Keeping Her Around

[Anonymous]

First off, just wanted to say hi, nice to meet you all! This is my first post on this forum, I'm excited to share my experiences with other like minded individuals interested in the social arts, and learn a lot along the way.

Secondly, I'm looking for some direction in how to approach this situation:

Met this really cute girl at a party the other night, we ended up sitting on the couch and talking for at least an hour (lost track of time after that). My arm was around her waist, her leg was over my one thigh, her hand was on the other, we were really close and had a good talk. Thing is I'm already seeing another girl though and it's going well, and I'm not one to date multiple girls at a time, so I didn't do anything with the one at the party. She eventually wandered off to talk to her friend after a few of my friends came up to us and started talking to me. I know I missed an escalation window and she started to see nothing was going to happen. I'm kinda bummed I wasn't able to act on it.

I want to keep her interested for if things go awry with the girl I'm with right now. Wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to go about telling her I did like her, just otherwise occupied at the moment...in a way that maintains her interest levels and kinda leaves things hanging so I can re-initiate some time in the future when I'm single again.

Any opinions are greatly appreciated
Good day sirs!

 

[Sly]

Although not specifically discussing how to keep girls around while in a relationship. Think the topic I just wrote about, is closely related to your question. Something to consider...

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=7&t=1498

 

[trashKENNUT]

Battery,

et this really cute girl at a party the other night, we ended up sitting on the couch and talking for at least an hour (lost track of time after that). My arm was around her waist, her leg was over my one thigh, her hand was on the other, we were really close and had a good talk. Thing is I'm already seeing another girl though and it's going well, and I'm not one to date multiple girls at a time, so I didn't do anything with the one at the party. She eventually wandered off to talk to her friend after a few of my friends came up to us and started talking to me. I know I missed an escalation window and she started to see nothing was going to happen. I'm kinda bummed I wasn't able to act on it.

I want to keep her interested for if things go awry with the girl I'm with right now. Wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to go about telling her I did like her, just otherwise occupied at the moment...in a way that maintains her interest levels and kinda leaves things hanging so I can re-initiate some time in the future when I'm single again.

there's a few things. I don't think you can really get her back.

First, you likely break circle when your friends came and talk to you, thus leaving her isolated, alone.
Second, you missed an escalation window where you could have probably take her somewhere and close the deal.
Third, She went into auto rejection, not easy to bring a girl out of that.

Not a good place to be, things happen.

Zac

 

[Altimeter]

I don't usually go around telling people to be loyal BUT if you're all that serious with your girlfriend it's not worth scarring her with a fling like that.
If you guys aren't all that serious it's alright but don't lay around with women if if you're gonna hurt someone badly. Break up with her if you want to have fun with others.

Also agree with Zac, it sounds like a girl that wanted to have fun at that time therefore I don't think you'd have success with her. Unless if you had left her with such a high mysteriously that you'd come right back and pick her up * like that but in this case, she was just chillin' with u and u could've gotten her if you moved n her right there