Interpret this look for me please

[Marty]

Hey fellas,

Quite a few times recently, when walking in the street, the following has happened:

• I see girl coming toward me
• Girl looks at me
• I look back
• Girl smiles at me
• I smile back
• Girl's expression suddenly changes to one of disgust and she walks on by

What is this supposed to mean? It's happened at least 5 times in the last 2 days. If it weren't for the last point, I'd approach and say hello!

Surely I'm not that repulsive to look at? I'm not going to post photos here, but if you Google Prime Minister Donald Tusk of Poland, I've been told I look very much like him.

Thanks
-Marty

 

[ProblemSolving]

Hey Marty!

Sounds like classic auto-rejection to me. In a woman's mind, her smiling at you first was equivalent to her throwing herself at you, and because you didn't open her immediately, she now hates your guts for not taking the bait. It can happen that fast, especially if she thought she was being REALLY obvious! So the good news is, they're interested. You just have to be a little quicker on the draw.

 

[Marty]

Thanks, ProblemSolving!

she now hates your guts for not taking the bait.

I did suspect this, but found it surprising that her expression could change from smile to scowl in the time it took to walk past... about 2 seconds.

In a woman's mind, her smiling at you first was equivalent to her throwing herself at you

Are you sure about this? Those two things seem an awfully long way apart to me... would anyone seriously think like this?

especially if she thought she was being REALLY obvious!

That's the point... it wasn't particularly obvious, all she did was look at me and smile at me.

You just have to be a little quicker on the draw.

I'm a bit of a plodding thinker, but if it happens again, I'll just open her as soon as I'm ready. If that means it's after she starts looking sour, so be it. I might learn something from that. Next time, I'll tell her she has a lovely smile. Maybe that will encourage her to reapply it to her face.

-Marty

 

[ProblemSolving]

Yeah, women are masters of subtly. It's just too bad most men are completely oblivious to their approach invitations because, we as men, expect overt communication. The only way for a women to be more obvious than smiling at you first, would be for her to open you herself. It sounds crazy, but in her mind she was putting herself out there on a silver platter and you rejected her; hence, the look of disgust. From interest to auto-rejection in 2 seconds flat!

The more obvious she was with her approach invitations, the faster she will auto-reject if you don't take action. Let me know if this has happened to you. You're at a party or bar and you trade looks with a girl throughout the night until you finally muster up the courage to approach her, except when you do, you're met with coldness and a brush off - auto-rejection. She thought she was being bold by looking at you so many times and you weren't interested, so she wrote you off before you even make an approach.

Anytime you have even the SLIGHTEST sense that a girl may be giving you an approach invitation- act immediately. It may be irreducibly subtle to us, but to them it's like holding a neon sign reading, "Come Talk To Me!"

 

[ramirezs316]

Yeah, women are masters of subtly. It's just too bad most men are completely oblivious to their approach invitations because, we as men, expect overt communication. The only way for a women to be more obvious than smiling at you first, would be for her to open you herself. It sounds crazy, but in her mind she was putting herself out there on a silver platter and you rejected her; hence, the look of disgust. From interest to auto-rejection in 2 seconds flat!

The more obvious she was with her approach invitations, the faster she will auto-reject if you don't take action. Let me know if this has happened to you. You're at a party or bar and you trade looks with a girl throughout the night until you finally muster up the courage to approach her, except when you do, you're met with coldness and a brush off - auto-rejection. She thought she was being bold by looking at you so many times and you weren't interested, so she wrote you off before you even make an approach.

Anytime you have even the SLIGHTEST sense that a girl may be giving you an approach invitation- act immediately. It may be irreducibly subtle to us, but to them it's like holding a neon sign reading, "Come Talk To Me!"

Geez, it can really happen that fast? That's kind of ridiculous.

I was wondering if it works just the same way with someone you're working with. Earlier this year, a girl I started working with suddenly started being flirty for two days. The catch was, as far as I was concerned, she was still engaged. A few days later, she seemed cold toward me and I later found out she was not engaged anymore and had begun dating some other guy at work. From then on, she acted weird around me to the point I thought she hated me. Months later, she acts all smiley again, but she's so busy during the day, I'm unable to ask her out till 3 weeks later. She thinks on it and keeps up her signals but decides she can't do a relationship, partly because the other guy she was seeing cheated on her and then strung her along. I've been wondering if she auto rejected early and that made it easier for her to auto reject later.