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Interesting question on the subtly of IG/text game

moom

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I’ve seen alot of shit and know how to react in real life game but game on IG has its own nuances I’m still trying to learn.

Just asking this really to see if there’s a way to salvage otherwise i honestly really don’t care if its a loss lol. I do like winning tho

So super short story here in list form:
1) hosted a party for holloween saturday, met and talked to hot girl at party who was a friend of my friend
2) as night went on, got progressivey more wasted and game got progressively much worse and clunky lol (its holloween, live a little)
3) somehow in my wasted state, still made out with said hot girl quite a bit throughout the night at the club we went to afterwards. I do remember not giving any fucks, wasnt chasing her whatsoever, always pulled away from the kiss first, etc. Escalated incredibley clunky though but pulled it off lmao
4) friends, her, and i all come back to my house to continue the after party
5) girl is wasted too, ends up in my room and tries to go to sleep on my bed, but the door is open. Im pretty smashed at this point, everythings really a blur. I think i was eating macaroons in my room laughing at something
6) door is connected to main hallway, her friend (our mutual friend’s girlfriend) comes and grabs her and pulls her out and all 3 leave together (friend, his girlfriend, and hot girl)

now obviously i could have played this much better lmao, and the blue balls forced me to go out holloween sunday and i got laid so whatever

But here’s the situation now:
1) girl followed me on ig, i followed her back and sent her a message saying:
“hey we should grab drinks soon. whats ur #?”
2) obviously state had shifted completely from the day before. from drunk, dark room, making out to hungover af the next day. So naturally, she read my ig message a few hours after and no reply
3) posted a story today, monday after holloween. she reacted to the story with an emoji. also has watched all my stories sunday and monday.

So, she completely ignored my compliance request via text, no text back, and then engaged me 2 days later with a reaction to my story.

Balls kinda in my court currently, whats the move gentlemen? Is there a move? Completely outcome independent here but i like pulling wins out from the jaws of defeat and this little challenge will also help me understand the subtleties of text game a little more
 

Toby2030

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You asked for too much compliance early on your first message hence why she did not answer. Send her a message that do not require an answer that either provides insight in your interesting personality or use call-back humor to what you guys previously talked about when you met up with her. That's my go to
 

moom

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You asked for too much compliance early on your first message hence why she did not answer. Send her a message that do not require an answer that either provides insight in your interesting personality or use call-back humor to what you guys previously talked about when you met up with her. That's my go to
I’ll respond back with this angle. Shall I just pretend like I never asked the question? some part of me feels like that would be weak
 

Fluxcapacitor

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@momo93 dude! You have two options, either acknowledge that what you done was clueless and accept responsibility or you ignore it, don't acknowledge it and therefore it didn't happen.

You tried to hard close to early, as @DML put you asked for to much compliance to fast. In this context your best move is ignoring it like you didn't do it and start again. Owning that you were clueless here drags up the point you were uncalibrated and she's typically going to associate that feeling when you next ask her out forcing you to be 100% smooth to not ping it in her mind.

Ignoring in this context is more calibrated because you're not hanging on the mistake
 
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moom

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@momo93 dude! You have two options, either acknowledge that what you done was clueless and accept responsibility or you ignore it, don't acknowledge it and therefore it didn't happen.

You tried to hard close to early, as @DML put you asked for to much compliance to fast. In this context your best move is ignoring it like you didn't do it and start again. Owning that you were clueless here drags up the point you were uncalibrated and she's typically going to associate that feeling when you next ask her out forcing you to be 100% smooth to not ping it in her mind.

Ignoring in this context is more calibrated because you're not hanging on the mistake
Yeah makes sense- usually the move for me is always ignore it and move forward if I make any mistakes, it's always easy to recover irl. I just thought the subtleties would be different via text since it always stays there for her to look at lol

But yeah sure, that makes sense, will ignore and use some callback humor
 
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