This is more of a field report than it is a question, but I want to share with you all my recent success, a lot of it due to this forum and Chase.
When I found this website, I was struggling with every girl I had met, I was desperate for answers. I couldn't get a date to save my life at the time. I was clueless, and without any direction whatsoever. I had been on a few dates with girls earlier in my life, but for about a 1 year stretch, I had virtually zero intimate contact with women. Then I started reading what Chase had to say, and it started to sink in, not right away, but it started to give me a compass on what to do with women. After reading Chase's blog for a few weeks I finally got up the courage to ask out a girl I considered a 10. I actually got her number, and even set up a date, only to have her flake out on me, and then say she was with someone else. It was a setback.
I then became obsessed with improving my game, because I realized I made many mistakes in my interactions with this 10, and still almost got a date with her. I had failed, but I was determined to change for the better. I changed my wardrobe, my facial hair, I began washing my face more carefully, I began paying close attention to my shoes, my smell, what I ate, how I walked, and virtually every move my body made around women. Virtually no detail was missed. It didn't start to pay off right away, but I did see hints of success. Women began smiling at me more as I walked by, I began receiving more compliments on my clothing, and my confidence with women was steadily improving.
But I still wasn't getting tangible results, even though I know I had improved. I knew I had to become more aggressive in getting dates, and I worked on it by approaching.Finally, I did everything right with one of them, took her to bed, and had my first sex in over a year. After that, when I went to class the next week, I noticed a lot more looks from women, almost as if I was carrying myself differently, or as if women had a sixth sense for success. I had multiple women talk and smile at me that week, with very little effort on my part.It was like I was like I entered a different dimension. Since I got this one girl in bed, I have been less needy, and have been able to get multiple dates a week with women, and kissing all of them, after getting basically zero in a year.
I only changed after I failed, and boy did I fail hard. I don't think I will ever look back, and I will even embrace the next failure, because I only want to improve.
Don't give up beginners.
When I found this website, I was struggling with every girl I had met, I was desperate for answers. I couldn't get a date to save my life at the time. I was clueless, and without any direction whatsoever. I had been on a few dates with girls earlier in my life, but for about a 1 year stretch, I had virtually zero intimate contact with women. Then I started reading what Chase had to say, and it started to sink in, not right away, but it started to give me a compass on what to do with women. After reading Chase's blog for a few weeks I finally got up the courage to ask out a girl I considered a 10. I actually got her number, and even set up a date, only to have her flake out on me, and then say she was with someone else. It was a setback.
I then became obsessed with improving my game, because I realized I made many mistakes in my interactions with this 10, and still almost got a date with her. I had failed, but I was determined to change for the better. I changed my wardrobe, my facial hair, I began washing my face more carefully, I began paying close attention to my shoes, my smell, what I ate, how I walked, and virtually every move my body made around women. Virtually no detail was missed. It didn't start to pay off right away, but I did see hints of success. Women began smiling at me more as I walked by, I began receiving more compliments on my clothing, and my confidence with women was steadily improving.
But I still wasn't getting tangible results, even though I know I had improved. I knew I had to become more aggressive in getting dates, and I worked on it by approaching.Finally, I did everything right with one of them, took her to bed, and had my first sex in over a year. After that, when I went to class the next week, I noticed a lot more looks from women, almost as if I was carrying myself differently, or as if women had a sixth sense for success. I had multiple women talk and smile at me that week, with very little effort on my part.It was like I was like I entered a different dimension. Since I got this one girl in bed, I have been less needy, and have been able to get multiple dates a week with women, and kissing all of them, after getting basically zero in a year.
I only changed after I failed, and boy did I fail hard. I don't think I will ever look back, and I will even embrace the next failure, because I only want to improve.
Don't give up beginners.
