Intentional flaking

[Rakkum]

A while ago there was a GC newsletter item called Why Women Find “Moderately Available” Men So Attractive

There is a short paragraph on intentionally flaking on a girl

Dates: ever try flaking on dates with women…
INTENTIONALLY? I have – and guess what I found
out? The success rate you have taking to bed girls
you’ve flaked on is SKY HIGH compared to the
success rate you have taking to bed girls you
HAVEN’T flaked on.

Why?

BECAUSE MOST GUYS WON’T FLAKE ON A GIRL TO SAVE
THEIR LIVES!

They’re too worried they’ll blow their shot with
her if they DO!

So when you text her a couple hours before your
first date to tell her you’re really sorry, but
you won’t be able to make it… trust me, that NEVER
happens to her.

And your odds of taking her to bed on your
rescheduled date – when you finally DO meet – are
astronomical compared to what your odds were
before.

With a single text message, you’ve just become a
hot commodity.

I am eager to try this out. How has this been working for you?

Some specific questions:
* when to use this technique?
* when NOT to use this technique?
* should you give a reason why you are flaking or keep it vague?
* when should you get in touch again?

Keep well,
Nipernaadi

 

[Michal]

Hello,
I did this once qbout 2.5 hours before the date, apologized and mentioned an emergency at work and offered a different time next day immedately when i told her I cannot make it. And she replied within like 20 minutes saying that she understands and hopes the work thing will get resolved and that she is looking forward for tomorrow. I am not sure what effect it had because I had hard time reading her in the beginning but the date was great and on thr second date she game me a gigantic green light and escalation window

 

[Rakkum]

Hello,
I did this once qbout 2.5 hours before the date, apologized and mentioned an emergency at work and offered a different time next day immedately when i told her I cannot make it. And she replied within like 20 minutes saying that she understands and hopes the work thing will get resolved and that she is looking forward for tomorrow. I am not sure what effect it had because I had hard time reading her in the beginning but the date was great and on thr second date she game me a gigantic green light and escalation window

Thanks for sharing, Michal!

I have tried it a few times but I have been non-specific as to why I'm flaking (i.e. "something came up I really need to take of") and since I wasn't available over the upcoming days I didn't set up the next date right away. Hard to measure the effect over texting, though.

 

[razir110]

See no point in this. If you got the date then go to the date do your thing and take her to bed. Why would you risk her to not reschedule with you? You have much more to lose than win here.

I do flake when I am genuinely busy and when the date is shaky, meaning that I felt something was sour about the way she accepted and about the way we interacted, etc so if I feel there is a high chance of her flaking, I just do it first.

But if everything is smooth and she is into you and wants to meet you then why causing all these unnecessary problems to yourself?

 

[Rakkum]

See no point in this. If you got the date then go to the date do your thing and take her to bed. Why would you risk her to not reschedule with you? You have much more to lose than win here.

I do flake when I am genuinely busy and when the date is shaky, meaning that I felt something was sour about the way she accepted and about the way we interacted, etc so if I feel there is a high chance of her flaking, I just do it first.

But if everything is smooth and she is into you and wants to meet you then why causing all these unnecessary problems to yourself?

Appreciate the your input. The point, however, seems to be upping her attraction for you by sowing uncertainty in her perception of your attainability.