Just found out GF cheated on me and much more! I want to do this right.

[Diyako]

I've known of Girls chase for a while now. Been skimming through the boards every now and than. Figured I'd give this a shot and see what can be made of this thread.

As you read, this is about me finding out today about my girlfriend cheating on me and finding out about her dark past. So I hope this thread will be educational and helpful for those in similar cases or those that are suspicious of their exclusive gf.

lets get in this bitch.

I was out at a bar last night with my 7month Gf, than figured we'd chill at an after hours coffee shop, thats when we saw her ex from supposedly 2010. So he saw us hanging at the lounge, when my gf told me who he is and tried avoiding him. I thought to myself; whatever, big deal. And he kept moving, avoiding any contact with me. Than after a few min he starts texting her. She than proceeds to tell me about it, how he keeps texting and begs to see her again. She than shows me their old messages. So I casually skimmed at it, didn't really see anything wrong. I mean, any girl worth dating surely has guys and ex's chasing them... But for some reason, it left a bitter taste.

We headed home, and had sex Than she passed out. I knew her phone password all through our relationship, but didn't want to go the untrusting boyfriend route, so I never snooped or felt the need to. But last night I felt very suspicious of her, and knew deep down inside that I need to check her phone. So I bit the bullet and snatched her phone, took it to the kitchen and went through her text messages, fb, pics and videos. Just about anything that would be considered personal. I figured if I'm gonna snoop, I'm gonna do it the best I can and make it worth it.

What I found was just unprecedented.

I found out she actually did cheat on me once. And that was her going to the beach with a guy that I've never met on a day which we were arguing. She took 7-8 pics with him. So they had to have fucked. But anyways just that alone deserves a breakup.

theres more....

Turns out shes been fuckin around alot before seeing me, scattering her fake persona.

And it also turned out that she used to work as an escort, before meeting me. Talk about a lying whore for a 20 year old. I would not have even imagined. She's a girl with such a nice personality and smart, affectionate and what not. If you would see her, you would think shes a little angle. I bet no one would even guessed. But anyways I'm not emotional at all about all this and I understand she's young, and got lots to learn, but this relationship needs to come to an end.

Here's my question for you bros; we started out as fuckbuddies for a few weeks. Than later on became exclusive. I want to break up with her, but in a smart way. I kinda don't want her to know that I went through her phone but still make her confess about her cheating, but the other part of me just wants to kick her out of my house once shes up ( as she's still passed out in my bed at this very moment). So I'm curious as to what you guys might think. I wouldn't mind downgrading her into a fuck buddy again. Although I understand as Chase mentioned; going backwards in a relationship doesnt always turnout well.

So let me get your take on this guys

Was a pleasure sharing

 

[ProblemSolving]

Hey Diyako,

Welcome to the boards. If it were me, I'd confront her and promptly give her the boot. It's important to reflect on how the relationship played out to see where you may have ignored the red flags that indicated she wasn't the kind of girl to invest in. This will prevent it from happening again in the future.

Also, what were the pics of her and the guy at the beach? That's the problem with social media: people get photographed together which of course means they're fucking If they were incriminating, then your suspicions are most likely correct, but if they're not, she could have just went on a friendly date with this guy to feel better about herself after your argument. Still suspicious, but far from actual cheating.

I knew her phone password all through our relationship, but didn't want to go the untrusting boyfriend route, so I never snooped or felt the need to. But last night I felt very suspicious of her, and knew deep down inside that I need to check her phone.

Only guilty people care about that kind of privacy. A girl with nothing to hide doesn't give a shit if you go through her stuff. In the past, I've playfully grabbed my girl's phone and said, "Let's see who my girl's been talking to". She didn't care, since there was nothing to feel guilty about.

As for making her a FB or not, it depends on your level of abundance. You likely have substantial emotional investment in this girl, which will make it very hard for you to downgrade her. The most likely scenario is that you guys become non-exclusive and she gets laid with new guys, while you're left scrambling to find a replacement. Better to just cut all ties and search for new girls ASAP.

 

[Fuck This]

You have already convicted her in your mind, so no point in going for REVENGE.

I would simply tell her you no longer want to have a relationship with her, and cut all contact. You obviously don't trust her and never will again.

Don't try to prove she was unfaithful. Tell her that you are done and that is that. Eliminate her from your life.

At this point if you tried to salvage your relationship she is going to resent you, and you will always be suspicious.

Go find someone else you aren't suspicious of...and work on yourself so you are the prize that a woman won't want to let go...