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I am in a long term relationship and seeking to improve it. We have been together for 5 years. I am stuck on a few points and would appreciate advice.
Goals:
-Have sex more often. 5-7 times per week versus 1-
2.
-Increase her level of investment.

Steps I am working on:
Improving my looks to be more desirable. Working to lose 10 pounds and improve wardrobe.
Working to be more dominant in and out of the bedroom.
Learning what she likes sexually.
Working to have her chase more than me.

Things that are slowing the process:
I was not very dominant and waited too long for her to be ready for sex. Probably missed tons of opportunities. First few years we were lucky to have sex once per month. I brought up the importance of our being more sexually active and that improved it to at least once per month. Then I began working on dominance and that has helped. So the precedent was set that we didn't have sex much. How would you proceed to stress the importance of more frequent sex after it has not been there previously?

She was a virgin and I'm fairly certain she had never touched herself. She does not understand the female anatomy. I'm trying to teach her or have her read books but she is uninterested for the most part. So along those lines she always stops sex early saying she feels good and can't continue. She wants to have intercourse too fast before she is warmed up. I think that is hurting her from getting there. I try to compliment and praise improvements. She says she cums and feels great but based on prior women she is not nearly at orgasm stage. Basically she won't let me get her to that point. Touching, tounge, or intercouse she will always stop early and finish me with her hand. Any other thoughts for progressing her faster in her learning process? I feel like she does not want to learn or truly enjoy it.
She also has become good at blowjobs and enjoying it, however will nit let me return the favor. She enjoys it when I do, but stops after a few minutes. I have experience and have pleased many women so I don't think all the sudden I don't know what to do. I am trying all kinds of things to find the sweet spots.

She is generally uncomfortable naked unless we are having sex or taking a shower. Shower time rarely leads to sex as if it was just a chore. Should I not shower with her?

She works long hours leaves at 5 am and comes home at 7 pm. Gym before work and usually yoga ir something after if she gets out of work esrlier. So I have just 2 hours to work with in the evenings. This limited time is spent on her getting ready for the next day and maybe spending time with me. Making her lunch, doing a load of laundry, eating dinner, packing her stuff for yhe next day. Rather than nag that she should spend time with me I am working on establishing hobbies to be less available and make her chase me at this time. I just feel like I am waiting for her at this time and maybe get 10 minutes to spend with her before she is tired. Most likely I'm her last thing to do if she gets done before bed. Any thoughts on how to break down her routine?

I know she is super into me, no questions there or doubt that she would ever cheat.

Let me know your thoughts and ideas. I can explain more on any parts if needed. Thanks
 
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