Is it ok to let women see the girls chase articles that I'm reading?

[Godsninja]

I have a really simple question for anyone who is well experienced with being a PUA, and well understanding of women and what they think of men and the pickup community.

Would it be alright if a chick sees me reading [one of the] articles on this site?

I've had some girls see, but they never said anything and I don't quite know what to think of it, and I've also related to women who read, or "what do you enjoy doing.." with "reading self improvement articles".

I've considered hiding it, like switching over to my email box, or another window entirely, but I'm not too sure if it's worth it, because for one I don't think it should be hidden, and two, it would make me feel like I'm being shady. However, I don't want a girl to think she's just another girl I'm approaching if she sees an article called "How to Pick Up Girls" on my laptop while on campus..

Yea, any thoughts?

 

[Godsninja]

Also, I don't know if there's already a topic up about this, I just didn't know what I would do a search for

 

[Richard]

It's best to hide it for a couple reasons - the biggest being that if an argument breaks out it's easy for her to take the moral high ground if she knows you're into PUA because she can throw accusations at you like "How do I know you're not still out there practicing your PUA stuff?" - this is for both girlfriend and girls you sleep with who want to monopolize you.

Basically it's a really good excuse for them to take your balls and grip them as tightly as possible with you not really being able to do anything about it.

Even with articles not explicitly tied to picking up women - the name of the site, the content of the articles around, etc. can give her a pretty good idea and possible intrigue into what the site is about then you're just playing with fire at that point.

Best to avoid it.

-Richard

 

[Franco]

Godsninja,

I agree with Richard on this one.

It's one thing to tell a girl that you spent some time improving yourself and getting to know women better so that you could become a better man. It's another thing to try to explain to her that you read material on picking up women off of a website, and that all of your actions stem from it. Although the material here is genuinely good, a girl won't take too kindly to the fact that you're following some instructions that are given to you off the internet, and you can bet that she'll constantly be bringing it up as long as you're with her.

Unless you really enjoy dealing with drama, I would avoid mentioning it to women as it's something they don't need to know about. It's one thing to directly lie to women about things, but it's another to just not reveal things that she doesn't need to know about. Women do it all the time to us with matters they feel are irrelevant to their connection with you, so don't feel guilty about not revealing things that are irrelevant to your connection with them.

- Franco

 

[Godsninja]

Huh, I would have thought you guys would have advised otherwise, coming from a care-free point of view you know? It's not like all my actions 'stem' from here, like we all know this stuff (the general stuff) but it's because of how we are conditioned by society that... guys such as myself are almost forgetting what it is to be a real man!

Like if I was reading a website that appeared more provocative towards getting dirty with girls, and just that, I would naturally know to hide it, but this site... it's like I said before, it's the damn truth. It's basically just helping us guys to talk with each-other so that we can share our thoughts, and philosophies about sex, life, women, etc, that mainstream media has essentially lied to us about, and spread to all corners of our society. It's a damn shame, because I can literally feel the conflict within myself, and I've felt it ever since I was a child. I used to be able to not even worry about this shit, and some women would love me, and some guys would hate me, and I guess I let them get to me, or something.

Anyways, thanks for the tip Franco and Richard.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hi Godsninja,

In case, i remember that Chase story about his girlfriend and he not folding her clothes. It was dramatic. A lesson to handle things.

This is just something to add on, because we all sometimes can be blatant to women. Women and Drama

Zac

 

[Godsninja]

Hi Godsninja,

In case, i remember that Chase story about his girlfriend and he not folding her clothes. It was dramatic. A lesson to handle things.

This is just something to add on, because we all sometimes can be blatant to women. Women and Drama

Zac

I'm not familiar with that story, did his girlfriend get mad at him because of this blog or..?

 

[trashKENNUT]

I'm not familiar with that story, did his girlfriend get mad at him because of this blog or..?

That's not what i meant. I link the article so you learn how to handle things better if you said or do things that you "not suppose" to do.

Zac

 

[Franco]

Godsninja,

One more thing to add here...

It's not like all my actions 'stem' from here, like we all know this stuff (the general stuff) but it's because of how we are conditioned by society that... guys such as myself are almost forgetting what it is to be a real man!

Remember, it's not about what you know, it's about what she'll believe. Maybe this comes from more experience around women, but you begin to learn the way women will behave with certain types of information you feed them about yourself.

For example, imagine you're in an argument with your girlfriend about something she did, and then she suddenly says, "oh, is that something that your FRIENDS on your little WEBSITE about women told you to say?!" Maybe it is, and maybe it isn't, but as long as she knows you read the website, it's going to be a constant source of fuel to throw on the fire that you're trying to put out.

The bottom line is, there's no reason for her to know about it (unless you want to give her a permanent source of ammunition for arguments), so why tell her?

- Franco

 

[Godsninja]

I agree.

That's ridiculous.

Women...

Fuck I love you guys

 

[Flames]

Despite what people here say I'll say it doesn't actually matter what you think girls will be bothered by. It's what your bothered by that matters.

In other words if you don't feel like hiding it then don't anything else would be dishonest to the most important person.... yourself. Besides if a girl wants to pick on something in a fight she'll find something no matter what and you can't really spend your life second guessing what someone is or isn't going to be bothered by.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Godsninja,

Despite what people here say I'll say it doesn't actually matter what you think girls will be bothered by. It's what your bothered by that matters.

In other words if you don't feel like hiding it then don't anything else would be dishonest to the most important person.... yourself. Besides if a girl wants to pick on something in a fight she'll find something no matter what and you can't really spend your life second guessing what someone is or isn't going to be bothered by.

I think there's a misunderstanding here.

I do believe Franco, and all the rest of the guys is in similar agreement with Flames. If there's no need to show girls, then why would you show it? Franco is right, More ammunition but Chase has also noted that girls saw him reading about dating women before.

So all in all, I do believe everyone has this notion where, "If there's no trouble, Don't look for it".

Zac

 

[Flames]

Actually that's really what I meant Zac

There's no need to state it outright but if she's reading over your shoulder etc it shouldn't bother you either. The less weight you give it the less ammunition (or non at all) there is.

That goes for most things.

 

[Godsninja]

Ok cool. That's sort of 2 different views on what the main question was, but good insight. It's a good way to think about what you said Flames, cuz girls have just as much right to do it as we do, they even got a magazine ("Cosmo" [or w.e. the fuck it's called], although everything I've read from it sounds like it's written by a 16 year old girl).

I never meant, actively seek to tell/show women about this forum, that would likely over complicate things and/or make her be more challenging.

The next time some chick decides to peak over at what I'm reading, I'll just let her see, then give her a sexy wink. I'll try to keep this stuff to myself though. I think that sentence pretty much sums up this topic.

G

 

[Franco]

Just for clarification:

I believe Flames and I are on the same page in the sense that, if she happens to find the GC page in your bookmarks or sees it up on your computer when you're not around, then you definitely shouldn't make it a big deal if she starts questioning you about it. It's best to show that you aren't trying to hide it at that point and not let her get to you.

However, I strongly suggest that you don't read it or leave the windows open while she's there if you don't want to deal with the possible consequences. I always close GC in my browser long before my girlfriend comes over.

(NOTE: Also, if this isn't a girl you're planning on keeping around for a long time, it's obviously less of a travesty if she happens to come across it. I would be more careful if she's your [prospective] girlfriend)

- Franco

 

[Godsninja]

However, I strongly suggest that you don't read it...

What do you mean by this? Like if she finds it and looks through it, and asks you to read a part of it?

 

[Franco]

I fixed the sentence above to:

However, I strongly suggest that you don't read it or leave the windows open while she's there...

- Franco