Expectations It's important to be willing to walk away

[johndoe]

Just had a tiff with a girl I've been seeing for awhile now (i.e. we are FWBs). Really brought home the point in one of the GC articles here talking about how you must always be willing to leave. So here's the long and short of it:

1. Had a really big disagreement with a girl.
2. Told her we need to talk it out, because I think our disagreement is because she is not willing to see things from my POV.
3. When we talked, she kept framing me as unreasonable and weak (because I couldn't outtalk her).
4. I basically said sure, I am unreasonable and weak then. And stopped talking.
5. She asks "is this going to change how things are between us?", to which I responded "yes, of course". I was thinking this was definitely going to change our sex life, because if she thinks I'm so unreasonable and impotent, then I might as well go find someone else to bang.
6. She seemed to get the vibe, so she does a 180 and starts asking me about why I was upset, what were the things about her that were problematic, and started agreeing with me on some of her problematic traits.
7. We make up and things are good again.

I know I'm not breaking any new frontiers here. This is really well-known here, but I've always had this problem with being too nice to women. I've dated a lot of girls who did a big 180 once I decided I wasn't gonna take their bullshit anymore, but I've tolerated things too much until I've hit a breaking point with them, so I didn't want to salvage things with them at that point.

With this girl, I made it a point to not avoid conflict, and it's made such a difference.

Alright, thanks for reading my wall of text guys.