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FR: Just a day in California
Social Circle Beach Party
Saturday I went to a beach party and had a fun social circle thing, met a blonde latina there and we immediately hit it off, I was being super charming with everyone and laying on well-timed innuendo while she was making hot dogs. The guy who invited me seemed to have pulled this chubby chick who she was a friend to a friend who made friends with her, so that set somewhat of a slutty frame of my association there (once one girls breaks the seal and starts fucking, they all do).
Someone asked if her and I were dating and I laid in a chase frame, and then she actually kinda started chasing me haha.
Then, some dumb white woman who was super annoying crashed the vibe next to the grill and started buzzing me like a fly with annoying questions and basically trying to patronize me for wearing a necklace with a crystal on it. It wasn't a hardcore one whatsoever and I'm not one of those california crystal freaks, so it was super uncalibrated. Luckily, I've been working on my outcome independence and social calibration, so I made her look like a total fucking idiot while also showing that I don't give a fuck how stupid she is lol. I wish I had the fully dialogue because it was very attractive to the latina. I made friends with some of the older gentleman accompanying her who also took a big liking to me.
Isolate and Deep Dive
Once that was dealt with I sat down with the gal, ate our hot dogs and talked about life. She's leaving CA, possible the US, and is experiencing a bit of a lust for life in her mid thirties (she looks late 20s early 30s). She also was about to get married and leading up to her yes she said no, and felt that it just wasn't what she wanted forever. She was telling me that she's had lots of critical thoughts about the institution of marriage and I got hard. I leaned into it a bit and let her go, doing my best to reframe it around her lust for life and the freedom that comes with taking a step into independent thought and action, recognizing it's hard to say no when her whole family has these expectations for her.
I shared some experiences of the same thing in my life. When we started feeling a little more tipsy we went for a walk down the beach and make out. We both shared some crazy stories that related to this whole "us against the world" framing and it was working nicely. She was putty in my hands and it all felt very romantic on the beach. I could tell she was really vibing and getting those "who is this guy??" kind of feelings.
Transition to Instadate
We were supposed to go on a boat but one of the hosts was reaching critical levels of being drunk (lol) and becoming a little disorganized. Instead we went to the house of the guy who invited me out and drank some of his nice wine while we kinda broke into small groups. I drank wine with my girl and reframed us meeting as "our first date" and then reframed an isolation as "our second date" to a bar closeby where I get a discount because of my industry ties. Instadates aren't really a thing in night / party game. Was kind of experimenting here with the unique scenario.
I do wonder if i could have just gone for the close here. Honestly, I probably should have, because taking her out for a "second date" is a little too boyfriendy. It felt like the thing to do though, and my Slowburn was burning hotter each second we talked, so I didn't want to rush things.
We go on the date after getting an uber to her car (I'm definitely more intoxicated than she is, lol) and head to the spot. I've been told it's a common place for first dates. When I get there this seems to be very true, and there's just a certain vibe with most parties at the bar. On top of this, you can tell her and I are having WAY more fun than everyone else. We weren't deep diving anymore, we were just being upbeat and silly with eachother and talking about the food, whereas everyone else was awkward and sorta clunky. This MILF kept checking me out and I was being gregarious with the bar staff. I made one mistake because she bumped into an old boss of hers while I needed to use the bathroom, and they were rigth next to the bathroom. So I kinda had to talk to them when really you don't want to move that close to her personal life early on. Set's the wrong boyfriend frames and makes her feel ASD a little bit.
Failed Pull Attempt
I can't remember exactly how I pulled but we went back for a walk to her car and made out during the walk. During this time I slathered on sex talk and told her about dom vs sub and certain positions that make it easy for a sub to commit to the psychological situation of being subbed. I say we listen to music in the car and kinda try to glue that to music at my place while she drops me off, but it ultimately doesn't land. This was one of those occasions where I definitely didn't want to push hard because of how much this was a "sweep you off your feet experience".
