Hey everybody,
happened to read the magazine and found out about this forum which looks cool and a good source of information about girls "skills"
I am italian, over 40 but still, as far as I hear from my friends, more than just ok for eventual dates; I am separated dad of a wonderful boy being also my best friend and supporter but living alone without a girl/woman by my side is getting heavy not to say the lack of intimacy is not fun at all.
Recently out of a passionate but very though relationships with lot of ons and off am trying to make up my mind on what is not working with me, I know it will sound presumptuous but I am still good looking, over average at least here where I live (and not only...), my hair got grey long ago but it suits me well, physically am not Arnold or a model but am no bad either, better than many half my age, some of my friends simply say that no matter how good I look but there is something about me which keeps women far of me, one of my best (female) friends says that I get dates simply because women come to me and even though hard to admit it's true, when I think back most of my dates happened because women were very straightforward winning my shyness and where it was me it was so very harder to win my shyness and resistance to approach the other sex.
Please, mind you, that's not me describing myself, am presumptuous but not that much, it's friends, my mum's friends or acquaintances, they all say I am not just good looking but I have some kind of magnetism or something like that, look is ok, they describe me as a gentleman (which I know not playing in my favor with many women), smart (even though I don't agree but I keep it as it is...), neat (trying to sell myself hard uh!?), good sense of humor (too often falling into sarcasm, ouch!) and with lot of things to discuss about (which I know not being good cos it often ends up me being the one who talks rather than the one hearing which is what women look forward to).
So, where does my lack of confidence comes from? Well, if I knew I wouldn't be here would I? I live in a small place, a very famous tourist spot and for business I get off with lot of people, men, women, couples, groups and have a very active "social life" during my working season and being this a small place mentality is quite "narrow" and the idea I am a "tombeur des femmes" is very common and as such this keeps away from me girls/women I might be in to and some people tell me straight away this is the reason, the summit was a year or little more ago when I started to see this very very cute girl from abroad who works where I live, after hanging out a bit I understood she was into me when she told me she had shown her mum a pic of me (together with my son) but I understood I had little chances when she repeated the comment her mum made solely based on my look "he has the face of a womanizer" (I learnt this word from a date I went through and I really didn't want, one of the many cases in which I was catch rather than predator... YEs, I have this kind of look, I seem to please many women but something is wrong about me which keeps them away from me or, better, me away from them because not all women are so mad to approach a man, it should be rather the man to try and I am not really good about that maybe, as my friend says, because I have been used "too good" with women approaching me so I had to make no effort at all to try and dunno how to do.
Definitely I am rather sure I have all the weapons besides the guts to go and try and, still, my best friend (a girl) says it's just cos I am afraid of the rejection so I don't even try and I am so shy at the point not to be able to stare at a girl and it's fun cos when we all go out (a group of friends, some couple, some singles...) they all notice girls staring at me and I just don't, many a times I thought they were making fun of me but I did finally realize it's true, one in particular I had a date with keeps checking on me, turning to me, answering my texts and so on but when I try to approach I am always afraid not to be able and the fun thing is that I had already dated (and not just that ;-)) her.
On another hand I am not so proud of my intimacy ability even though the last date I had went all around spreading the voice about me being her best fu*k ever (and she's been quite active...), even a friend of her who happens to be related to me came to me and said "what a pity we are related, I would have really liked to experience it..." and even my date, when we were in intimacy, kept repeating how good I am and how beeeeep it is so, why do I lack confidence, is it just not having ever trained my skills or there is something deeper than just not liking my body, being so conscious about both my skills, performances and so on when they all tell me I am exactly the other way round?
Last bit, a week ago I was talking to a friend, just coming out of work, no neat at all, not shaved (to me not being shaved means to look dirty, I know, I am quite rigid about some things...), wearing very very casual, these two women I know, two sisters one of which I am friend with, no good looking at all but the one I know has such a self esteem I do almost envy her (and envy doesn't belong to my vocabulary) they see me whilst I was talking to this over 20 years long friend (a little older than me who knows my situation very well), they stop by and the one I know comes towards me with the acting of going to kiss my cheeks, I bend a little (I am no tall at all, maybe 5'9" but she is shorter than I am :-D) and after kissing each other cheeks she looks at me with a big smile and says "how good you look tonight!", well, I blushed like mad and even though I already have a little tan (summer didn't kick in yet) it showed so much that when they left my friend told me "oh my, you totally blushed..."
Even my sister who I am not in good relationship with once in a while tells me "if I were like you, your look, your head and your skills I..." well, I do really need to understand where is the problem and how to solve it, any hints???
Thank you all for reading, now you understand why women escape from me, imagine if I can write so much (and to me this doesn't look much at all) how much I can talk (yes, I am known to be talkative but then, all of a sudden, I shout off, that's just me as well as disappearing for a while, and this makes people even more confused about me but I guess it's also one of the reasons I am kind of "attractive"
HINTS HINTS HINTS
Grazie
G
happened to read the magazine and found out about this forum which looks cool and a good source of information about girls "skills"
I am italian, over 40 but still, as far as I hear from my friends, more than just ok for eventual dates; I am separated dad of a wonderful boy being also my best friend and supporter but living alone without a girl/woman by my side is getting heavy not to say the lack of intimacy is not fun at all.
