It's my first post here so yeah, hi everyone!
The day was pretty sunny and warm so I decided to take the opportunity and do some daygame. I had other things to take care of so it wasn't until 3 or 4 pm before i went to the old town with plenty of pubs and such. Due to great weather lots of folks were walking around. I chatted up some gals, grabbed a few numbers and had a couple of fun encounters.
I got pretty hungry but still didn't feel like going home so just bought a sandwich in the boutique nearby. While still eating I noticed a well-dressed girl with short hair walking past me, on the other side of the road. We had only little eye contact but she noticed me as well. I deliberately checked her out top-down as I was pretty sure she was aware of me looking at her. I jogged up and, still chewing, said "Hi". After a moment I followed "Huh maybe I finish eating first". So we made a few steps together with me munching.
When I finally told that when I had seen her I was like "whoa, I gotta talk to her!" she became very excited. Later she even told me (a number of times) that she was amazed by my approach.
She explained and we headed there. She ordered a jar, I just grabbed my wallet and told her I'm giving my share. Mainly because I didn't want to stay there for another turn. We grabbed a sit on a couch, next to each other.
She was completely excited with the situation but back then I read it rather as nervousness. Thus I decided to build some comfort. The interaction was pretty fun and laid back. I deep dived her and learned some details on her past and her motives and her goals.
Indeed she soon got more comfortable around me. Sadly I somewhat lost the sexy vibe and couldn't ramp the appeal back up. Of course she was still attracted. She was completely fine with my touch, even responded with some touch on her own. However it fades in comparison with the beginning, when I felt like I could bang her then and there.
Pretty soon into interaction she asked where I lived, I noticed what's going on, but didn't feel like pulling yet. Also it turned out she has a flat pretty close to mine so I was sure it would be easy to pull her while walking back together. Later I talked about some crazy adventures that happened to my and my buddy during hitch-hiking trip last year, she asked if I have any photos. I realised she just gave me a great opportunity to invite her home and "show her the photos"
But I felt like It was better If I just get back to the topic later. Yeah, now I realise it was the point were I fucked the things up.
Another mistake is I probably showed myself too much as a possible boyfriend. Even though I told her early on I was working hard to get out of the country in a few months to never come back. I guess that is why I didn't really paid attention to the whole boyfriend-lover thing.
It was all pretty playful, but still there was too much talking about things we could do together in the future. I learned she liked theatre and got excited as I seek people to watch some plays with. Also she was pretty thrilled about the possibility of hitch-hiking together.
This continued to such extend that I began to wonder whether I would like to have a relationship with her while I'm still here. Just now I've realised that likely the same thing was going through her head. Yeah, definitely something to temper or avoid altogether in the future. However it was interesting to feel on my skin how the topic of conversation affected the place I mentally put the girl in.
When our glasses were almost empty I told its time to go. That should be the moment I offered to go to my flat. Pity I did not, I guess that's another major mistake. We walked out, it was getting dark outside.
It was all fun but at the point I kind of realised the thing was not going as I would like it to. I decided to give it a try and told I was having a great time with her and we could spend some more time together, watch a movie and whatnot. She probably already made some later plans and quickly replied she promised to help her flat mate with something. She told we would do that next time. I insisted a little, but quickly realised it would not work. Closer to her apartment I told that she was not disappearing yet and she gotta walk me a little. She complied and we kept going. In the end she was willing to kiss but I wasn't going to give it to her. When she initiated a hug I just keep it short, told goodbye and headed my way.
Some time later I shot her a text.
After a few days I decided to give it another try.
Actually I experiment with texting style described in some article over here, normally I wouldn't write such a long message. I'm a little bit concerned if that chit-chat (You blah blah, I'm blah blah) is necessary. By now I've got mixed results, but not dropping it yet.
She made me wait long and I had some work to do so I decided not to get distracted and just write up the next day.
Credits to you guys for the first message, got the idea from the boards somewhere
I replied pretty quick, as she also wrote back immediately. It looks like her texts are much shorter... I'm the one who makes it happen, so I need more words to do so, right?
Oh and notice I haven't mention it earlier but now I implied we are meeting at my place.
Did I made her wait too long for the reply and some second thoughts came to her mind? Maybe shouldn't put that hurry thing there? Or in the first place just write the precise day and time for her to come? Would be nice to get some feedback on this one.
I didn't really pay too much attention to what I texted in the end, as it seemed like a dead thing by then.
Notice her lightning fast answers. Also who the heck celebrates St Patrick's day here?! Weird excuse.
My read is she wants me in the long-term thing, that's why she has doubts about coming to my place (see the "somewhere out" text). If that's the case, damn. Of course I'm not going to try to talk her up, I'm perfectly sure that's not the best idea to do so over text.
Either she agrees or she losses me. At least she won't end up heart-broken and I won't lose time and nerves. The only thing I'm doing is messaging her on Tuesday whether or not she came up with something, and if not telling her when to come It worked once before, so I still see an opportunity here!
Anyway I feel like I learned a lot and I hope you can learn from my mistakes as well
The day was pretty sunny and warm so I decided to take the opportunity and do some daygame. I had other things to take care of so it wasn't until 3 or 4 pm before i went to the old town with plenty of pubs and such. Due to great weather lots of folks were walking around. I chatted up some gals, grabbed a few numbers and had a couple of fun encounters.
