Keep having troubles getting laid.

[Man-O]

So I'm at this point where I'm not interested in loads of numbers, nor do I approach EVERY single hot girl I see when n-gaming since I just have this mind of wanting a lay.

Yesterday I experienced it again. My fundamentals after having trained it for a month have clearly made it easier for me to chill and do nothing and then some girl walks up or walk past me with intend. I catch up on it and start qualifying, deep diving and then over to sex-talk, back and forth + being playful back and forth in the conversation.
In this case it was dancegame and then talk on dancefloor (the music wasn't loud). She opened me ("do you have gum?" 1 min after from same girl "Hey, you seem nice"). Start escalating and being this sexy mothafucka with intrigue, Heavy kino, prohibiting myself from kissing the mouth etc., telling her how I like the single life etc. and I learn she lives nearby in town so think I can get home to her (I should mention I didn't get cb'ed by her friends either). Ends with us dancing/talking for 30 mins and she has to leave and ask for number swap.
I say "why can't I just go with you, there shouldn't be any trouble in that?"
she's not up for it and says she doesn't like ons.
Me: "Then if it's like that we better just keep it as friends."
Then she ejects.

I get turned on just being much more sexual both verbally and none-verbally and yet I feel like I've hit this ceiling that won't break unless I'm lucky.

Is it detrimental to my game to think so much about the lay?
And what did I miss with the case above? (I thought it was a gamble telling us to be friends to have her change mind as I knew I wouldn't rly miss nor getting nr.)

 

[Franco]

Man-O,

So I'm at this point where I'm not interested in loads of numbers, nor do I approach EVERY single hot girl I see when n-gaming since I just have this mind of wanting a lay.

This is probably the issue you should focus on here. If you're still not getting laid yet (or haven't been consistently getting your process down to the point where you're getting the occasional lay), then you probably still want to be doing LOTS of approaches. You need more reference points, and you need to get girls back to your place and into your bedroom.

It sounds like you have a general grasp of what you need to be doing. However, if you're going to be doing strictly night game, then you need to understand that it's even more of a number's game -- you need to be doing LOTS of approaches because girls have their walls up there, and most of the time you won't be pulling the first few girls you talk to. So this caters more toward approaching a lot, screening fast, and moving quickly when you find a girl that passes your screens (which should mostly be based on her interest levels and your logistics for getting her out of there).

If you really feel like making lots of approaches isn't your thing (but you're also not very successful with the few approaches you do make), then maybe you want to look into doing day game. Day game interactions tend to go a lot more smoothly, and it's not uncommon to have one of the first few girls you approach be interested in moving things forward with you (since their walls are generally much lower).

EDIT: Also, I feel like this article might be relevant and worth reading for you:

• Want Dates? Then Approach Girls

- Franco

 

[Man-O]

You need more reference points, and you need to get girls back to your place and into your bedroom.

Yea, not making it easier not having an apartment in the city yet as well as ratios being 1:2 at their best in n-game where I'm at (and I have tried looking for better venues but the city Odense isn't bigger than 180k pop and most places are pop clubs).

Thanks for the advice was about to lose focus on what to emphasize in my game.
Think I'll be going back to what I did before and even if I can smell a rejection coming up I'll still approach as I did a month ago
Reading the article now.

 

[ray_zorse]

It also wouldn't have hurt to take her number for later, she might genuinely have had to leave & not been free to spend time with you. Also by signaling intent to stay in touch you make her feel less cheap sometimes.
cheers, Ray
PS I chuckled a bit at the title of this post... could apply to 99% of msgs on these boards
PPS I wouldn't expect a lot of visible result from 1mth training, keep hammering it out bro

 

[Man-O]

It also wouldn't have hurt to take her number for later, she might genuinely have had to leave & not been free to spend time with you. Also by signaling intent to stay in touch you make her feel less cheap sometimes.

Well, she did say she wasn't into ons so I couldn't go with her. And I was too focused on getting laid due to some frustration lately? As I feel my game is tighter than ever before and yet my learning curve with the last part of seduction hasn't moved since I haven't had the opportunity/gotten so far.

But usually I'd just say "sure" and swap numbers, but hey, learned that when some women hear the words when not engaged in a room they just leave annoyed. She also asked if I was going out the day after, which I answered with a maybe (though I knew I would) so could probably have gotten laid there had I got her nr. But the path to success is paved with failures, else I'd stopped long ago