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Hey all,
This is not a bragging post, more one out of frustration. For some reason or another I am having attainability problems despite behaving humble and more warm than I would have in the past. Luckily not with all girls, but with more of them I have trouble with getting them to open up, despite feeling that they are interested and catching them staring at me through reflections. Also escalation windows seem to be much shorter. It is as if they feel more anticipation than in the past. I suspect that this has to do with me getting better sleep and working out 4-5 days a week for maybe 2-3 hours a day consistently with a lot of variety on exercises. Again: not trying to brag.
Example 1: This cute barista who I tried to flirt with behaved blunt despite that I was very friendly. So I found myself a spot to sit, and as fate would have it a pretty blonde sat next to me and after a 15 minutes interaction I got her number. When I was putting in the digits I heard a nervous laughter and lo and behold: it was that same barrista who was observing us. Obviously jealous.
Example 2: A cute girl who smiled at me at the distance who I approached was all giggly and friendly: but she didn';t really put her guard down. She did comply though, so that is something. However I felt she was really nervous and when I disengaged I saw her bowing out as if she had to lose some pressure.
Example 3: Girl who I saw at the gym who kept giving me very obvious stares. She was doing a rowing exercise on a bench (sometimes I think they do that on purpose because they have to bend over to show some ass). She had headphones on and when I was near she didn't make any eye contact. So I told her to take out her headphones and tried to get her to open up. I received deadpan answers and felt quite unwelcome, it was actually the same vibe I had as the barrista from example 1. Well that was as much awkwardness as I could take so I bowed out from the social pressure since there were more than one regulars around. During closing times, she went to the exit but I felt an "autorejecting, disappointed vibe" from her. But then again maybe my gut was a little off, who knows. The stares in the past were very obvious though, prolonged and absolutely not under the radar.
This is not a crying post, I have plenty of girls chasing me luckily, but I keep missing out very cute ones because they think I am unattainable!
To summarize:
I think I am coming off as too intimidating to a lot of girls. I get signs of interest but when I interact with them they seem to be really on guard. I am already very friendly. Also escalation windows have become shorter, sometimes I do not even have the time to decide if I like a girl enough: they autoreject real fast. In the past I had more time to decide.
Some advice would be appreciated.
This is not a bragging post, more one out of frustration. For some reason or another I am having attainability problems despite behaving humble and more warm than I would have in the past. Luckily not with all girls, but with more of them I have trouble with getting them to open up, despite feeling that they are interested and catching them staring at me through reflections. Also escalation windows seem to be much shorter. It is as if they feel more anticipation than in the past. I suspect that this has to do with me getting better sleep and working out 4-5 days a week for maybe 2-3 hours a day consistently with a lot of variety on exercises. Again: not trying to brag.
Example 1: This cute barista who I tried to flirt with behaved blunt despite that I was very friendly. So I found myself a spot to sit, and as fate would have it a pretty blonde sat next to me and after a 15 minutes interaction I got her number. When I was putting in the digits I heard a nervous laughter and lo and behold: it was that same barrista who was observing us. Obviously jealous.
Example 2: A cute girl who smiled at me at the distance who I approached was all giggly and friendly: but she didn';t really put her guard down. She did comply though, so that is something. However I felt she was really nervous and when I disengaged I saw her bowing out as if she had to lose some pressure.
Example 3: Girl who I saw at the gym who kept giving me very obvious stares. She was doing a rowing exercise on a bench (sometimes I think they do that on purpose because they have to bend over to show some ass). She had headphones on and when I was near she didn't make any eye contact. So I told her to take out her headphones and tried to get her to open up. I received deadpan answers and felt quite unwelcome, it was actually the same vibe I had as the barrista from example 1. Well that was as much awkwardness as I could take so I bowed out from the social pressure since there were more than one regulars around. During closing times, she went to the exit but I felt an "autorejecting, disappointed vibe" from her. But then again maybe my gut was a little off, who knows. The stares in the past were very obvious though, prolonged and absolutely not under the radar.
This is not a crying post, I have plenty of girls chasing me luckily, but I keep missing out very cute ones because they think I am unattainable!
To summarize:
I think I am coming off as too intimidating to a lot of girls. I get signs of interest but when I interact with them they seem to be really on guard. I am already very friendly. Also escalation windows have become shorter, sometimes I do not even have the time to decide if I like a girl enough: they autoreject real fast. In the past I had more time to decide.
Some advice would be appreciated.