I got pretty hungry but still didn't feel like going home so just bought a sandwich in the boutique nearby. While still eating I noticed a well-dressed girl with short hair walking past me, on the other side of the road. We had only little eye contact but she noticed me as well. I deliberately checked her out top-down as I was pretty sure she was aware of me looking at her. I jogged up and, still chewing, said "Hi". After a moment I followed "Huh maybe I finish eating first". So we made a few steps together with me munching.
When I finally told that when I had seen her I was like "whoa, I gotta talk to her!" she became very excited. Later she even told me (a number of times) that she was amazed by my approach.
She explained and we headed there. She ordered a jar, I just grabbed my wallet and told her I'm giving my share. Mainly because I didn't want to stay there for another turn. We grabbed a sit on a couch, next to each other.
She was completely excited with the situation but back then I read it rather as nervousness. Thus I decided to build some comfort. The interaction was pretty fun and laid back. I deep dived her and learned some details on her past and her motives and her goals.
Indeed she soon got more comfortable around me. Sadly I somewhat lost the sexy vibe and couldn't ramp the appeal back up. Of course she was still attracted. She was completely fine with my touch, even responded with some touch on her own. However it fades in comparison with the beginning, when I felt like I could bang her then and there.
Pretty soon into interaction she asked where I lived, I noticed what's going on, but didn't feel like pulling yet. Also it turned out she has a flat pretty close to mine so I was sure it would be easy to pull her while walking back together. Later I talked about some crazy adventures that happened to my and my buddy during hitch-hiking trip last year, she asked if I have any photos. I realised she just gave me a great opportunity to invite her home and "show her the photos"
But I felt like It was better If I just get back to the topic later. Yeah, now I realise it was the point were I fucked the things up. Another mistake is I probably showed myself too much as a possible boyfriend. Even though I told her early on I was working hard to get out of the country in a few months to never come back. I guess that is why I didn't really paid attention to the whole boyfriend-lover thing.
It was all pretty playful, but still there was too much talking about things we could do together in the future. I learned she liked theatre and got excited as I seek people to watch some plays with. Also she was pretty thrilled about the possibility of hitch-hiking together.
This continued to such extend that I began to wonder whether I would like to have a relationship with her while I'm still here. Just now I've realised that likely the same thing was going through her head. Yeah, definitely something to temper or avoid altogether in the future. However it was interesting to feel on my skin how the topic of conversation affected the place I mentally put the girl in.
When our glasses were almost empty I told its time to go. That should be the moment I offered to go to my flat. Pity I did not, I guess that's another major mistake. We walked out, it was getting dark outside.
It was all fun but at the point I kind of realised the thing was not going as I would like it to. I decided to give it a try and told I was having a great time with her and we could spend some more time together, watch a movie and whatnot. She probably already made some later plans and quickly replied she promised to help her flat mate with something. She told we would do that next time. I insisted a little, but quickly realised it would not work. Closer to her apartment I told that she was not disappearing yet and she gotta walk me a little. She complied and we kept going. In the end she was willing to kiss but I wasn't going to give it to her. When she initiated a hug I just keep it short, told goodbye and headed my way.
Some time later I shot her a text.
Me 20.44: Hello Gal
Her 23.02: Hello Brish, You too
After a few days I decided to give it another try.
Me 12.16: I hope the week is not biting too much. Ive got little apocalypse over here
Her 22.54:
Actually I experiment with texting style described in some article over here, normally I wouldn't write such a long message. I'm a little bit concerned if that chit-chat (You blah blah, I'm blah blah) is necessary. By now I've got mixed results, but not dropping it yet.
She made me wait long and I had some work to do so I decided not to get distracted and just write up the next day.
Me 12.32: Oh so you want to come while Im still in bed? I like you're that direct still maybe some evening?
Her 12.33: Haha! You overinterpret!
Me 12.35: So do you come up with sth or you accept I gonna be half-conscious
Her 12.36:
Credits to you guys for the first message, got the idea from the boards somewhere
I replied pretty quick, as she also wrote back immediately. It looks like her texts are much shorter... I'm the one who makes it happen, so I need more words to do so, right?
Oh and notice I haven't mention it earlier but now I implied we are meeting at my place.
Did I made her wait too long for the reply and some second thoughts came to her mind? Maybe shouldn't put that hurry thing there? Or in the first place just write the precise day and time for her to come? Would be nice to get some feedback on this one.
Me 14.20: With whatever, I want to go out about 13, so you're here a little bit earlier
Her 14.21: So lets just arrange it other time, somewhere out
Me 14.25: I took it that you have time Wednesday forenoon, sth changed?
Her 14.29: I forgot it is st. Patricks day on Tuesday so I may be off-color Wednesday morning.
Me 14.33: Then write me when its better rather than making up this snarl
I didn't really pay too much attention to what I texted in the end, as it seemed like a dead thing by then.
Notice her lightning fast answers. Also who the heck celebrates St Patrick's day here?! Weird excuse.
My read is she wants me in the long-term thing, that's why she has doubts about coming to my place (see the "somewhere out" text). If that's the case, damn. Of course I'm not going to try to talk her up, I'm perfectly sure that's not the best idea to do so over text.
Either she agrees or she losses me. At least she won't end up heart-broken and I won't lose time and nerves. The only thing I'm doing is messaging her on Tuesday whether or not she came up with something, and if not telling her when to come
It worked once before, so I still see an opportunity here!Anyway I feel like I learned a lot and I hope you can learn from my mistakes as well
