I was attempting to escalate with a woman at a party, but she kept throwing the "I'm not that type of girl" phrase my way. I'm not sure if an article has been written up for this phrase, but if not, how should I respond? She was very much wanting to sleep with me. I tried talking about how women's sexuality are suppressed, and that women should be able to sleep with whomever they want, but that didn't seem to work. Now, I wasn't in the best of positions logistically, as she didn't let me bring her up to my room (bunch of friends would block), so I had to go into another area. As a result, I was devoid of protection and couldn't slowly work her clothes off in typical escalations, as I would have to either leave to get protection or convince her to come upstairs, and leaving wasn't really an option. So only chance here was to verbally convince her. I did a fairly good job at getting her sexually excited, but she kept saying that phrase whenever I would suggest we move. In any event, for future reference, assuming I didn't mess up logistically and am in a situation where I can actually escalate properly, what's the best counter to this phrase?
Tell us exactly what you did during the escalation. What body language was she giving when you say she was " sexually excited "? I ask because Ive seen some guys define sexually excited as the girl's being nervous, or smiling, or happily talking about sex. Or other stuff. Was she touching you? Sometimes it's best to avoid talking about sex until you have done it with her. If it isn't done correctly it makes some girls on the edge. It's makes them realize what your intentions are and they sort of block you off. As when she said " I'm not that type of girl ", that's just a front. Seems like she could be that very type of girl to hook up quickly.
Best thing to do next time is always have your condom in your pocket. When I was 16 I had a girlfriend and we were making out in a public bathroom and she told me she wanted the dick RIGHT NOW. Know what? I didn't have a condom and I didn't want to risk sex without protection. I learned from that and now I carry a condom everywhere except church lol.
Troy
Best thing to do next time is always have your condom in your pocket. When I was 16 I had a girlfriend and we were making out in a public bathroom and she told me she wanted the dick RIGHT NOW. Know what? I didn't have a condom and I didn't want to risk sex without protection. I learned from that and now I carry a condom everywhere except church lol.
Troy
Another thing I messed up, ended up making out on the dance floor, then we moved to the other room and made out there. From what I've read its best not to kiss unless you're in a position to sleep with her, correct? Any event, we were making out, she was moving her hands all over me, saying stuff like "Oh my god", and putting her hands down my pants. From what I could tell, she has probably done a lot of quick hookups in the past, but now tells her friends to prevent her from doing that. But ya, I will for sure have a condom in my pocket from now on haha. Just wasn't expecting it, as I was working the bar shift for two hours before that happened. She was actually the one who chatted me up when I was working bar, and told me to find her once I was done. Guess I should have left to get a condom prior to talking to her.
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Haha I haven't had a condom in my pocket for a week or so, just got lazy and this morning it occurred to me to worry since there's a girl I like at school and I was thinking of trying to get her out on an instant date today. Well as luck would have it, she was alone in the office this morning and I had a nice chat with her with good fundamentals. But discovered she is both married and pregnant, haha... well, pregnant women can be horny but I doubt the lack of a condom will be an issue today... but, get your shit sorted haha. Well as to your interaction it's clear that where you fucked up was in lacking plausible deniability, do as Rdawg (IIRC) does and keep a bottle of Grey Goose in your room. Or another seducer (Mr.Rob?) keeps a premium labelled bottle that he fills up with the cheapest bullshit whiskey(?) available, which is even funnier, haha. So you just say to her, I need to get in the mood, come and join me in a quick shot... easy peasy. And of course, have good fundamentals and build attraction by flirting, chase/sexual framing etc so that she's at least somewhat expecting your escalation or she may refuse it. And don't make out with her cos the tension and anticipation will be ruined, ALSO the deniability. By the way if you believe she's a slut who hooks up willy nilly this could have leaked out by mistake and made her feel a slut and activate ASD, take care of your inner game as you really need to LOVE women and embrace their sluttiness, just because she hooked up before doesn't make her easy, you have to respect her choices and get out your A game brother.
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