After that I let her go.... I have some texts I'll share in my journal for our upcoming date. Not all is lost and things look good for next week.
Nightgame Hits Ya Fast
The rest of the night was super duper fun but also very frustrating. I also got into a dangerous situation by the end.
There's a place I have been dying to go game at and I head there with super high momentum. I approach a 9 and 2 8's and they are soaking in my sexual eye contact super hard. I could tell I pierced straight through their bitch shields and the 9 didn't know what to expect. I won't forget how they said, "can we just like... have 3 of you? We need more of this (motioning to my person)". They leave to the bathroom so I sit at the bar and wait for them to return.
A high 8 brazilian opens me and grabs me and wants to dance. Of course I oblige. Next thing I know this brazilian with a cookie dough ass is grinding on my dick within 30s of meeting her and pulling me out the bar to introduce me to her friends. Now I've been swept off MY FEET lol and I kinda just let it happen. I take them to a differnent spot down the street and we get drinks, and then things got tricky.
The girl who pulled me barely speaks english and is being drunk and crazy. Shes bouncing around, dancing on things, running for no reason, running back, and generally being an attention whore. I shouldn't have left those original girls for this hot thing that probably saw it go down and wanted a taste of me. That ass was extremely enticing, though haha.
Preselection Bubble Pop
Inside the next club one second I'm having drinks with these ladies, and then I see my boss from work. I start to panic, because if he sees me out with a group of girls, and then tells people at work, that might get back to my MLTR, so my anxiety goes up there.
Then the group of girls from earlier come in, and the 9 is PISSED lol. She walks up to me with the brazilian and goes, "who the fuck is this??" all bitchy, and then storms away. Preselection bubble pop.
So I have to choose at that point, but if I falter at all I lose both of them, so I lean into the girls I'm with and befriend her 7 friend who speaks better english. I get her number in case things get crazy. Since we're with the crazy brazilian chick, they do. She runs off to a bar next door and the other girls want me to come. I just say I'll meet them there, and then run back to hide in the bathroom. This was a 3D chess move to create a vacancy for the brazilian and also not let my manager see me leave with them, just in case. Also, it gives me an opportunity to reengage the 9 if she's there, but unfortunately she had left.
Lost Control
I wait a bit and then go in to the new spot. I'm swarmed by the SC from the beach party, and then the girls find me. Things are looking great again and I start making out with the brazilian chick. Then 3 dudes (not attractive, lol) in suites walk in and are hounding the brazilian super hard. The friends want to leave (so I want to leave with them, and bed the brazilian) but the brazilian wont' leave these guys in suits. They start surrounding her like vultures and all talking to her in this very "rich guy talking to a hooker" type of way and I start thinking they might even know her? Then she refuses to leave them and starts drama with her friends. The friends leave and say I can't come. I can't be needy with the brazilian so I get stuck in the middle and am eventually standing alone. I had a choice to risk my SC composure and be very aggressive with the brazilian and pull her (these types often want an ultra dominant man, too) or just say fuck it and leave. I care a lot about the long term effects of SC so I choose to just leave.
Next I street approach a bit but nothing sticks. I'm also definitely drunk at this point. I go to an after hours club (which is definitley in the hood, first time I didn't notice but holy shit this time I did) and there's a gang fight happening outside, this dude is COVERED in blood. I get the fuck out of there and sleep it off. Not worth it lol.
Concluding thoughts:
Undershot with the latina from the SC party, could have slam dunked it if I made an alternative "second date" that was less boyfriendy and didn't involve my industry's company. Runs a risk I shouldn't take with a girl who hasn't made it to MLTR yet.
Overshot with the brazilian and lost the opening set. Should have spotted her as an attention whore because of how quickly she went from hello to lap dance. Lol. I'm not the special. If she'll do it to me that fast she'll do it to anybody.
Mindfulness would have helped with both.
Proud of myself for wielding momentum so well. I think I have an epic summer awaiting me.
