Is this Girlschase website right for me?

[Humay]

I've read so many articles here, they're just so interesting. But one thing that really bugs me is that most of these articles seem to be tailored around having as many sexual relationships for as long as you want. And the girls that are 'chosen', are simply girls who like you anyway. You're just persuading them and giving them the opportunity to sleep with you, which they would accept. (And hence have another woman in your ever-growing harem to have casual sex with). But if only 1 girl in 20 likes you, it is very demoralising to be rejected outright by 19 girls for that 1 girl to give you a chance of intimacy. There's not much that i've found that tells you how to change one of those 19 girls to the 20th (i.e. capable of loving you).

Of course, this type of style is not a bad thing to most. But i'm trying to get just (non-commitment) experience with girls. Not sex. To change as many girl's thoughts from 'i'm not sure about this guy' to 'i want be intimate with this sexy guy' with my future silver tongue. Most the articles on this site seem to be about opening and closing a conversation with a girl who already likes you and just needs the motivation and excuse to join you. The truth is that not many girls even give me a chance to talk to them, and ignore/roll their eyes at me outright from the start. So my problem is not in closing 'the last 5%', but in actually getting the girl to give me a chance and think 'this guy's alright'. I'm not too interested in sex- i'll cross that bridge when i get there.

Am i on the right site for this? Or are there a group of articles on this i've totally missed? (My apologies if so!) thank you

 

[Kyuu]

I feel you Humay. As unfortunate as it may be, pick up is a numbers game.

If girls aren't even giving you a chance, it seems that you need to up your nonverbal game (i.e. posture, walk, eye contact, etc.), or you come off strangely (creepy, weird); in which case, you need to work on your vibe (think happy, sexy thoughts when approaching). If these are your problems, then Girlschase is the site for you.
Also worth noting, though I'm not sure if it applies to you, is looks. If you're not at least at or above average-looking, then you've got a bit of a tough road ahead of you my friend.

 

[PrettyDecent]

You bring up a pretty valid points, Humay.

But if only 1 girl in 20 likes you, it is very demoralising to be rejected outright by 19 girls for that 1 girl to give you a chance of intimacy. There's not much that i've found that tells you how to change one of those 19 girls to the 20th (i.e. capable of loving you).

I definitely feel you here, it's not a great feeling to be rejected by 19 women. I start to feel the unmotivation creeping in around 5 bad openings. However, if you know what you want in a girl (e.g. intimacy, relationship, good conversation), you'll sort through the ones who aren't interested and reach your goal in finding who is. The way I see it is, I'm not trying to get every girl in the world to like me, and I wouldn't get too far considering each has different tastes in men, are in different points in their lives, and may or may not be open to my end goals. It's about knowing what you want in a girl, and achieving your dreams/desires just like everything else we must do in life, be it finances, health, or women.

For the last statement, you also bring up a good point. I believe this is why, when you start, you always address fundamentals. This is the baseline for achieving a higher success ratio. It makes intuitive sense, the more you address fundamentals, flirting and escalating, the more of 'catch' you'll be to most women. I remember Chase addressing this specifically in the article (I believe it was "How to master anything"), Picasso had 200 extremely famous paintings of 5000 failed ones. If you took a novice and he similarly 5000 paintings, I'd be surprised if even 10 were famous. It was Picasso's painstaking attention to detail and constant, deliberate practice that made him favored over the novice. So it is with your warm reception ratio with women.

Of course, this type of style is not a bad thing to most. But i'm trying to get just (non-commitment) experience with girls. Not sex. To change as many girl's thoughts from 'i'm not sure about this guy' to 'i want be intimate with this sexy guy' with my future silver tongue...The truth is that not many girls even give me a chance to talk to them, and ignore/roll their eyes at me outright from the start. So my problem is not in closing 'the last 5%', but in actually getting the girl to give me a chance and think 'this guy's alright'. I'm not too interested in sex- i'll cross that bridge when i get there.

