Instant change of heart

[Brentwoodbam]

So, I have known this girl for a few months now, but only started seriously talking to her not long ago (maybe 2 weeks total), because I knew she had a boyfriend for all that time, and they had been together for about a year total. To make a long story short, we met once outside of school, had a great little outing (sexless) that was cut short and planned to meet again soon. Thereafter, we made plans to meet up on a certain day, little texting back and forth (nothing worth mentioning) and she even texted me 2 days before our planned meet with "Today was so shitty for me, I can't wait for thursday!"....

So, Thursday comes, I hit her with a text before work to confirm, as I don't get much phone time at work, I needed to get the confirmation text out early. Hours passed, heard nothing and began to get a bit suprised. It is now Friday, haven't heard from her and damn sure don't plan to inquire because I think it'd make me look weak/chasing.

With all that being said, considering her boyfriend troubles (they were very freshly broken up when we first had our meet), does it sound to you guys like she is struggling with deciding what she wants? I'm almost certain she doesn't want to get too serious with me with a year relationship ending so recently (because, as we know, all long-term relationships linger for a while).

Thanks for reading guys,
Brentwood

 

[Garrett]

So, I have known this girl for a few months now, but only started seriously talking to her not long ago (maybe 2 weeks total), because I knew she had a boyfriend for all that time, and they had been together for about a year total. To make a long story short, we met once outside of school, had a great little outing (sexless) that was cut short and planned to meet again soon. Thereafter, we made plans to meet up on a certain day, little texting back and forth (nothing worth mentioning) and she even texted me 2 days before our planned meet with "Today was so shitty for me, I can't wait for thursday!"....

So, Thursday comes, I hit her with a text before work to confirm, as I don't get much phone time at work, I needed to get the confirmation text out early. Hours passed, heard nothing and began to get a bit suprised. It is now Friday, haven't heard from her and damn sure don't plan to inquire because I think it'd make me look weak/chasing.

With all that being said, considering her boyfriend troubles (they were very freshly broken up when we first had our meet), does it sound to you guys like she is struggling with deciding what she wants? I'm almost certain she doesn't want to get too serious with me with a year relationship ending so recently (because, as we know, all long-term relationships linger for a while).

Thanks for reading guys,
Brentwood

Brentwoodbam,

When a girl texts you while she's in a relationship, it may be so she has you as a backup option in case things flop. In your situation, I think you could be a bit more persistent and try to get her out again. Nothing wrong with trying again, although if you do see her you need to make something happen and happen quickly!

Best of luck,
Garrett

 

[Brentwoodbam]

When a girl texts you while she's in a relationship, it may be so she has you as a backup option in case things flop. In your situation, I think you could be a bit more persistent and try to get her out again. Nothing wrong with trying again, although if you do see her you need to make something happen and happen quickly!

Best of luck,
Garrett[/quote]

I've been ignored and stood up on a planned date, I'm not gonna hit her up. Seems like it is more desperate considering she is in and out of a relationship. I'm no rebound