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Is one week after meeting her too late to ask for a date?

Prehistoric

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The last one I asked two days after.

This one I want to take some time to think about if I actually wanna go out with her.
 

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PrehistoricMan,

PrehistoricMan said:
This one I want to take some time to think about if I actually wanna go out with her.

If you feel the duration is like after 6 months, or you feel that things are not so established, give her a call and have a great conversation to stir things up. Then you set up a date few days later.

Zac
 

Franco

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PM,

I wouldn't think of "when to ask a girl out" and "how many days do I have before she says no?" and instead think of it as, "every day I wait to ask her out decreases the chance she will go out with me." Think of it as a statistical average, and the odds are more and more stacked against you the longer you wait to do so.

Remember, you want to ask her out when the magic is still there (because you just met her, she was excited about you, and she's hoping to see you again) as opposed to a week later when her emotions for you have cooled off (possibly due to her going into auto-rejection that you didn't ask her out quickly after you met her). Ideally, you want to ask her for the date in-person the same moment you meet her while asking for the phone number. If you can arrange the date with her as you get her number, your chances of actually getting the date go way up!

- Franco
 

Prehistoric

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I see.

I met a girl yesterday night (Tuesday) at a food-tasting event. We talked for roughly 2 hours and there was quite a lot of "deep diving" and eye contact. She also tried to get back to the conversation with me every time I was speaking with someone else. Now I am a beginner and it's happened some weeks ago that I completely misinterpreted interest signals but I have to try.

Because she's also trying to learn my language I told her we can meet for a glass of wine in the WE and I can teach her something too, she said she wants to think about it because she's shy speaking a language she's just begun to learn but she gave me her number and told me to let her know.

So let's say I write her on Friday evening / Saturday morning to see her on Sunday. Do you think that's fast enough?

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