Inviting girl to birthday party?

[deepthoughts02]

Hi all, I've been pursuing this girl from school but haven't actually asked her out on a date yet. I'm getting a car soon so was waiting on that before I ask her out (thought it would be better to pick her up?).

We've known each other from school for a long time, but never really spoke much and we aren't close friends (not in the friendzone lol). I was thinking to invite her to my birthday meal but wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do. Would I be setting myself up for the friendzone by doing this? I thought it might be good for her to see me in my circle of friends from what Chase said about being seen with people of high status etc.

What are your guys thoughts?

Thanks.

 

[Estate]

I'll leave others chime in too but my gut feeling is no, don't invite her to this.

It sounds like it's kind of formal. So your essentially bringing her somewhere where she'll be uncomfortable without knowing a lot of people but you won't have the oppertunity to really isolate her from the group or spend time alone with her.
Is there another way you can let her see you as a social guy? I'm assuming you run into each other at other times or events?

If it was a more casual get to gether like a party it would be easier to bring her into the group then isolate her later.

 

[deepthoughts02]

Yeah I understand, I probably wont invite her then.

It's somewhat formal, she knows most of the people who'll be there though, and two of the girls coming are her close friends but I have a feeling I'll probably end up getting too drunk and forgetting to isolate her lol. Thank you for the advice mate!

That's the problem, I don't really run into her at other times. I am good friends with her "friend circle" so will be at any events they have which she may be at.