"Invisible" preselection

[Marty]

Hey, I've noticed a number of times that following a successfully-closed cold approach (i.e. agreed-upon date / phone number obtained), I get more "chasey" eye-contact from women in the street over the next half-hour or so... Odd! Is it possible that I am wearing some involuntary self-satisfied smirk, perhaps, and women pick up on this and interpret it as confidence or evidence of general success? Has anyone else noticed this? It could be heightened awareness, of course, or a figment of my imagination...

 

[trashKENNUT]

Women can just smell other women around you. I don't know why. It's a competitive thing.

Zac

 

[razir110]

True! The same as the more women you have in your life, the more attention you get. Plus having ladies around you sparks interest from other women.

 

[Richard]

Sweet! Time to get into some neuroscience/ biology for a technical explanation anyway. TIME TO DIVE IN!

ELECTRICITY: Your entire body runs on electrical signals, everything that happens in your body from muscles movements to thought patterns to emotions, they're all dictated by electrical signals your brain sends out, these signals are called neural impulses or action potentials. So, after a successful closing of a woman, you're brain is sending out a few hormones which are responsible for confidence (oxytocin, and testosterone) via the electrical impulses I just mentioned.

FROM HERE! these electrical signals also leave your body in trace amounts, and travel through the air and freely received by other humans (namely women though), as women are much more receptive of emotions opposed to men (even in men who are fantastic with picking up emotions like myself). Upon picking these signals up from another person, your brain subconsciously interprets their electrical signals ( I call this familiarity) and that's why women notice you more after a successful close because they subconsciously interpret the signals your body gives out and they lock on to them

 

[Marty]

Well Zphix, I don't know how much of that final paragraph was tongue-in-cheek, but I can believe that chemical signals leave your body, also visual ones in the form of body language.

Anyway, it happened again today... It even seems to work after a rejected approach: not a total face plant, obviously, but an approach that was warmly received and followed up with generally good conversation, but then politely declined à la "I'm afraid I have a boyfriend".

And I don't mean looks from girls who may have been close enough to see the previous interaction. I mean, getting hard gazing 15-20 minutes after. Now I see why the experts here recommend doing multiple approaches on a single outing. If a cold approach is followed on by random stares from nubile women, it's like a buy-one-get-one, except you can keep rolling it over until your energy gives out, or you have to go back to the office for a meeting, or you get an instant date. I just need to work on my response times and stop missing those Approach Invitations!

 

[Richard]

The last paragraph was not tongue-in-cheek at all, just an excited explanation. But yes, you are absolutely right, it's also why Chase recommends simply striking up a conversation with anyone as soon as you step in the door because of the mood it puts you in, and it's always best to follow up a successful close with a few (by a few I mean like 10,000 lol ) more closings.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Hey Marty,

Yeah, I've noticed this as a pattern, too. I think it has more to do with receiving an extra boost of testosterone (the "winning factor"). Your walk, posture, and mood all change following a testosterone boost. Women pick up on this, and yes, it is "invisible" preselection. That's precisely why we work on fundamentals, because it is a compiled list of changes that happen when you've had several testosterone boosts...and women pick up on that.

Jake

 

[Marty]

Hey prettydecent,

No way. I'd never realized that fundamentals are essentially the cumulative product of preselection, but it makes sense when I think about it like that. I think you're right about posture - I've caught myself a number of times in the mirror with "bowed" posture, and there's nothing more suggestive of a submissive attitude toward more powerful men than that: although I'm self-assured in my mind, my body language may be saying otherwise. Whilst after a "boost" of the nature discussed, I definitely feel I walk taller.

This stuff all starts to hang together the deeper you get into it. It's reminiscent of learning a new subject back at school... it's a whole science unto itself, and what's really frightening is that it's been painstakingly modeled and documented by a very few extremely self-aware and intelligent individuals. I follow the reasoning mechanically... but I have to absorb it intuitively to be able to put it into practice. Quite an eye-opener. Thanks!

-Marty