Inexperienced girl

[Whizzy]

I recently started talking to a girl in one of my classes and took her to bed next day. However today (4 days later) she is saying she isn't sure she wants a relationship yet and doesn't want to be in one because it's not fair to me. She wants to take the time to get to know me as friends first (no touching or kissing) and when I asked her if she could resist kissing said that she has no urge to what so ever. The conversation ended with her saying she doesn't want anything but to hangout for now so I told her that we were essentially over. The only reason that I can think of her getting mad at me is playing my music when she wanted to play hers and not being the white knight she pictured in general. I know I might as well just forget about her, but any idea how to turn this around as it could make class interesting

 

[PinotNoir]

Are you sure she's inexperienced? Usually if an inexperienced girl has sex, she doesn't want to then be friends only.

This is tough because you told her that it's over. It will make you look weak going back on your words and trying to be with her.

You could maybe say, "We make better lovers than friends," but you don't want to dish out an ultimatum like, "Either we're lovers or we're friends."

I don't really see a way out of this situation. I think the only thing you can do is wait and see if she comes back -- if she will one day talk/call you and say that she wants to date or keep seeing each other.

You can still accept just "hanging out," but only if one-on-one. Then just turn it into a seduction.

Any idea why she went cold after taking her to bed?

 

[Whizzy]

She texted me about an hour ago saying she was sorry and everything. I think she went cold because she was saying things like "This is too fast", "I'm not like this", "Was this right?". Those phrases added more credibility to her being less experienced beyond what she has told me so far.

 

[Whizzy]

After talking to her today it seems like she just wants to backpedal because she isnt sure that she wants a relationship right now and doesnt want to hurt me...which is silly but not sure how to handle it since she wants to start from scratch (no physical contact) which goes against any real capability to move forward.

 

[PinotNoir]

After talking to her today it seems like she just wants to backpedal because she isnt sure that she wants a relationship right now and doesnt want to hurt me...which is silly but not sure how to handle it since she wants to start from scratch (no physical contact) which goes against any real capability to move forward.

Looks like she's trying to slot you in the Orbiter role -- like a backup plan. I say forget it, unless she adds value to you as a friend (invites you to good parties, willing to have sex again, etc.), else ditch it. Best to get out early.

 

[Whizzy]

That's what I'm thinking, one of her excuses was what is she meets someone else on campus that she likes. After today I'm going to drop her if things don't improve at all, her friends already hate me so doesn't seem like a game that can be won easily and it terms of effort, not worth it i want to say

 

[Whizzy]

Well she is going to party at another school this weekend, not really the best sign. She keeps trying to disqualify me I feel by saying how great a friends we could be and how she is a jerk so why would I want her. I tried ignoring her and smiling like year right. I'm considering giving her radio silence for a while, but is it really worth it at this point?