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Posted/wrote this one up because I know I'm not gonna see this girl again. I realize I have a lot of reports I could write up but have found that when I do write one up it kind of messes with my head a bit somehow and gets me thinking about the girl more than Id like to (and then we might meet and I might anticipate and be nervous which is something completely out of character for me but I saw happen with each of the girls I wrote detailed reports about in the past).
Allegedly, I think that many of the advanced guys on the boards have admitted to (after getting many approaches under their belt first) get to a point where they stop going out specifically to meet women and instead just go about their days and run into women while going about their everyday lives. I set a goal for myself to have a set number of girls met for every week and in the effort to do so found that I could do the same; instead of going out specifically to meet women I could just walk around and focus on capitalizing on opportunities when they present themselves. I think that getting lots of approaches down helps to ground that impulse in you where see hot girl --> go seduce her and then after that you even often find you have to tell yourself the opposite that "oh man I really want to approach but I shouldn't despite wanting to so very badly , because I'll be late for class".
This FR was just impulse and capitalizing on an opportunity in acting on impulse.
In the gym I had worked out and had worked out hard and seen a few girls noticing me. I noticed one girl who I’d seen before at night but who wasn’t a regular for daytime (a new girl). I have a rule about no doing anything but working out when I'm working out (so it comes before girls, for any serious workout day). Worked out hit my weights and then got done.
I got off the gym and sat in my car. The girl I had noticed before (and had seen her looking at me when I was doing my heavy dumbbell rows) was parked next to me. I had been sitting in my car for about 30 seconds she was parked in the car to my right and went to her car.
Noticed her and didn’t really mean to act but did so acting on impulse (my fundamentals were good through this so the gap between us didn’t matter too much)
It’s funny lately I’ve been finding I'm a pretty bad predictor of whether or not a girl is gonna see me for a day 2 (and that it’s tough to predict whether a girl is into you and will see you for a day 2 again or not; Chase has said that it’s the girls reference point so from your perspective you never get to really figure out what was going on in her head through it all). Been finding lately that some of the girls that are seemingly really into me aren’t up for it and don’t hit me up, and conversely found myself making progress/getting results with a girl or two recently that were really dispassionate seeming and not-into me seeming on the surface. Go figure I guess haha
Allegedly, I think that many of the advanced guys on the boards have admitted to (after getting many approaches under their belt first) get to a point where they stop going out specifically to meet women and instead just go about their days and run into women while going about their everyday lives. I set a goal for myself to have a set number of girls met for every week and in the effort to do so found that I could do the same; instead of going out specifically to meet women I could just walk around and focus on capitalizing on opportunities when they present themselves. I think that getting lots of approaches down helps to ground that impulse in you where see hot girl --> go seduce her and then after that you even often find you have to tell yourself the opposite that "oh man I really want to approach but I shouldn't despite wanting to so very badly , because I'll be late for class".
This FR was just impulse and capitalizing on an opportunity in acting on impulse.
In the gym I had worked out and had worked out hard and seen a few girls noticing me. I noticed one girl who I’d seen before at night but who wasn’t a regular for daytime (a new girl). I have a rule about no doing anything but working out when I'm working out (so it comes before girls, for any serious workout day). Worked out hit my weights and then got done.
I got off the gym and sat in my car. The girl I had noticed before (and had seen her looking at me when I was doing my heavy dumbbell rows) was parked next to me. I had been sitting in my car for about 30 seconds she was parked in the car to my right and went to her car.
Noticed her and didn’t really mean to act but did so acting on impulse (my fundamentals were good through this so the gap between us didn’t matter too much)
She had seemed pretty into me, but I texted her an ice breaker text and she didn’t text back. My guess is nerves (possibly) but more that phenomenon where if you deep dive/spend longer talking to a girl before agreeing to meet her, the less the chances that she texts you back.Roll window down (shes standing about to get in her car)
Hey shh Hey what's your name I've seen you a lot before … you go at night usually huh
Yea what's your name
I’m Gem… its funny that you're here all the people here are old in the morning
Yeah I had work and got off school (something like that)
Where do you go to school
I go to lb (sister college of ours)
Oh I go to cp
She deep dives me: what do you study
Engineering
What kind of engineering
Civil
And do you like it
its all right I guess a lot of math what do you study
I’m doing law and then I wanna get my mba in x state
What really isn’t that a lot of work a lot of years in school
Yeah but I love school too much to leave it now
Law ? you're a smart girl then huh haha ? you want to travel don’t you leave (our city)
I really do (she tells me quite a lot here about her career plans and all that, I relate to her too about wanting to travel and stuff and how we gotta leave this crummy town, deep dive her well in 5 minutes about a topic or two more that slip my mind); talk some more and agree to get food together and get her number, all while sitting in my car haha
It’s funny lately I’ve been finding I'm a pretty bad predictor of whether or not a girl is gonna see me for a day 2 (and that it’s tough to predict whether a girl is into you and will see you for a day 2 again or not; Chase has said that it’s the girls reference point so from your perspective you never get to really figure out what was going on in her head through it all). Been finding lately that some of the girls that are seemingly really into me aren’t up for it and don’t hit me up, and conversely found myself making progress/getting results with a girl or two recently that were really dispassionate seeming and not-into me seeming on the surface. Go figure I guess haha