This is exactly why I kept coming on this site back in November. I wasn't interested in the sex (actually, I was almost repulsed!), I just wanted to stop all the flat out rejections to normal conversation, and have a girl to talk to with confidence. Again, addressing fundamentals is key here, because women naturally give more attention to men they feel attracted to, or find handsome/sexy. You don't even need to close, if you don't want. But it gives you access to much better interactions. For example, if a man you were standing next to was slouched, terribly dressed, and couldn't hold a decent conversation, you wouldn't give him much the time of day. But if a man was sitting next to you with excellent posture, was well-groomed/dressed, and you felt an emotional connection with from the get-go, you'd be flattered, or at least happy, to talk to him.

Am i on the right site for this? Or are there a group of articles on this i've totally missed? (My apologies if so!) thank you

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I'm pretty sure it is, man. Basic social needs are brought to attention in fine detail in this site, including how to have a conversation with anyone, being well dressed, working on posture, and even your voice/smile. These are all things that don't have to lead to sex, but brings about general self-improvement. And when you post on this forum, you are surrounded by people who are always trying to improve themselves in all aspects of your life. It truly is a great environment if you want a better quality life, affirmed and supported by people who have similar goals.

Jake

 

[trashKENNUT]

Humay,

I've read so many articles here, they're just so interesting. But one thing that really bugs me is that most of these articles seem to be tailored around having as many sexual relationships for as long as you want. And the girls that are 'chosen', are simply girls who like you anyway. You're just persuading them and giving them the opportunity to sleep with you, which they would accept. (And hence have another woman in your ever-growing harem to have casual sex with). But if only 1 girl in 20 likes you, it is very demoralising to be rejected outright by 19 girls for that 1 girl to give you a chance of intimacy. There's not much that i've found that tells you how to change one of those 19 girls to the 20th (i.e. capable of loving you).

I would like to correct that it is not just about the girls who like you. Most of the articles have been circulating around process, Process to understand girls, why they behave in such a way and yada yada, Process to get girls, Process to be good with people in general. All the best guys out there who is good with women, they get rejected by a lot of women, likely hundreds, thousands before they become good.

But why? you might ask. Why girls reject you? It is demoralising, but you need to understand that fundamentals and being a great conversationalist is important too. It improves your chances, and a lot of guys have not have this handled pretty well, and it's not easy. plus she would not have like you as you not her type or she prefers other guys, or she could have a bad day.

The articles here are all the things prepared so you won't do what most guys are doing out there, and most of them are clueless.

Zac

 

[The Tool]

Boom Goes the Dynamite. Well said Zac

 

[Franco]

Hey Humay,

I'll help clear the air on a few things for you to give you some better perspective.

And the girls that are 'chosen', are simply girls who like you anyway. You're just persuading them and giving them the opportunity to sleep with you, which they would accept.

This is actually false. When cold approaching women,they have absolutely no idea who you are, so they cannot like someone they don't know. They may or may not find you attractive (which can or cannot effect how much leeway they might give you for making mistakes when you approach them), but it is by no means the ultimate determining factor in whether or not a girl will go on a date with you, go home with you, sleep with you, and even become your girlfriend.

There is an article on approaching where Chase mentions that, when a girl 'rejects' you, she actually isn't rejecting you, she is rejecting your approach. So one of the things we emphasize on here is how to make yourself a sexy man so that you can work on making your approach as flawless as possible. Now, as some of the above posters have mentioned, even with a flawless approach, a girl still may not be receptive to you, and this is out of your control. But it's either you put yourself out there and make the effort to approach women and find a girl that truly makes you happy (or many that make you happy), or you sit at home praying that a great girl is going to magically appear at your door. The majority of the people that actively read the articles on this website are go-getters who don't feel like settling for anything less than what they want.

So I would re-phrase the question as so: "Do you think of yourself as a go-getter who settles for nothing less than what he wants out of life?"

If the answer is yes, then this is the website for you. If the answer is no, then maybe this website (and even seduction for that matter) is not for you.

I hope this gives you some insight. =)

- Franco

 

[Humay]

Thank you Franco, Zac, Jake and Kyuu. This kind of seems like a stupid question now. i guess after all this, if a girl still doesn't like me, she can go do one