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Hey Guys!
Over the last few weeks I've been focusing more time on going out and meeting women, I did some brief work for a charity, approaching people on the street and in 2 days, all AA and fear of rejection had vanished (as a "chugger" you're constantly blanked, abused and avoided, no problem, I'd rather not spend my time talking with someone who isn't willing to donate and approach 30 others until I find one that is), step one complete
Now the numbers have been pilling up, primarily from short number close situations, (usually less than 5 minutes, quite a few in under 1 "I noticed you over here and just had to tell you, you're pretty cute, I'd love to get to know you a little better but I'm late for an appointment, we should meet for coffee later this week and get to know each other, sound fun?" That's worked pretty well thus far)
Problem I'm having now is this, I get the number, have a little text banter, qualifying and deep rapport (usually in around 10 rallies or less) Then arrange a meet, usually as local to my place as possible, its when I get there I struggle, I greet, get touch in early get past the small talk onto topics I can dive, but all this time it just feels like a friendly conversation, there are no undertones, no energy behind the conversation, very little in the way of chase framing or tension of any description, which leads me onto my question..
How do I create that chemistry with these women? how do I get the interaction from friendly, platonic plateaus into the humid, steamy rain forest of a flirtatious conversation bursting with sexual tension, playfulness and flirtation?
have any of you gents hit a similar sticking point and are able to throw some advice my way, or perhaps point me in the direction of an article on here that highlights this area and can give me advice on how to get past this? I'm getting the impression that my fundamentals are pretty good, hence the quick closes, but my "Vibe" could use some work..
I've yet to get a single LR since moving to London and reading through this material. I've not been laid since the beginning of February which, for a guy who has spent the the last 3 years in a long term relationship and was sleeping with 2 women within a week of that failing and has been getting it at least 4 hrs a night 3 nights a week for almost 4 years, feels like an eternity!
I appreciate the help chaps
Over the last few weeks I've been focusing more time on going out and meeting women, I did some brief work for a charity, approaching people on the street and in 2 days, all AA and fear of rejection had vanished (as a "chugger" you're constantly blanked, abused and avoided, no problem, I'd rather not spend my time talking with someone who isn't willing to donate and approach 30 others until I find one that is), step one complete
Now the numbers have been pilling up, primarily from short number close situations, (usually less than 5 minutes, quite a few in under 1 "I noticed you over here and just had to tell you, you're pretty cute, I'd love to get to know you a little better but I'm late for an appointment, we should meet for coffee later this week and get to know each other, sound fun?" That's worked pretty well thus far)
Problem I'm having now is this, I get the number, have a little text banter, qualifying and deep rapport (usually in around 10 rallies or less) Then arrange a meet, usually as local to my place as possible, its when I get there I struggle, I greet, get touch in early get past the small talk onto topics I can dive, but all this time it just feels like a friendly conversation, there are no undertones, no energy behind the conversation, very little in the way of chase framing or tension of any description, which leads me onto my question..
How do I create that chemistry with these women? how do I get the interaction from friendly, platonic plateaus into the humid, steamy rain forest of a flirtatious conversation bursting with sexual tension, playfulness and flirtation?
have any of you gents hit a similar sticking point and are able to throw some advice my way, or perhaps point me in the direction of an article on here that highlights this area and can give me advice on how to get past this? I'm getting the impression that my fundamentals are pretty good, hence the quick closes, but my "Vibe" could use some work..
I've yet to get a single LR since moving to London and reading through this material. I've not been laid since the beginning of February which, for a guy who has spent the the last 3 years in a long term relationship and was sleeping with 2 women within a week of that failing and has been getting it at least 4 hrs a night 3 nights a week for almost 4 years, feels like an eternity!
I appreciate the help chaps
