]

Thanks for the links! I will read up on that.

You just went on your very first date and you already think you have the power to make any woman fall for you? That's a pretty high bar you're setting for yourself.

Indeed, I hold myself to very high standards because I know my capabilities. Just last night I fucked my date with less than a 2 hour pull time on a cute girl that wasn't dtf. And still, despite accomplishing things last night that I've never accomplished before, my mind was focused on the failure of not providing the sexual experience that I know I'm capable of delivering, cus that's just the kind of man that I am. A perfectionist.

 

[isildur1]

Thanks for the links! I will read up on that.



Indeed, I hold myself to very high standards because I know my capabilities. Just last night I fucked my date with less than a 2 hour pull time on a cute girl that wasn't dtf. And still, despite accomplishing things last night that I've never accomplished before, my mind was focused on the failure of not providing the sexual experience that I know I'm capable of delivering, cus that's just the kind of man that I am. A perfectionist.

well looks like you're on the up and achieving more than 99 percent of men do in their dating lives - be grateful for what you've got - most men don't land even a coffee date with a decent looking woman let alone get laid within 2 hours - congratulations

 

[Skills]

As the title suggests. I'm a 26 year old man that's never had a real life girlfriend. I have decent looks, tall, and a quick learner. The biggest thing holding back my own success is my mental. My mental is weak and I shut myself out from trying.

I went on my first real date yesterday, we walked and talked in the park, vibe was good, accidental touching on both sides, she was pulling my hands away if my touch lingered. At one point walking back to my car, our touch got heavier, I held her hands and was teaching her how to dance. We were both aroused but I didn't know where to pull her. I was 40 minutes from my house and she didn't live alone. The only option was to do her in the back of car, but I didn't know how to smoothly go about it or maybe I just didn't have the balls to do it. But I think that was my time to pull her cus she never got that aroused or touchy afterwards. I grabbed beer from the gas station and we sat on a table outside and drank a beer and talked. Then she said it was late and I dropped her off. I think she was disappointed that I didn't try to fuck her. I really wanted to, but I didn't know how to go about it. She was 30, so older and more experienced than me. She also mentioned early she had just broken up a month ago, so she was emotionally unavailable. Everything suggests that she wanted to get fucked, and I wasn't good enough to accomplish it.

But I want to change that. So please, if you'd like to help me grow send me a message.

This is all fixable...

 

[justonemoreperson]

well looks like you're on the up and achieving more than 99 percent of men do in their dating lives - be grateful for what you've got - most men don't land even a coffee date with a decent looking woman let alone get laid within 2 hours - congratulations

Thanks dude. I believe we all have it in ourselves to become great with women, it's our fate as men to do so. I am grateful for having all my limbs, a working dick, and this website to guide men like us. There is nothing special about me, I just have the desire to climb out of the hole I've been in for most of my life.

 

[ajacksb]

You're making good progress man. I'd encourage you to find a mentor though. Nothing can replace real world mentoring by a man who knows what the fuck he's talking about. To get the most objective advice, you're going to have to pay somebody.

I'd search youtube for guys talking about dating skills in your area. Find someone you think you click with and hit him up for real world mentoring. That would be a good start.