Interracial Dating

[Lex]

First of all, Im a black guy of 19 years old from Montreal that had 2 sexual relationship, 1 was a 3 LTR with a white girl of my age the other one was a girl from high school who i met when i was out of the LTR the two of them were attractive white girl.The LTR was a white girl who loved black men the other one was a typical white girl who only dated white boy i was her first black guy who she was intimated with. i dont talk her that much cuz now she is engaged but sometime we Sext ahaha

Im not the light-skin kinda black im brown (chocolate =) im not the most good looking guy im above average ive been working hard to be a sexy man im far from done but im on my way to be my best asset in the attraction ( my qualities, what make stand from the other) im tall 6ft im pretty masculine (enough to make some girl think that im 24 years old) and i look like a badboy/tough well that what a female friend of mine said and my LTR said,but i ask her what did she tought the first time we met ( the female friend ) and she answer: i tought that u were a badboy/tought guy but when i first talk to you you were pretty cool,funny and friendly. Dont know if it is a good or bad thing ? i also ask her if i would have approached her out of the blue in a mall how she would have react : she said : i would have been a little bit intimidated cuz you have a imposing physique and a badboy image. Im not the kind of black that look from the ghetto who were baggy jean and XXXXL shirt that are long enough to touch the floor. I were fitted t shirt with straight jean and speak with clear word ( yeah sometime I speak a little lingo from the hood ahaha )

So since ive started doing day game ive come to realize something really strange. The best reaction ive got from direct game where girl who were from example : arabe/latina/girl from europe(french).native girl from Montreal respond really less warmly to my approach some do but most are kinda on their guard or dont know what to do or that happen less and less but some are scared(like they think im gonna rob them in a mall full of people xD)

One day i was at work and talk to a cute white girl I added her on FB we talk for 7 hours straight ( i know not a good thing but back then i wasnt trying to game her ) we were talking about everything ( project/relationship/ goal) as we were talking about relationship i said that i dont think that im gonna marry a black girl she tell me why we talk a little bit about it and then she said i dont think im never gonna be with a black guy it make me laugh and i ask her why she said something ( i dont remember ) and continue our conversation

Ive read Colt article on black guy having sex with white girl and it is golden but i think there is a few thing that are not taking in consideration

1.Her friends
As we all know girl are not like boy they have to get her friends approval before dating someone and making it official. But when all her friends are dating white guy and she's the only one dating a black guy it can be hard to be to one standing out from the others.

2. Her family
Fellow lets be real racism still exist in the 21th century not all people are racist not even 20% of the population but ive been there and when a girl present you to her family and they see you are black they don’t freak out but you see something in their eyes. Even though most white parents are open about interracial dating it is a little bit different when it is her own daughter who is having sex with a black guy ...

3. Social pressure
For all black guy out there dating a white girl you’ll probably be able to relate to this one. Have you ever been out with your girl walking around town hand in hand or in cafe having a good time being affectionate and have a room full of people that are looking at you not in mean way but in a curious way like if they never saw that?

I have seen a lot of Asian guy dating white girl and they don’t face as much friction (don’t know any better word) or Latin guy having their way with white girl. The only race that in my opinion that is facing as much friction that black guy are the dark-skinned Arab guy

Few months ago i read Models attract girl with honesty ( it is a amazing book that I strongly recommend to anyone who want to change is life not only attract girl).One chapters was about demographic .Mark Manson said :

It’s worth taking a moment to mention race and its effect on attraction and dating. A lot of foreign men or men of different ethnicities have a lot of insecurities or false beliefs about their race and their ability to date women of other races. Many Indian and Asian men feel like white women would never be attracted to them. A lot of black men run into threatened responses from white and Asian women. There are two considerations to take about race. The first is that race naturally polarizes your responses. In a way, this is good. But it’s also going to be a little bit of a more painful experience. So for instance, if you’re a white guy, then most women will be pretty Neutral towards your race. This allows you a greater amount of overall opportunities, but they’re all opportunities you’ll have tostill work for. You’re going to be hard pressed to find a woman who says to herself, “Oh my god, I’m meeting a white guy!” (The exception is, of course, if you live in a country where white people are a minority, such as Japan or South Korea.) But if you are Asian, African, Middle Eastern or Latino, then approaching women is going to sometimes illicit a small polarization. Some women are going to immediately be more intrigued and interested in meeting you, and other women are going to be more shut off from meeting you. In my experience in the western world, Asian and Indian men run into the smallest amounts of polarization. Latin and middle eastern men men run into a modest amount, and black men will run into a significant amount of polarization. There are some women (of all races) out there who absolutely love black men. A lot of women fantasize about black men and wonder what it’d be like to be with one. And there are others who are not interested in them at all. But if you are a black man, you need to be prepared for this dichotomy of responses. You will get some very harsh rejections -- rejections that your white or Asian friends will not experience often. At the same time, you will meet women who will often want to have sex with you pretty much immediately. And as you probably know, there’s a saying among women: “Once you go black, you never go back.”.

To all players who date outside of yours race what are your toughts?

As always

Lex

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Count your blessings as a black guy though. I do understand that when it comes to LTR a lot of girls won't consider you an option and even when it comes to ONS I have met many White girls that are just not interested in being with black guys, not out of racism but they are not attracted to african features. That said, the girls that are into black guys make it pretty obvious. I have known White girls from well off families who were good looking, blasted rap music in their cars, and were more than open to being with a black guy. Black guys have that fetish thing going for them and will usually end up pulling girls anywhere in the world as a result of that fetish niche.

Most other races do not have that same niche they can appeal to.

As I have said in other threads: An asian, arab, indian, or latino guy here in America has a much larger range of women he can date than most black guys do. By that I mean guys of those races can date white girls who wouldn't date black guys but the problem is that guys of those backgrounds have to work for it. There isn't much of a fetish for men of that background (other than asian men with the k pop and anime but that is small). For black guys, the range is smaller but fetish is strong for the girls that like them to the point all the guy has to do is not screw up and run good looking guy game because everything is in place.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

Being a chocolate man myself i found this post very useful.


I also found be high social status as a black man helps reduce the negative polarization