Keep Running Out of Conversation

[Suave]

I believe I've had this problem for as long a time as I can recall, but I can't seem to keep a constant conversation going at will. Sometimes, the motherfucker will flow out smoother than something really fucking smooth I can't think of right now, but that mostly happens after it's already been going on for a while with me at the helm, fighting.

Now, I really think that improvement requires you to keep drilling yourself at the skill than whine at the boards but then I saw the newest videos Chase sent and I had to come here.

I have been doing fine with the dates I go on, but I really don't feel like talking a heck lot, and I love touching. Quite frankly, that might be just the thing that is getting me the women it has lately (and fundamentals ofc). But my question is whether something is wrong with me? Should I be doing something differently? How will I relate with future women if I'm not able to talk that much?

I've been working on flirting and sometimes I'm good, sometimes I'm not, but it seems to be going downhill, which is really reassuring. But the bare conversation is where I've been stalling lately.

Anything fellas?


Thanks!
Suave

 

[Marcellus]

Say whatever comes to mind.

 

[Chase]

Suave-

No, there's nothing wrong here.

I used to stress out about this my first year or two meeting lots of girls.

When I started deep diving, it alleviated much of the problem. The rest of it went away when 1.) I got more comfortable with pregnant pauses, and 2.) I adopted a mentality of, "If we both like each other and there isn't much to say, then let's move things to the next step."

Would suggest you look at those three things:

• Am I deep diving well / enough?
• Am I comfortable with pauses when they come up?
• Do I take the lead and move things forward when it's time for it?

The point of the courtship is not to have the best and longest conversations, remember. It's to get her in bed. If the conversation's dying down but she's willing to go somewhere else with you, take her along and see what kind of physical/nonverbal mischief you can get up to.

Also, you will become a better interlocutor with time, focus, and experience. Doesn't happen overnight though. You need to talk to enough people to build a bank of interesting conversation topics to draw from.

Chase