inviting girls to your place by text when you are sure she will say no.

[lao che]

i've done this twice i can remember. probably more. first time, my buddy invited me to use his aparment while he was away, so it was do or die time. i knew the girl liked me but was far away (30 - 45 min taxi ride) and lives with parents. i fucked her, but not the same night.

the other time just happened now, hence this post.
colleague's last day, was out with the girls after work. she's on the bus on the way home - far. also has boyfriend. not sure they live together. so much of the conversation was subtle invites (let's go for a smoke) while emphasing privacy and secrets and taking every reply as a green light. then you handle logistics mixing in teases and whatever "normal" conversation you might have with a girl over text.
i think it might be a good idea to assume the same mindset whenever you text with any girl, just assume she'll say no and keep pushing pushing pushing. overcoming every objection she throws at you in a tongue-in-cheek manner. it's almost like breaking the fourth wall. you misread everything she says, even pics or emoticons, as a come-on. and every single message they send is an invitation to escalate so it can get pretty intense.

i guess an objection might be that it appears needy? i don't think it's needy at all when i do it myself. but can see how it would if you were needy

 

[Rage]

I’ve had a few ongoing periods in the past where my game was cleaning up really well. And I had talked to many girls over the past weeks and had a few dates in the week, a regular fwb, and then a bunch more numbers.

And some of the numbers I vaguely even remembered if the girl was into me, or how hot she was or the details of how I had met her or where I knew from… like a few of those I had to really think about and was at risk of even forgetting her name like midway through the date.

But I sent a few texts that were weak, but I didn’t care because if 1 of them stuck out of 10 numbers than it was cool and I’d get that one girl, something along the lines of “ hey x, I’ve been thiknign about you a bit, we should meet and get food some time” and then go to one of the eating places next to my dorm.

Oh another one was “Hey x, I know I told you I was gonna show you all of the village some tie but never got to; you should come by sometime”

Reaching pretty hard in either of the texts; I got a couple girls to go on this date and come over after, but had many more where they just didn’t text back.

…

You don’t get to really convey any emotion off text (or properly gauge the emotions of the girl either when reading texts for that matter), so it is kind of a crapshoot if you haven’t done much in person with her or what been said/done in person was lacking; but whether she thinks it’s needy or desperate or attractive or whatever is upon her.

If you come from a place of abundance (which you can’t display over text but can just feel that way regarding the outcome independence of whatever happens and whatever comes out of it) then the way I see it, you don’t really give a shit either way and can go for it shoot off some texts. Throw at the wall, and see what stick if any…

-Rage 

 

[Lawliet]

I’ve had a few ongoing periods in the past where my game was cleaning up really well. And I had talked to many girls over the past weeks and had a few dates in the week, a regular fwb, and then a bunch more numbers.

And some of the numbers I vaguely even remembered if the girl was into me, or how hot she was or the details of how I had met her or where I knew from… like a few of those I had to really think about and was at risk of even forgetting her name like midway through the date.

But I sent a few texts that were weak, but I didn’t care because if 1 of them stuck out of 10 numbers than it was cool and I’d get that one girl, something along the lines of “ hey x, I’ve been thiknign about you a bit, we should meet and get food some time” and then go to one of the eating places next to my dorm.

Oh another one was “Hey x, I know I told you I was gonna show you all of the village some tie but never got to; you should come by sometime”

Reaching pretty hard in either of the texts; I got a couple girls to go on this date and come over after, but had many more where they just didn’t text back.

…

You don’t get to really convey any emotion off text (or properly gauge the emotions of the girl either when reading texts for that matter), so it is kind of a crapshoot if you haven’t done much in person with her or what been said/done in person was lacking; but whether she thinks it’s needy or desperate or attractive or whatever is upon her.

If you come from a place of abundance (which you can’t display over text but can just feel that way regarding the outcome independence of whatever happens and whatever comes out of it) then the way I see it, you don’t really give a shit either way and can go for it shoot off some texts. Throw at the wall, and see what stick if any…

-Rage 

How did YOU set up fwb? Pretty good progression bro!