Is game helpful when two people are mutually attracted?

[Dragonetti]

You often hear from couples that they didn't need any games or tactics or whatever. My take on this is that sometimes couples get lucky and experience immediate mutual infatuation with one another.

In these lucky cases... how much is "game" beneficial?

 

[Zoro]

Simply put, one aspect of game is knowing how to move things forward.

When I was a clueless high school student, I missed so many opportunities because I did not know even the basics of how to move things toward a relationship or sex.

There were times I was alone with a girl, who clearly liked me, and I liked her, and I did not know what to do.

Obviously we are talking about the super simple stuff in my example (just kiss the girl for starts!)

But there are more nuanced stuff that guys can get stuck on. How do I ask her out? Where do we go on a date? How do I turn her on? How do I make her feel comfortable coming over to my place?

But it doesn't stop there, because a relationship is can be a complex structure that if set up poorly can end up being a headache down the line.

For instance, the answers to these questions can change the relationship dynamic greatly:
- Did you set up expectations correctly?
- Did you establish yourself as the leader, or are you following her lead?
- Do you really like this girl or are you with her because she is your only option?
- Do you know how to keep her around?
- Do you know how to deal with drama

And so on.

 

[orkie123]

You often hear from couples that they didn't need any games or tactics or whatever. My take on this is that sometimes couples get lucky and experience immediate mutual infatuation with one another.

In these lucky cases... how much is "game" beneficial?

When people say "I dont play any games", they usually refer to specific strategies such as playing hot and cold. Some of these strategies are, in my opinion, bad game and only work on girls who like the drama.
They are basically saying they dont want toxic/childish partners.

Good game wouldn't usually be considered playing games, and the two ways of using the word has completely different and unrelated meanings.

For example, good game would be noticing that its a good time to invite her back to yours because of certain ques, so you do it and get the lay.

Playing games would be telling her she is amazing, exactly what you are looking for, and then not responding to her texts for a week.

 

[James Cruse]

I think there’s an answer for that here:

Attraction is Not Enough: The Vast Distance between Attraction/Arousal > Sex