Recently out of a passionate but very though relationships with lot of ons and off am trying to make up my mind on what is not working with me, I know it will sound presumptuous but I am still good looking, over average at least here where I live (and not only...), my hair got grey long ago but it suits me well, physically am not Arnold or a model but am no bad either, better than many half my age, some of my friends simply say that no matter how good I look but there is something about me which keeps women far of me, one of my best (female) friends says that I get dates simply because women come to me and even though hard to admit it's true, when I think back most of my dates happened because women were very straightforward winning my shyness and where it was me it was so very harder to win my shyness and resistance to approach the other sex.
Please, mind you, that's not me describing myself, am presumptuous but not that much, it's friends, my mum's friends or acquaintances, they all say I am not just good looking but I have some kind of magnetism or something like that, look is ok, they describe me as a gentleman (which I know not playing in my favor with many women), smart (even though I don't agree but I keep it as it is...), neat (trying to sell myself hard uh!?), good sense of humor (too often falling into sarcasm, ouch!) and with lot of things to discuss about (which I know not being good cos it often ends up me being the one who talks rather than the one hearing which is what women look forward to).
So, where does my lack of confidence comes from? Well, if I knew I wouldn't be here would I? I live in a small place, a very famous tourist spot and for business I get off with lot of people, men, women, couples, groups and have a very active "social life" during my working season and being this a small place mentality is quite "narrow" and the idea I am a "tombeur des femmes" is very common and as such this keeps away from me girls/women I might be in to and some people tell me straight away this is the reason, the summit was a year or little more ago when I started to see this very very cute girl from abroad who works where I live, after hanging out a bit I understood she was into me when she told me she had shown her mum a pic of me (together with my son) but I understood I had little chances when she repeated the comment her mum made solely based on my look "he has the face of a womanizer" (I learnt this word from a date I went through and I really didn't want, one of the many cases in which I was catch rather than predator... YEs, I have this kind of look, I seem to please many women but something is wrong about me which keeps them away from me or, better, me away from them because not all women are so mad to approach a man, it should be rather the man to try and I am not really good about that maybe, as my friend says, because I have been used "too good" with women approaching me so I had to make no effort at all to try and dunno how to do.
Definitely I am rather sure I have all the weapons besides the guts to go and try and, still, my best friend (a girl) says it's just cos I am afraid of the rejection so I don't even try and I am so shy at the point not to be able to stare at a girl and it's fun cos when we all go out (a group of friends, some couple, some singles...) they all notice girls staring at me and I just don't, many a times I thought they were making fun of me but I did finally realize it's true, one in particular I had a date with keeps checking on me, turning to me, answering my texts and so on but when I try to approach I am always afraid not to be able and the fun thing is that I had already dated (and not just that ;-)) her.
On another hand I am not so proud of my intimacy ability even though the last date I had went all around spreading the voice about me being her best fu*k ever (and she's been quite active...), even a friend of her who happens to be related to me came to me and said "what a pity we are related, I would have really liked to experience it..." and even my date, when we were in intimacy, kept repeating how good I am and how beeeeep it is so, why do I lack confidence, is it just not having ever trained my skills or there is something deeper than just not liking my body, being so conscious about both my skills, performances and so on when they all tell me I am exactly the other way round?
Last bit, a week ago I was talking to a friend, just coming out of work, no neat at all, not shaved (to me not being shaved means to look dirty, I know, I am quite rigid about some things...), wearing very very casual, these two women I know, two sisters one of which I am friend with, no good looking at all but the one I know has such a self esteem I do almost envy her (and envy doesn't belong to my vocabulary) they see me whilst I was talking to this over 20 years long friend (a little older than me who knows my situation very well), they stop by and the one I know comes towards me with the acting of going to kiss my cheeks, I bend a little (I am no tall at all, maybe 5'9" but she is shorter than I am :-D) and after kissing each other cheeks she looks at me with a big smile and says "how good you look tonight!", well, I blushed like mad and even though I already have a little tan (summer didn't kick in yet) it showed so much that when they left my friend told me "oh my, you totally blushed..."
Even my sister who I am not in good relationship with once in a while tells me "if I were like you, your look, your head and your skills I..." well, I do really need to understand where is the problem and how to solve it, any hints???
Thank you all for reading, now you understand why women escape from me, imagine if I can write so much (and to me this doesn't look much at all) how much I can talk (yes, I am known to be talkative but then, all of a sudden, I shout off, that's just me as well as disappearing for a while, and this makes people even more confused about me but I guess it's also one of the reasons I am kind of "attractive"
HINTS HINTS HINTS
Grazie
G
