Hey guys, this is my second post. I look forward to your insight on the coming topic. If you like, check out my brief self-introduction in my first post, found over in Field Reports>Journals.
The situation is thus: Here I am on GC, and I need you to help me remedy a shaky situation I've put myself into on my dating website. To cut to the chase, so to speak, I'm garnering a lot of interest on there, but only since I (wait for it...) put up the main picture of myself as one from about 3 years ago when I also happened to be about 30 lbs. lighter. Now, I know what you're thinking, but you're going to have to take my word on this--I did not post this picture to intentionally trick girls into thinking I look totally different than I actually do. Further in my defense, there is also another photo on my profile of me from about 2 weeks ago. The third and final photo is a zoomed out shot of me playing guitar, but that's a superfluous detail.
The reason I posted this picture as my main picture in the first place is because (taking the advice from the Plenty of Fish article by Ricardus [I think] and from Chase's forum post about online dating 101) it is the only picture of myself where I am looking down, and away from the camera. Well, what do you know--it absolutely worked just like the OKCupid! study claimed it would. But the predicament is that I now have a lot of messages going with various women who, more often than not, reached out to me first and are thinking I look like my main profile picture when I look considerably different.
So I need advice on how to proceed. In my opinion, meeting these girls in person and having them potentially be disappointed/feeling mislead about my true appearance would be, at best, embarrassing and awkward, and worse yet potentially damaging to my reputation. Maybe I'm being paranoid, but it may even be deemed a deceitful enough move on my part that it gets these girls to (somehow, though I don't know exactly how) go out and message other girls and warn them about me or something.
What should I do?
The situation is thus: Here I am on GC, and I need you to help me remedy a shaky situation I've put myself into on my dating website. To cut to the chase, so to speak, I'm garnering a lot of interest on there, but only since I (wait for it...) put up the main picture of myself as one from about 3 years ago when I also happened to be about 30 lbs. lighter. Now, I know what you're thinking, but you're going to have to take my word on this--I did not post this picture to intentionally trick girls into thinking I look totally different than I actually do. Further in my defense, there is also another photo on my profile of me from about 2 weeks ago. The third and final photo is a zoomed out shot of me playing guitar, but that's a superfluous detail.
The reason I posted this picture as my main picture in the first place is because (taking the advice from the Plenty of Fish article by Ricardus [I think] and from Chase's forum post about online dating 101) it is the only picture of myself where I am looking down, and away from the camera. Well, what do you know--it absolutely worked just like the OKCupid! study claimed it would. But the predicament is that I now have a lot of messages going with various women who, more often than not, reached out to me first and are thinking I look like my main profile picture when I look considerably different.
So I need advice on how to proceed. In my opinion, meeting these girls in person and having them potentially be disappointed/feeling mislead about my true appearance would be, at best, embarrassing and awkward, and worse yet potentially damaging to my reputation. Maybe I'm being paranoid, but it may even be deemed a deceitful enough move on my part that it gets these girls to (somehow, though I don't know exactly how) go out and message other girls and warn them about me or something.
What should I do?