FR: Just a day in California
Social Circle Beach Party
Saturday I went to a beach party and had a fun social circle thing, met a blonde latina there and we immediately hit it off, I was being super charming with everyone and laying on well-timed innuendo while she was making hot dogs. The guy who invited me seemed to have pulled this chubby chick who she was a friend to a friend who made friends with her, so that set somewhat of a slutty frame of my association there (once one girls breaks the seal and starts fucking, they all do).
Someone asked if her and I were dating and I laid in a chase frame, and then she actually kinda started chasing me haha.
Then, some dumb white woman who was super annoying crashed the vibe next to the grill and started buzzing me like a fly with annoying questions and basically trying to patronize me for wearing a necklace with a crystal on it. It wasn't a hardcore one whatsoever and I'm not one of those california crystal freaks, so it was super uncalibrated. Luckily, I've been working on my outcome independence and social calibration, so I made her look like a total fucking idiot while also showing that I don't give a fuck how stupid she is lol. I wish I had the fully dialogue because it was very attractive to the latina. I made friends with some of the older gentleman accompanying her who also took a big liking to me.
Isolate and Deep Dive
Once that was dealt with I sat down with the gal, ate our hot dogs and talked about life. She's leaving CA, possible the US, and is experiencing a bit of a lust for life in her mid thirties (she looks late 20s early 30s). She also was about to get married and leading up to her yes she said no, and felt that it just wasn't what she wanted forever. She was telling me that she's had lots of critical thoughts about the institution of marriage and I got hard. I leaned into it a bit and let her go, doing my best to reframe it around her lust for life and the freedom that comes with taking a step into independent thought and action, recognizing it's hard to say no when her whole family has these expectations for her.
I shared some experiences of the same thing in my life. When we started feeling a little more tipsy we went for a walk down the beach and make out. We both shared some crazy stories that related to this whole "us against the world" framing and it was working nicely. She was putty in my hands and it all felt very romantic on the beach. I could tell she was really vibing and getting those "who is this guy??" kind of feelings.
Transition to Instadate
We were supposed to go on a boat but one of the hosts was reaching critical levels of being drunk (lol) and becoming a little disorganized. Instead we went to the house of the guy who invited me out and drank some of his nice wine while we kinda broke into small groups. I drank wine with my girl and reframed us meeting as "our first date" and then reframed an isolation as "our second date" to a bar closeby where I get a discount because of my industry ties. Instadates aren't really a thing in night / party game. Was kind of experimenting here with the unique scenario.
I do wonder if i could have just gone for the close here. Honestly, I probably should have, because taking her out for a "second date" is a little too boyfriendy. It felt like the thing to do though, and my Slowburn was burning hotter each second we talked, so I didn't want to rush things.
We go on the date after getting an uber to her car (I'm definitely more intoxicated than she is, lol) and head to the spot. I've been told it's a common place for first dates. When I get there this seems to be very true, and there's just a certain vibe with most parties at the bar. On top of this, you can tell her and I are having WAY more fun than everyone else. We weren't deep diving anymore, we were just being upbeat and silly with eachother and talking about the food, whereas everyone else was awkward and sorta clunky. This MILF kept checking me out and I was being gregarious with the bar staff. I made one mistake because she bumped into an old boss of hers while I needed to use the bathroom, and they were rigth next to the bathroom. So I kinda had to talk to them when really you don't want to move that close to her personal life early on. Set's the wrong boyfriend frames and makes her feel ASD a little bit.
Failed Pull Attempt
I can't remember exactly how I pulled but we went back for a walk to her car and made out during the walk. During this time I slathered on sex talk and told her about dom vs sub and certain positions that make it easy for a sub to commit to the psychological situation of being subbed. I say we listen to music in the car and kinda try to glue that to music at my place while she drops me off, but it ultimately doesn't land. This was one of those occasions where I definitely didn't want to push hard because of how much this was a "sweep you off your feet experience".
