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Is she still interested? or should I move on... Fellas, I need some advice

jeeyjj

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Met this girl in school, we had a same class. She approached me, added me on fb, we got along really well, and i started develop feelings for her. I knew she liked me (telling me dirty jokes, drove me home, help me with stuff..) but being the tool I was I didn't act on it. Fast forward to end of the semester, I asked her out, she told me she's seeing someone and would go out as friends. I stop all kind of contact with her right then and there, no more text, likes, unfollowed on ig even. (probably the only thing I did right at that time). I came across this amazing site during that time of darkness, needless to say, I was a changed man. After more than a month of no contact, she hit me up. we exchanged text, I kept it brief, and had her over one night, we made out, in the bed, I touched her everywhere, when I tried to undress her, she called stop. after 2nd attempt, I let it go. that was the first time we got together in more than a month. (Still I should've persisted, i know i know..) Next time I see her was at my friend's movie premiere, she came with some dude, she introduced and said he's a friend. I messaged her in about a week to hangout on the weekend, she already has plans and told me what she's doing, I asked if she wanted to hangout after work that very day, she said she's busy and didn't suggest any other time. I ended the convo with "let me know when you're free". That was last weekend, haven't heard from her since. My instinct tells me she likes me, but why is she acting this way? she never initiate any contact after the premiere, and I'm not so sure anymore. (note; she has 9-5, I have 2 classes and work, so we're both busy during week day)
Fellas, has she moved on? seeing another guy? what's going on..
 

Franco

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jeey,

It sounds like she's firmly slotted you as an orbiter at this point. You probably missed your chance the night you had her in your bed and only made two attempts to sleep with her. It probably came across to her as "you just wanting sex from her and nothing else" since your persistence was so weak, and there's really not much you can do to turn that around. Sometimes breaking through a girl's LMR (last-minute resistance) can take HOURS of physically caressing her and seducing her so that she REALLY feels like you want her so badly that you can't stop yourself.

Anyway, I would take the lesson with you and move on to the next one. If she ever contacts you again, your best bet is to rinse and repeat by inviting her over again and being more persistent with trying to bed her.

- Franco
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake
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