Introduction and a few questions

[D'brainz]

Hey guys! just wanna introduce myself and ask a few questions. I go by the username D'brainz, tall, dark skinned, studying medecine in Russia, 18yrs and i'm Nigerian. Most people say I'm cute, others hate,lol.

I started improving myself last year, and found this site a couple of months ago. Big thanks to Chase and the team, I've really, I mean really improved since then.

Just got over a plateau, couldn't get girls on date before but with the help of the posts, I was able to make some changes.

I had a date with this Russian girl yesterday say HB8 I met last week Monday through cold approach, started off great, walked a bit, then took her to a cafe, where I tried to work my charm on her, we later chilled at a park before she left. So the thing is I just don't seem to get my logistics straight.

Here is my situation, I leave in the hostel but plan to move to an apartment soon, it's difficult to bring girls over, so it's not an option, don't own a car and most girls I go for seem to leave with someone. So I'm thinking I could get girls from dates to an apartment, I mn this 24hrs apartments or to a Sauna although it's a bit expensive. Any ideas on logistics and how to make this transition will be much appreciated.

And also most people here don't speak english at all, do I just speak in Russian, cos I speak fairly well or in english? It's quite difficult while speaking in English tho.

On the date, should I have kissed the girl? Didn't bother trying since I knew I wasn't going to get alone with her.
I also hope to make new friends soon, so we can go up the ladder together. Cheers!

 

[Ross]

Welcome D'brainz,

General rule about logistics - don't meet up with her if you can't isolate her. We want to make things as easy as possible, as this ties in with power. If you can do things with more ease than others, then you are a more powerful man. It's the core of the law of least effort.

In your case, escalation in a semi-public area is a good option. Lets say at a spot in the park where no one ever goes; or anywhere where isolation is pretty common. You'd be surprised with the things you can do without being caught. Most public bathrooms work well, especially if they are family bathrooms as you can simply lock the door and get down to business. The great thing about sex in dangerous places is that you don't even have to do that well of a job. The simple act of doing it in a dangerous and new place makes it more exciting .

On the date, should I have kissed the girl? Didn't bother trying since I knew I wasn't going to get alone with her.

It's heavily debated. I personally do not kiss many girls in public. Do all my dirty work in private, act like a good, charming boy in public. Some say that it's good for sexual framing, but I find other ways to do that. Kiss a girl in public and be labeled a couple. Do it in private and no one cares.

If you need help with anything else, just ask. The people around here are eager to help.

 

[D'brainz]

Thanks Ross,
Great advice! Starting to get ideas already so I have an upcoming date and now I know what to do. How do I get to move her to this place with me, do I just pull her without saying a word or tell her to come with me? Thanks again.

 

[Ross]

Thanks Ross,
Great advice! Starting to get ideas already so I have an upcoming date and now I know what to do. How do I get to move her to this place with me, do I just pull her without saying a word or tell her to come with me? Thanks again.

It usually depends on the situation. Saying, "Hey, let's move over here, okay?" Is usually a pretty good move. Simply leading can work well, but the idea is to avoid having it feel clunky and forced, and it oftentimes will feel this way if you simply try to get up and move her without saying anything. It greatly varies, as you're going to be hard pressed trying to move a street cold approach without saying anything as opposed to someone you are cozied up to at a party where you have social proof. If you feel as though simply leading won't meet a lot of resistance, go for it. If you feel as though stating it is needed as she likely has some logical objections, then state it with a courtesy "okay?" to make her feel included.

Mastering these things is a skill where you are going to have to feel it out and make a decision depending on the situation, so don't sweat it if you are unable to make the right decision every time. Moving will feel natural within a few months of steady and frequent practice.