After that I let her go.... I have some texts I'll share in my journal for our upcoming date. Not all is lost and things look good for next week.
Nightgame Hits Ya Fast
The rest of the night was super duper fun but also very frustrating. I also got into a dangerous situation by the end.
There's a place I have been dying to go game at and I head there with super high momentum. I approach a 9 and 2 8's and they are soaking in my sexual eye contact super hard. I could tell I pierced straight through their bitch shields and the 9 didn't know what to expect. I won't forget how they said, "can we just like... have 3 of you? We need more of this (motioning to my person)". They leave to the bathroom so I sit at the bar and wait for them to return.
A high 8 brazilian opens me and grabs me and wants to dance. Of course I oblige. Next thing I know this brazilian with a cookie dough ass is grinding on my dick within 30s of meeting her and pulling me out the bar to introduce me to her friends. Now I've been swept off MY FEET lol and I kinda just let it happen. I take them to a differnent spot down the street and we get drinks, and then things got tricky.
The girl who pulled me barely speaks english and is being drunk and crazy. Shes bouncing around, dancing on things, running for no reason, running back, and generally being an attention whore. I shouldn't have left those original girls for this hot thing that probably saw it go down and wanted a taste of me. That ass was extremely enticing, though haha.
Preselection Bubble Pop
Inside the next club one second I'm having drinks with these ladies, and then I see my boss from work. I start to panic, because if he sees me out with a group of girls, and then tells people at work, that might get back to my MLTR, so my anxiety goes up there.
Then the group of girls from earlier come in, and the 9 is PISSED lol. She walks up to me with the brazilian and goes, "who the fuck is this??" all bitchy, and then storms away. Preselection bubble pop.
So I have to choose at that point, but if I falter at all I lose both of them, so I lean into the girls I'm with and befriend her 7 friend who speaks better english. I get her number in case things get crazy. Since we're with the crazy brazilian chick, they do. She runs off to a bar next door and the other girls want me to come. I just say I'll meet them there, and then run back to hide in the bathroom. This was a 3D chess move to create a vacancy for the brazilian and also not let my manager see me leave with them, just in case. Also, it gives me an opportunity to reengage the 9 if she's there, but unfortunately she had left.
Lost Control
I wait a bit and then go in to the new spot. I'm swarmed by the SC from the beach party, and then the girls find me. Things are looking great again and I start making out with the brazilian chick. Then 3 dudes (not attractive, lol) in suites walk in and are hounding the brazilian super hard. The friends want to leave (so I want to leave with them, and bed the brazilian) but the brazilian wont' leave these guys in suits. They start surrounding her like vultures and all talking to her in this very "rich guy talking to a hooker" type of way and I start thinking they might even know her? Then she refuses to leave them and starts drama with her friends. The friends leave and say I can't come. I can't be needy with the brazilian so I get stuck in the middle and am eventually standing alone. I had a choice to risk my SC composure and be very aggressive with the brazilian and pull her (these types often want an ultra dominant man, too) or just say fuck it and leave. I care a lot about the long term effects of SC so I choose to just leave.
Next I street approach a bit but nothing sticks. I'm also definitely drunk at this point. I go to an after hours club (which is definitley in the hood, first time I didn't notice but holy shit this time I did) and there's a gang fight happening outside, this dude is COVERED in blood. I get the fuck out of there and sleep it off. Not worth it lol.
Concluding thoughts:
Undershot with the latina from the SC party, could have slam dunked it if I made an alternative "second date" that was less boyfriendy and didn't involve my industry's company. Runs a risk I shouldn't take with a girl who hasn't made it to MLTR yet.
Overshot with the brazilian and lost the opening set. Should have spotted her as an attention whore because of how quickly she went from hello to lap dance. Lol. I'm not the special. If she'll do it to me that fast she'll do it to anybody.
Mindfulness would have helped with both.
Proud of myself for wielding momentum so well. I think I have an epic summer awaiting me.
