I'm so confused! This girl is driving me wild!

[Mrha]

Two weeks ago, I started talking to this cute girl I met, and this girl completely drove me wild. We started on Facebook, after a while I asked her to meet up and she happily agreed. The following day, we met at a park, walked around, flirted, talked, bonded, held hands and even kissed, everything that epitomizes a perfect first date. But I did something stupid when I was caught up in the moment; I asked her to be my girlfriend. We were just so into each other. At first she agreed, but later she texted me saying she wanted to "get to know each other more". I complied with her wish and arranged a second date. The date never happened. On the last day she canceled because she was "busy studying for final exams". So I asked her when's a time that she's free, and she said she was busy until school ended which was completely understandable. But during the two weeks of final exams, I saw countless Snapchats of her out karaoking, dancing, out having fun with friends.

"In a relationship" was the first thing I saw on Facebook yesterday, and it wasn't with me. This girl who was crazily in love with me was in a relationship with another guy! Why didn't she want to go on a second date when the first one went so well? Why did she choose another guy over me? What did I do wrong, was it just timing?

 

[Mr.Rob]

Mrha whats up homie.

First off I want to say you kind of kooked this one by being overeager. BUT not all is lost it sounds like you have a decent enough handle on things dating wise so your not like a hardcase newbie that cant even talk to women. Women are attracted to you and it sounds like you have a decent enough vibe by the sounds of it which means there are more women that will want you around the corner!

This was a good learning experience for you because now you know to NEVER do that again. And by "that" I mean ask a girl to be your girlfriend ON THE FIRST DATE BEFORE YOU SLEPT WITH HER! That's a no no homie.

It's the woman's job to chase for a relationship not the mans. The man is simply after sex and that's it (even if you do actually want more you gotta play the game how it's supposed to be played) for now.

Think about it, on GirlsChase we learn to have abundance (having many options with women, or at least simulating that as best as possible if you don't in reality) which leads to not getting overly worked up about any "one" girl. What would a man have done in your shoes on your date if he had 6 sexy women at his disposal back home? He probably would've treated it like any other date and took her to bed and then continue getting to know her to see if it was a girl he'd actually think about replacing the other six women with if that's what he decided to do.

So all and all I think you creeped her out by asking her to be your girlfriend before having sex with her it simply makes you look weak and in scarcity rather than abundance. Women want men with abundance because they don't need them they "want" them. Theres a difference, seek to be the latter my friend!

I know there are bunch of articles by Chase on this topic I don't have time to redirect you towards them but do some searching and learn what to do next time.

For now I'd not worry about this girl and continue meeting LOTS of women and get to a higher place of abundance. The only way your going to get this girl you currently are "crazy" for is if you get into a relationship of some sort with a hot girl and that girl sees you getting attention/attraction from other women.

Good luck,

-Rob

 

[Mrha]

Hey Rob, thanks so much for the reply, it was really helpful. I'll definitely read up on some related articles.